Feeling anxious and nervous all the time.

Question

Its taken over my life for the past 9 years now and im sick of it. I dont socialize as much as i want to. I dont work because of it, i would have been a hairdresser now if it wasnt for this c**p. Im so sick of wasting my life, but even when i think , ok im going to get up and do this or that, it always holds me back and takes controle of me.

Ive been to 3 different councellors and am seeing a phycolygst on 15th sept, but i dont know how to get it across to them exactly how im feeling.

God why is life so cruel.

The thing that hurts the most is that i carnt even take my son (he 4) to partys, i can only go to night partys where i can get drunk and feel myself again.

Answer 1

Boy, do I feel your pain.  I lived like that for a long time.  I finally had an episode so bad my husband took me to the emergency room.  My doctor tried 3 different anti-depressants that turned me into a beast.  I quit taking those when I became too paranoid to even drive.  (I'm 43)  I've been taking valium for over a year, but the symptoms are so bad again that I've been trying to find a psychiatrist this morning.  You may need a psychiatrist or neurologist because they can prescribe medication.  Psychologist cannot; they are not MD's.  They will only talk to you about your problems and suggest alternatives to medication.  Good luck!  And wish me the same.

Answer 2

Tell the psychologist exactly what you just typed and be strong!! Im in the same boat with you, Are u currently taking medication to help it?  

Answer 3

i like to feel myself too, but anyways, you are taking the right steps. all you got to do is tell the doctor how you feel. you can go no problem it's the talking that is hard.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

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Answer 6

first off stop drinking. second you have an anxiety disorder. go seek help

Answer 7

i am exactly the same. i have to force myself to go out. i have 4 kids and it has taken over my life. contact me [e-mail]

maybe we could help each other get over this tough time

Answer 8

Hi, Im sorry to hear about the effect your anxiety is having on you. You say you've been to see counsellors and psychologists but dont mention if you've taken prescribed drugs. I'd recommend that you go to your doctor and be precise about how bad things are, there is probably medication that can take the edge of how you're feeling.

You could also try cognitive behavioural therapy, either through your doctor or privatly if you can afford it which can help you recognise and control unhelpful thought patterns.  There are lots of good cbt self help books out there too.

If you find it hard to get accross how you're feeling once you're in with a professional it might be helpful to use a small notebook to make notes of your feelings.  I suffer from depression and I know that on good days, it can often be hard to put into words how things feel when Im at my worst.

Perhaps you can look online and see if there are any mental health social/support groups in your area. You'll be able to meet people in similar situations in a "safe" environment where you're free to be yourself. It may help you to build the confidence to do other things and recieve tips from other people about how they cope with their anxiety.

I wish you good luck and hope you can start doing more of the things you want soon :)

Answer 9

I would avoid the medication. Counselors and psychologists will not help your anxiety. According to several recent studies I have read, the best help for anxiety is through a cognitive-behavioral therapist because they help you cope and work through your anxiety. Also, this book has helped me tremendously and I haven't used medication or a therapist because the book has been great.

http://www.amazon.com/Anxiety-Phobia-Wor...

Answer 10

the best way to deal with it is to do what you fear meaning go out push yourself as hard a sit can be you need to get over that fear it seems to have taken over your life don't let it when you think you can't do it push yourself you can do it.

Answer 11

I know this is really hard, but the only way that the anxiety gets better is if you do the things that scare you, I know it will be hard but force yourself to go out and do one thing each day that you are afraid of and yes,to start off with you will be really panicky but after the 3rd or fourth time of doing this, the anxiety will ease.  The more you try to avoid doing something, the worse that you build it up in your head.

Answer 12

Anxiety disorders can sometimes be helped with medications. Sometimes dietary changes can support your recovery. Eat as much fish as you can and inlcude whole grain bread and green leafy vegetables in your weekly diet. Also, try to work out (jump rope if you feel too anxious to go outside), yoga and stretch.  Sometimes repeating mantras of calm and comfort help also.  

Answer 13

you need to get to the root of your problem. be honest with yurself and with your Dr's, you have nothing to lose.

start taking things step by step. it sounds as if something in the past is still bothering you, and until u solve it, everything will be the same.

r u on any anti depressants? exercising is very good to take yor mind off things. dont be to hard on yourself and start thinking possitively.

only you can make things better 4 urself and your son. dont be embaressed to ask for help and get help for drinking as well.

Answer 14

You need to see a regular Doctor and get medication it saved my life. and drinking causes more problems-- you can go party at night?? but you can't take your son out during the day?? Life has choices and it sounds like you are using anything for an excuse sorry but you need to get a grip and take care of business and drinking is not the answer.

Answer 15

THE REASON THEIR ARE SO MANY DIFFERENT MEDS ON THE MARKET IS BECAUSE EACH ONE CONTAINS SMALL MOLECULAR DIFFERENCES WHICH CAN/WILL MATCH YOUR BRAIN'S CHEMISTRY. THEREFORE, YOU HAVE TO KEEP TRYING MEDS UNTIL YOU FIND ONE THAT WORKS...THERE IS ONE OUT THERE.....DRINKING GETS RID OF ANXIETY WHILE YOU ARE DRUNK...IT'S CALLED SELF-MEDICATING. HOWEVER, YOUR BRAIN BECOMES USED TO ALCOHOL WHICH DEPRESSES YOUR CNS WHICH IN TURN RELIEVES ANXIETY.... ONLY THE ANXIETY RETURNS WITH MORE POWER WHEN YOU ARE NOT DRUNK....THIS IS CALLED A SYMPTOM....THERE ARE A LOT OF PEOPLE WHO HAVE CHRONIC ANXIETY...YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM IS OFF WACK BECAUSE OF THE WAY YOU'VE RESPONDED & BEEN AFFECTED BY STIMULI/LIFE'S EVENTS...YOUR BRAIN HAS ''LEARNED'' TO PRODUCE ANXIETY AS A DEFENSE TOWARDS....LIFE BASICALLY....I'M IN THE SAME BOAT YOU ARE BUT YOU HAVE TO RECOGNIZE HOW YOU ARE FEELING AND ANALYZE YOUR INTERNAL ISSUES BECAUSE IT IS CAUSING YOU STRESS WHICH IN TURN IS KILLING YOU...IT A VERY COMMON THING WHAT YOU ARE GOING THORUGH AND SEEING SOMEONE TO TALK ABOUT YOUR PROBLEMS IS THERAPUTIC. DON'T FEEL ASHAMED..BE GLAD AND THINK ABOUT ALL THE PEOPLE IN THE WORLD LIKE US WHO ARE NOT TRYING TO GET HELP.....LIGHTEN UP...I'M IN THE SAME BOAT YOU ARE AND I'M ONLY 29...AND BEEN ON DIFFERENT MEDS SINCE I WAS 20 FOR CHRONIC ANXIETY.....AND IT FEELS MUCH WORSE ON THE INSIDE THAN IT ACTUALLY LOOKS TO OTHER PEOPLE ON THE OUTSIDE.....BELIEVE IT OR NOT....NO ONE COULD TELL THAT YOU ARE FREAKING OUT JUST BY LOOKING AT YOU...YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO CONTROL IT SO IT DOESN'T CONTROL YOU....GOOD LUCK AND REMEMBER THAT THERE ARE OTHERS LIKE YOU/US OUT THERE WHO KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL.....YOU'RE NOT CRAZY!!......NO OFFENSE BUT THERE ARE DOZENS OF MEDICATIONS OUT THERE FOR YOUR ANXIETY AND IN MY OPINION UNTIL YOU GET ON ONE AND GET REGULATED IT'S FOOLISH TO COMPLAIN SO MUCH ABOUT IT...IF YOU FEEL IT ONLY MAKES YOU WORSE THEN YOU OBVIOUSLY HAVEN'T FOUND WHAT WILL WORK SO ALL THE ADVICE AND COUNSELING WILL BE POINTLESS. ...YOUR BRAIN LACKS CERTAIN CHEMICALS WHICH IS WHY IT/YOU RESPOND TO EVENTS WITH ANXIETY...THE MEDS REPLACE THOSE CHEMICALS IN YOUR BRAIN...UGH!!!!

GO GET MEDICATED FOR CRYING OUT LOUD AND AFTER YOUR "FIXED" YOU WILL WONDER WHY YOU NEVER DID IT BEFORE....SORRY FOR SOUNDING MEAN...GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 16

i know exactly how you feel, email me

Answer 17

You need something for anxiety. I know what your feeling, I have these same symtoms, but alcohol is not what you need. Alcohol is a depressant.  

Answer 18

me too. i take medication and it helps. i have good days and bad days.

Answer 19

This is what I did to banish my demons and it worked so well that if I ever hear them I keep doing it. It's pain free and drug free and in the long run is good for you because you end up feeling on top of the world (Well it worked for my stress and anxiety) Here's what I did:-

I was so upset with negative emotion one day I stood in front of the mirror and looked at myself crying as if I was separate from my reflection. Then I said out loud what I was saying in my head like I hate you and you're fat and useless etc. Then I thought, I wouldn't talk to anyone else like that ie negatively, so why am I talking that way to myself. So I stood there and told myself stuff that I would tell a friend, like You could do with loosing some weight or you're not bad are you, I quite like you. There's nothing wrong with you. If you want to loose weight then bl**dy do it, don't just tell yourself you're useless etc.

I can't begin to tell you what a boost in my confidence that is. We can end up talking to ourselves in ways we would never talk to a stranger for fear of being slapped, so why talk to yourself that way? Only you can break the pattern and it really works. Now If I ever feel depressed I just turn to my mirror and air my negative views with myself.

Be your own counsellor and tell yourself what you really want to hear. You're lovely and don't let your conscience tell you otherwise. Life isn't cruel, your ego is. You and only you can control your own ego and thoughts. I'm so happy I feel like I've taken something lol!

Give it a try and if it doesn't work it hasn't cost you anything.