Feeling sad and depressed after having baby?

Question

I just had my little girl and I love her so much, but I am feeling depressed because I think that my family and friends don't care about her or like her as much as my first daughter. My first daughter was spoiled and she got everything and so much attention. I even had three babyshowers for her. With this new baby girl, I haven't really received any congratulations from friends nor did I receive a babyshower. I feel horrible. I feel so sad. Anyone out there dealing with similar issues or who has dealt with this issue?

Answer 1

it's ok to feel a little sad but if you get to the point where you can't get yourself to go anywhere you need to tell someone.  

Answer 2

Okay here is a reality check. After having a baby, you should enjoy it.  Your life is no worse than anybody Else's. Some people have lost people in they're lives, are going through poverty and your sad because nobody congratulated you on having another baby. You should be happy your daughter is healthy

Answer 3

just think that everything will be fine, maybe the reason people celebrated so much for your first child was because she was the first child you had and people wanted to support you and now that you have experience with those kind of things people feel they dont really have to help you, thats what i think anyway....hope this helps.

Answer 4

Normal

Answer 5

Your friends and family are being jerks. You need to go to them and ask them why they're being this way. Tell them it really hurts you. Talk to them. Maybe they will understand. If they don't then you just need to tell them that if they're gonna be that way then they just need to stay away from you and your kids until they can be nicer. And in the meantime, get some more friends. Maybe they will make you feel better.

Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

Yes, been there, done that. It's your hormones readjusting as well. It is normal to have such a tough time with your emotions after giving birth. My husbands family were appalled when I said I was having a baby shower for my 2nd child. I had to have one, I had a girl the 1st time and this time I was having a boy, not to mention I gave away all my baby stuff to a relative who was having a girl. They said to me, "We don't have more than one baby shower in this family" Like to say I was greedy or something. You're not alone. His family still treats me and my son like we are outsiders. They are mental!!!!Enjoy your baby, and don't give them any attention. Your child needs you and your undivided attention, and your other child needs you too, so don't waste your energy or time worrying about other people and their personal problems with you and your kids.

Answer 7

Well I think you feel sad because you're disappointed.

You probably expected  the same jubilation for your second daughter as your first one and  the thrill didn't measure up .

I don't think you have a major reason to be sad unless it's serious like post partum depression and you want to hurt your kids .

Celebrate and go be a mommy !!

Answer 8

Maybe is because you already had one before, and people is not as excited as your first child than your second.