Feelings for a co-worker...?

Question

I started at a new job several months ago and one of the physicians I work with is quite attractive. We're similar in age, background, interests etc... We get along smashingly and flirt like crazy (I'm just a flirty person anyway so that's nothing unusual) but I've found myself increasingly attracted to him over the past several months. I'm in a committed relationship and have not nor will I do anything to violate that relationship/trust... but I think about this man all the time. I can't get him out of my head. I just want to make it stop but every time I have to work with him or he asks me for something I get all flustered and bothered.

My question is this- What can I do to get this guy out of my head? I'm just so fixated- and I feel like if I can break the trance then I can move on. In the meantime I spend a lot of my time day dreaming. Also, this man touches me frequently- not in a creepy violating kind of way, but you know a gentle hand on the small of my back as we're walking down the hall or small hugs here or there... I rather enjoy our affection but worry I'm being a bad partner or like I should ask him to not touch me so I'm not tempted to touch him back (which I generally don't). I can't leave this job as I've only really just started there and gave the partners a two year promise...

What would you do? Thoughts?

Answer 1

you have to ignore him..the only way to get over someone is to leave them alone and not see them.

Enless you want to get to gether after work as FRIENDS a couple a times and you realize you do want to pursue this.

p.s-i dont find your doing anything wrong

but still your partner might get jealous

Answer 2

even though you may be in a committed relationship the fact that you can not stop thinking about this other man, you get along with him very well, he is very successful, all of these thing are turn ons for you. you need to weigh your options. the reason that you are feeling like this could be because you are "bored" with your relationship. that you love this person but simply are not in love with them anymore. it could be because it is a new males attention and you said your flirty so maybe you like the attention.

you should make a list of pros and cons of both men and both relationships and or possible relationships. after you make the list look at it for a few minutes then crinkle it up and throw it away and follow your heart and bypass your brain.

good luck