Feeling annoyed/disconnected from my aunt/uncle/cousins?

Question

Basically, I have an aunt (we'll call her Pauline), who is my mother's sister, an uncle by marriage (we'll ball him Keith), and they have an 18 year old daughter (Isobel) and a 16 year old son (Matthew).

Now what's upsetting me is, Isobel is really intelligent, but they're giving her no support or advice cos they wait and foot on Matthew, because he's male (and Keith's the typical male-of-the-species as some feminists would put it, and so the son comes first).

As such, Isobel's got a pointless qualification, a messed up social life and a dead end minimum wage job at a supermarket, instead of being a university student like she so could have been, and Matthew's grown into a spoiled, racist, homophobic man-child that takes a grudge against any one who has something he hasn't.

Now my mum is rapidly becoming Isobel's career guidance because she's realized what a mess she's in. It just really gets me down what state they're in and I feel like I'm going to drift apart from them permanently. What can I/we do?

Answer 1

Continue to support Isobel and ignore the stuff that is going on in your aunts and uncle life..don't get involved with them because it wont make any difference what you say , do, or think.

Answer 2

Help Isobel and pay no attention to what they chose to do.

As long as Isobel gets a chance to grow to her potential, the rest of their behavior is irrelevant.

Best wishes