Feeling guilty, pregnant with 3rd boy.?

Question

I had my scan and was able to determine from it, the s*x of our baby. I have 2 sons, 4 and 7. I was secretly hoping for a female and when the technician said it was DEFINATELY a boy, I couldn't help feel a bit disappointed.

Is it wrong to feel this way?

I LOVE this baby and he was so gorgeous in the scan.

I'm not going to "keep trying" until I have a girl, because that seems unnatural. I'm so stoked I have two sons and another on the way.

I just feel guilty for being sad it was not a girl.

Is there something wrong with me? I'm not being selfish, I am SO grateful for my healthy children. I know my husband doesn't want more, so I know I'll never have a daughter. I just always pictured myself having a daughter.

Answer 1

Me and my wife wanted a girl with her third pregnancy but wound up having another boy. He makes us so happy that we wanted another boy so we now have four boys and no girls. I figured we would have a girl on the fourth one since we wanted a boy.:)

Answer 2

Im having my 20 week scan tomorow and hoping to find out the gender. I realy wanted a girl but have SUPER strong boy feelings...everyone i spoke to said i should just be thankfull that im having a baby and its healthy but that goes without saying!  The best way i delt with it was when i felt my baby kick and i realized that no matter what the gender is im going to love it as much as it will love me.

<3 plus think of the money you'll save in hand me downs!

Answer 3

not at all, i haven't had kids yet but i deffinatly want a girl. you're doign the right thing. you can't stop feelings. i really can't blame you for wanting a girl. but it's nothing to feel bad about. it's not like you'd love the him more if he was a boy. we have tot ake what life gives us and make the best of it. maybe you got another boy on purpose, suppose you had a girl and 15 years from now she was a wreck. everythign happens for a reason. and whats meant to be is always going to find a way.

congratulations ! & best of luck with everything !

goodbless you, your husband, & the boys ! <3

Answer 4

Please dont you feel Bad I am going through the same thing I am pregg with my second and i have 1 son (9 months)  and i wanted a girl so bad this time but im haveing a nother Boy i was so upset and depressed I didnt know what to think but I guess its ok Well good luck and i hope you have a healthy baby boy.

Answer 5

No there is nothing wrong with how you feel i have 4 boys.  I could have sworn from the difference in the last pregnancy it was a girl but the ultrasound tech said boy.  I cried I was so convinced you will get over being disappointed and you will be fine.  Besides i find my boys are easier to raise. Someone told me there are women meant to raise boys and women meant to raise girl it is in the makeup of the person

Answer 6

It's perfectly fine to feel this way. It's a natural reaction when you are wanting something and you don't get it. You said yourself that you love this baby so don't feel bad for a natural reaction.

Answer 7

well I don't know if this would be better or worse. But maybe one of your boys will be very effeminate.

Answer 8

just like a lot of guys what there boy well i think alot of us moms what that little girl to dress up and do mother daughter stuff with.  You can tell you are very happy.

Good luck and best wishes

Answer 9

It is normal to feel that way.  U have nothing to feel guilty about.  Congrats on the new addition.. u never know ur husbent just might change his mind and urs and u end up w/ ur little girl.

goodluck. and congrats again.

Answer 10

Its perfectly normal, 2 of my friends had this and were dissapointed at first, but by all means, their boys are a delight.

You get what you get for a reason, &you never know what might happen.

Of course you love the baby♥  = D

xo Amber.

Answer 11

Be patient. Right time will come. and please stop picturing that baby on your womb a girl. He will feel it. If the baby will be stress then you might regret the out come. please start loving your child now.

Answer 12

I'm in the same boat. I want a girl so bad and the thought of having a boy is definently a little disappointing. But as long as you love the child just as much as you would if he were a girl then it is ok.

Answer 13

When I had my scan I could tell right away that it was a girl and I was disappointed and I didn't feel guilty about it at all.  I wanted a boy because I feel like they are easier.  But that doesn't mean that I don't love my daughter.  Women need to stop feeling guilty about everything, we are only human and I can imagine if I had 2 boys I would be ready for a little girl also!

Answer 14

No don't feel bad...I have 3 girls and with the last one I think we were both a bit dissapointed. But now that she's here I wouldn't change her for a boy at all. I love having 3 girls and I know they will always be best of friends and I'm sure your sons will be too. Congrats and good luck!

Answer 15

no not all I think thats' normal..I am having a girl this is my 1st but I think if my 3rd was another girl i'd be kind of disappointed 2 just bc I would like a son for a change. don't feel guilty, you didn't do anything wrong. and who knows, your husband might change his mind one day, you never know,. but if not, life always has a way of balancing things out, for example: I never had a sister but I get to have a daughter to bond with. and my boyfriend's mom (my bf is the father) had 2 sons and always wanted a girl and now she's getting a grand daughter which she's happy about.

but every s*x ahs its perks; I mean girls you get to bond with do their hair shop with when theyre grown etc but boys protect you when theyre older, and now youll have 3 to protect you! that is why someday i would maybe like a boy too.

Answer 16

no it is perfectly normal for u to feel that way and i am sure u love ur baby boy!

Answer 17

It is perfectly normal.  I went thru the same thing, except the opposite.  I was pregnant with twins (and I had a 3 yo daughter) and swore up and down that I was having a boy and a girl.  It was my gut feeling.  I had an amniocentesis and found out they were both girls.  I was so depressed.  The minute they were born though it all faded.  Now I cant imagine my life without them (or imagine actually having a boy).

Just think of it is this way .. You get the chance to raise 3 boys into becoming amazing husbands one day that love and respect woman.  That will be greatly appreciated by your daughter in laws.

Answer 18

It's fine to feel that way, as long as you are still excited about having a boy, which you say you are. If it makes you feel any better, odds are you will have granddaughters to spoil when the time comes.

Answer 19

Welcome to my world.   my boys were the same age when I found out that my thrid child would also be a boy.... I cried that whole day and then a little tune ran through my head.... it was the tune to MY 3 SONS  tv show.....  It took a moment and I started to laugh.... What eles could I do???

My boys are now 19   15  and 12... Would not change anything... I did not keep trying so i never got that girl... Oh well.. Maybe God knew that I would be better with boys than with a girl... I don't know but I can tell you this.   They are fun... When they were little I used to call them SON #1 SON #2 AND SON #3.   they used to line up and salute me... people thought it was funny....

Cry now...get it out of your system ..... and then wake and realize the hand me down potential