Feeling that i have just a good time not a great time what can i do?

Question

hey..maybe you are going to find my question a little bit stupid...but i need some help...the thing i worry about is...that the last months i don't feel that i have totally a great time...i have this strange feeling..i have friends...we are hanging out almost every day-i don't have a boyfriend and i don't care so much about boys this period...well however when i am thinking what crazy and great thing we are doing with my friends i said to myself "you are stupid"..well...i don't know why..maybe my friends are not the perfect for me...maybe they are different or perhaps i have changed...i feel that i don't have a great time i have a good time...that's the general overview of the whole summer...maybe its just a thought...have you ever felt this way?that you are asking yourself why you don't have a great time??huh?what can i do??i am 16

Answer 1

you are finding your friends and the activities that you do with them getting less great and now it's just good. this is the effect to maturity. since you are already 16 and going to 17 your feelings and thoughts towards your responsibility is developing unconsciously, while your feelings and thoughts in having fun with your friends is decreasing because of your developing maturity towards your responsibilities. to tell you the truth you will start finding that focusing more on your responsibilities will give you more satisfaction. older people like 17 and 18 yrs old find social conversation contenting and a great time for fun but, younger people like 15 find that doing some activity is more enjoying than having a social conversation. fitting with your friends is alright even though they are younger or older than you since you told that it you feel good going out with them. at this time, you should look at what is ahead of you and be more serious on your responsibilities but, also go have fun with your friends. at this age, now you should place everything into balance. great time can be found in many ways.

your welcome : )

Answer 2

I can absolutely relate to what you are saying because I was like you when I was younger. I am sure you are maturing at a faster rate than your peers. You are probably also needing more space than they do as well.

You can only "ride the storm" so to speak - accept that you are growing away from them and move on to find other things and people which are more in harmony with you. You could consider volunteer work, part-time, a few hours per week somewhere, maybe.

Best wishes. UK