Feeling like a crazy mom ....?

Question

I just gave birth to a baby boy and since he was born he's had issues with eating. He was throwing up, showed no interest in eating and was not gaining weight. My doctor suspected acid reflux and ordered an x-ray. Well, the x-ray confirmed the reflux--they also found out that my son has malrotation of the intestine. This means his intestines are flipped--appendix on the opposite side and everything. This in itself is not dangerous, but it often leads to some fatal conditions rather easily. It is also often coupled with other defects as well.

My peditrician didn't seem concerned about it and told us not to bother going to a specialist. However, I want to take him to a specialist now, just to see what we are dealing with and to make sure my baby is ok. I feel like he is not getting better just on the acid reflux meds...

When I called today for a referral, the woman there made me feel weird for even asking to go to a specialist--like I didn't trust their opinion. I tried to explain myself, but I feel I shouldn't HAVE to...I'm his mother!!!

Anyways, now I am feeling maybe I am being too worried--like a hypochondriac mom or something. I've always had problems being assertive, and now I feel crazy for asking to see a specialist :(

Answer 1

you do what you have to in order to help your baby. You are being a good mom. Just keep on doing what you are doing. Who cares what she thinks? She's stupid receptionist.  

Answer 2

no trust me your fine....i'd probably react the same way.....that would scare me and i;d want to know more about the condition.  

Answer 3

Don't think that!!!! You are a great mother for wanting answers and wanting to make sure your baby is going to be perfectly fine. There is NOTHING wrong with that. I would have told the lady look, I want a specialist now, dont give me grief or make me feel stupid for even asking. This is my Baby , not yours , I PAY YOU! If you have questions about your baby's condition, dont feel like you should keep quiet ...So don't feel the way you do , I wouldn't . If they continue to treat you like that, then its time to find a new DR, cus all DR's should know that when it comes to our kids we want nothing but the best.

Good Luck, and God Bless.  

Answer 4

It has been my experience that many doctors suffer from

know-it-all-ites. But unfortunately they do not. I would highly recommend that you see a specialist. Either the specialist confirms your doctors diagnosis or not. It will not hurt you, your child or the doctor to get a second opinion or maybe even a third. It is your child's health and since your doctor is not doing what you feel is the right thing, I would recommend you see another doctor in the future. Doctors that believe they are correct all the time are dangerous.

Answer 5

No your being a good mom. you want to see want to be dealing with and you would know want to do. You have the right to ask to see a specialist. I know I would ask my child doctor if my child had something like that.

Answer 6

It is your every right as a patient...and a patients mother to ask for a second opinion..if you are not satisfied with the first.  That is your child, and I do not think any doctor that had a child going through what your child's going through, would just say reflux..and that is that.  My baby when he was one month sounded funny when he breathed, almost like a gurgle.  I brought him in last August, because I was concerned, he was only couple weeks.  They said it was reflux, put him on meds, didn't get better.  Put him on breathing treatments..did not get better.  They kept going back to the reflux thing.  Finally around December I freaked out on the doctor, and told her if she cannot find out what is wrong with my child, I will find a doctor that will.  She referred me to a pulmonary specialist..and come to find out..at the beginning of July this year, he had a procedure done, he has tracheamalaysia and bronchiomalaysia, which could lead to respiratory distress in a baby with a bad cold.  Now we know what it is, we know how to control it.  But, the fact of the matter (and why I told you my story) is never give up...there is nothing better than a mothers instinct.  That is your child, and the doctor should respect your wishes and find out the cause, or at least give you more info. on what they think is wrong so you can research it through the internet.  Document all the times you have taken your child to see the doctor re: his problems and the times you called and didn't get the answers you are looking for.  Our job as parents is to protect our little ones, they can't do it themselves.  Good luck and many Blessing for you and your little one.

Answer 7

If I was in your situation I would do the same thing!  I wouldn't care what one doctor says, that's your baby and even if the other doc says the same thing at least you made sure instead of thinking everything's ok and something happening!  

When it comes to the health of your child it's way better to be overly concerned and make SURE.  You are NOT crazy!  You're doing the right thing.  You don't have to explain yourself to anyone.  If they don't like it or understand, who cares.  It's not their business.  He's your baby and you know what's best!