Feeling heartbroken...how to get over him.?

Question

Yesterday I broke up with my boyfriend of almost 2 years. Its because he is in college now, and Im still in high school. It just wasnt working out we never saw eachother, or had time to talk. The bad part is, we both knew it was comming, yet still tried to work it out. But I just had to end it because I would only end up hurting more in the end.

We still love eachother, which is why this break up is extremly hard. We are going to be friends, that is for sure...maybe not by today or tomorrow, but eventually I will be able to be friends with him.

The trouble is, I just want the heartbrake and pain to end. Any tips on how to get over your first love?

Answer 1

It will only hurt for as long as you think that you've lost something. Try thinking of this situation in the terms of the experiences you've gained though being with him, and smile ;)

Answer 2

both of you would've been miserable if you stayed together, so you did the right thing and made the right choice so that both of you would become much happier and thats all that anyone could ever ask for ;)

Answer 3

IceCream.

Talk to Close friends

Dont talk to him for a little

Answer 4

I know what you mean.

It's SO hard.

I was never "in love", but a guy and I had a thing for each other for about a year, and it was AMAZING, cause he cared about me and made me smile all the time.

But then all the sudden he just stopped liking me, and that was that.

And it really hit me hard.

So I've kinda experienced the same thing.

I still try to stay close to him, cause what we had was such a good friendship, and I didn't want to lose that.

So you two (if you want to) should stay in touch, since what you guys had was so special.

BUT, if you want to completely forget about him, start focusing more on yourself for now. Not in a selfish way, but just say "What makes me happy?"

and do the stuff that you enjoy, & that will help take your mind off him.

Oh and listening to good music is definitely helpful too:)

Check out The Maine, if you haven't heard of them already..

they always pump me up when I'm feeling down.

Answer 5

I asked that same question 34 years ago when my first love dumped me.  I despised the answer people gave me:  get another girlfriend.  I hated that answer because it implied that all I needed was a girl, and so there wasn't anything special about the girl I had loved.  I resisted that advice out of principle.  Now I've been an adult for over 3 decades, and I can confidently tell you 1) getting another boyfriend will help you get over the hurt much more quickly than ANYTHING else, and 2) each one is special, and getting a new boyfriend right away does not diminish or cheaper the feelings that you had / have for your college friend.

Answer 6

move on ... find other things to do ... do not think about him at all..

it will heal eventually and you will find another love as well.

Answer 7

i dont know why i should answer nicely since you did

but i can rise above that

Days 1-4:

Give yourself permission to feel like c**p. Wear oversized sweatshirts. Sleep in. Eat junk food. Scream at the television. Throw things. Burn things. Cry like a five-year-old.

Day 5:

Get mad. Write an angry letter. Fill it with every ugly word you can think of. Say everything you want to say. And then perfect it. When you read it out loud, you want it to sound like a brilliant piece from some brilliant movie. Once it's done, press print. Sign your name. Fold the letter. Stick it in an envelope. Seal it. Write his/her name on the front and then toss it in a fire.

Day 6-7:

Just zen. Listen to good music. Take long runs. Eat good food. Soak in the bathtub. Cry. Paint. Read. Write. Search for quotes that make you happy... Just all things simple and wonderful.

Day 8:

Force yourself to get out of bed, to wear normal clothes, to drink tons of ice water, to go out with friends even when it's the last thing you want to do... allow yourself to indulge in chocolate. Flirt for fun even if you're not interested — it'll make you feel attractive. Get a new haircut or do something new to feel new.

Practicing good manners in social situations is simple. Why wouldn't you want to do something designed to make interacting with people at school or work easier for everyone involved? Try doing these the next time you're meeting a new person or having a heart-to-heart with a friend:

Look them in the eye. It shows that you're confident and that you care about what the other person is talking about, too!

Slow down. Take the time to actually listen to what the other person has to say.

Ask questions. No need to be nosy, but showing interest in others will make them more comfortable opening up.

Smile! No one wants to talk to the girl sitting in the corner scowling.

It's like what they teach you in kindergarten: be nice to others and they’ll want to be nice

to you!

hope this helps=]

Answer 8

Hi,

Usually people never get over their first love, but they still move on.  The only way the heartbreak feeling will end is with time.  There is nothing you could do now except live on and try smiling.

I am sure you two will continue to be friends one day and even boyfriend and girlfriend again if you do meet each other later.  College is a place of change, I'm sorry to say but anything high school just gets boring in that first year of college.

Hey, think of it this way.....  You are feeling what billions of people felt for thousands of years.  It's a part of life.

The pain WILL end, I Promise you.............. just give it time.

Answer 9

The only one thing on the planet that cures a broken heart is time. Nothing else will do it if you were truly in love.

Answer 10

go get the book "it's called a breakup because it's broken" that book will do wonders for you. trust me

Answer 11

um sweetheart.

thats the lamest reason to ever break up with a guy.

my best girlfriend is dating a guy who lives in a different country, two time zones away! she struggles, but they LOVE eachother, so grow up darling, because  you sound dumb.

Answer 12

thats got to be the dumbest reason to break-up with some one if you "love" him and he "loves" you then there should be no problem being together i was in a different country when i met my wife we stayed together for 5 years before we got to live together now we are happily married i think us being apart in that way helped us be more together now i came and visited her and she went and visited me when we saw each other the time away from each other was worth it i knew she was truthful and loyal to me as i was to her plus in this day and age you can see him every day with a web cam and what not

the only reason for this happening is either you already have some one in your eyes as a possible next one or he does and if that is the case then i hope you stop being so immature about it and go for it life is not going to wait for you to get over a pain

its like when my uncle died my aunt cried and cried for weeks but then did we all find out she was cheating on him and was still seeing the woman after his death good for her but no need for the drama if you got some one else already get it going if not stop letting your self suffer there is to much in the world of that already  

Answer 13

eat ice cream :)

Answer 14

Have you ever seen the movie, American Graffiti?  If you haven't you ought to.  This is exactly what happened in the movie that has happened to you...but it takes place in 1964, and its a cute movie, probably will make you cry...but that is not why I am responding here...

What I want to tell you is that what has happened is a very common experience in life.  You are not alone.  There are a lot of young ladies out there who are crying cause their boyfriend went to college and left them behind.  But just think of it this way, if he doesn't go to college, how will he have a chance for real success?

Now, I will tell you what will happen (as I have been through all this before and I have 3 college degrees...).  He is going to get to school and he is going to meet another girl, and then another and then another.  Its inevitable.  He won't be able to avoid it since the school probably has a lot of chicks there...plus there are tons of parties, frats and sororities, and then all the classroom contact...not to mention just meeting somebody in the student union or even when you are walking between classes.  So the fact is, he is going to date other girls and probably, he is going to find someone else.  Now, I know this hurts for me to tell you this, but its better that you see the plain fact, he is gone and gonna find someone else most likely and you are going to have to do the same.  

And the sooner you get out there and start dating other guys, the sooner its gonna stop hurting.  HEY!  Who knows, maybe you are gonna find a better guy for yourself.  Maybe you are going to find the RIGHT guy for yourself!  Maybe you are gonna find the ONLY guy for yourself...but you won't be able to if you don't just DO IT.  The last thing you want to do is sit around broken hearted over the guy that just went to college, because, take it from me...he IS going to find another girl and he IS going to date her and probably get involved with her.

The best thing you can do, is try to remain friends, but don't sit around and mope...get going, go with some other girlfriends and go out and date, go to some parties, meet other guys...its the only way to get over it.