Feeling depressed about moving to University :(?

Question

I'm moving to university in september and i'm really worried, im leaving my girlfriend for 2 years, my family and life long friends, im moving about 6 hours away so its not asif i can pop home. I feel down every single day, its impossible to be happy unless im drinking, and because of that i now feel ill, i have no idea what to do with myself any more :( i dont feel ready to make this big step yet, i dont feel up to living alone but i will let everyone down if i dont go, besides, its only a week away and ive been trying to prepare for 8 months, i would be letting myself down if i dont go.

does anyone have personal experiences to share with me or advice on how i can lift myself up.

Answer 1

I went to uni 2 years ago and was pretty much in the same situation as you, I was 5 hours away and was very depressed about leaving so much so that I made myself ill, I wish I had taken a gap year, if you are really depressed then speak to your uni and take a gap year to see how you feel, ask your uni for a deferred entry.  There is no point being unhappy, research unis nearer home.  I think that a gap year has matured me, I worked in a playgroup and it really helped me work out what I wanted to do.  Im off to uni again this year but staying at home, so no homesickness!!  Good luck and I hope that helps, try not to worry, it doesn't matter how many gap years you take as long as you have enough money to live and your happy.

Answer 2

My experience is that these days, even students whose parents and friends are across the country stay in touch with them very well.  No, you probably can't pop home, but there are technologies to help you stay closely in touch, and you will be expanding your circles to add new potential friends.

I'm worried about the drinking, though.  It seems like you are relying on that to relieve stress, and it can easily get out of hand.  You could use some counseling at this point, since you seem to be depressed (there will be counselors at your university, if you don't have access to them at home), and think about finding other things, like exercise, to relieve stress.

Answer 3

Moving away from home, your friends and loved ones is difficult for everyone, especially if it is the first time. On the other hand it is the most exciting time of your life! Try and remember that everyone else at your new uni will be feeling the same and that you are not alone.

You can stay in touch with your gf and friends over the phone or via the internet. The whole experience of uni opens up your mind - you meet new people from all over and it essentially makes you reassess everything you stand for/believe in, which is a good thing! It broadens your horizons.

The more time I spent at uni the more distant I became from my friends at home. I realised that they were from a time and place and that it was time for me to move on and go forwards. After your first term at uni, you will dread coming home and 'putting up' with 'the parents'!!!!!!!!!!

You've already started drinking which is 'good practice' for the first weeks (year) of uni! Anyway stay positive and prepare to meet new people, whilst maintaining your home-town relationships.

Answer 4

why did you chose to move so far away if youre upset about it? but trust me...it may be sad at first, because you are leaving everything you know. i moved about 3 hours away when i went to college and knew nobody but my bitter ex boyfriend. and i ended up making so many friends and i actually ended up failing out and my dad made me stay in my hometown and go to community college and i actually rather be back in my college town than at home. which shows i thought the same thing as you, i was depressed and ended up having the time of my life there. you will meet amazing people. think about the positive things. you can always visit your girlfriend and family on holidays and long weekends. good luck buddy.

Answer 5

They don't have to live with the decision you make its you who has to live with it. If your not ready you have to go you can go in another 2 years or 5 years.

Good luck if you go :)

Answer 6

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