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Feelings for a married co-worker?

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I slept in the same bed as my married co-worker some time ago after a night of partying - nothing happened - my choice. Since then I have developed strong feelings for him - I haven't felt this way about a man in 20 years. Our friendship has been strictly platonic, but I feel a lot of chemistry between us. Should I pursue this?

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  1. i think u should talk to him and maybe he feels the same way cus maybe he doesnt like his wife anymore?


  2. not if he is married.  Sorry but you need to back off.  Unless he leaves his wife you should not attempt to break up a marriage.

  3. no. hes married. think about how his poor wife would feel, its immoral and altogether wrong.

  4. I just have to ask how would you feel if your husband slept in the bed with another woman and did not have s*x by her choice? This is someones husband and it is just wrong to have chemistry for him. Take it from me i have seen this lots of times Girl falls for woman's husband girl realizes some time later that she doesn't like guy and then its too late shes already sleeping with him or knocked up. Do us all a favor and feel a lot of chemistry for someone who can feel it for you.

  5. Are you f*cking kidding me?!

    h**l no, this man is married, and his wife will go ballistic.

  6. No he's married...if you do and he leaves his wife for you because it was fun...how long before you are no longer fun and he finds someone else.

  7. I think it would be a wild adventure! But you do have to consider his current situation - he is still married, and continue to stay married. That means if he doesn't split with her you are going to be second, always. I do not think that would make me feel good. Maybe if you keep it casual and see how it goes without falling completely head over heels for him it would be better. The s*x could be awesome though, if  he is bored with his wife. But  if he is considering leaving his wife for you then it could be a win win situation. But I do not want you to get hurt. See how his feelings are toward you.

    Good luck!

  8. Really?  You know the answer to this.  He is married.  Back the ef off.  If you seriously lack this much respect for yourself, him, his wife and any children he may have I suggest you find a therapist.

  9. uhmm. no. duh. considering he is MARRIED! and if he has kids that is strictly a NO. you could ruin their lives. and they would hate you for it. he is married to this woman out of his own choice because he wants to be with HER. dont wreck their marriage because he got drunk and screwed up. then it will be your fault for pursuing it. put yourself in her position. and DONT DO IT.  

  10. Stop and think about his wife and put yourself in her shoes.  I have been cheated on and it is something very difficult to get over.  You should not pursue the relationship.  Keep it platonic.

  11. no, just concentrate on finding a great single man who you can marry!!

  12. nope.  he's married. find your own man.

  13. NOOOOOOO  NO, NO, No..........Not!!!!!!!!  Leave it alone!!!!  Once he is single and you feel the same way ...then OK.............but, now, don't destroy your life and his...........please don't ...........there are soooooo many other ways for you..........you still have your life in front of you........

    Please take leave of your "crazy" thoughts.................!!!!!!!!!!


  14. no, and maybe so feelings dont interfer you should stop working with the guy, im not saying quit but maybe try not to work around him.

  15. nah find a smokin babe that will make them jelous i do it all the time ;D

  16. NO!    STAY AWAY!

  17. I don't think you should!  He is married and it is not right on so many levels.  

    Is he showing any signs of wanting you?  If so, tell him that in order to pursue them he has to leave his wife first (separation), if he thinks there is a possibility of turning into something serious.  He will respect you more for it, trust me.  

  18. Everything you do has a price, every pain you cause has consecuences, are you willing to destroy a family over lust? I am still one of those that think that when you do the right thing you invite blessings in to your life, If you move away from this man who is "taken" life will bring forth someone willing to be with you and you alone, I have seen it! DO not cause this woman pain, do not let yourself be this man's "Variety", do not fall in this terrible trap, number one he is a co-worker, imagine the relationship once the affair ends, how will it feel, also imagine his wife finds out and full or rage and pain makes a scene at your job how will this make you feel, what about people that respect you, how will you look in their eyes as a "Home breaker", you have to take a hold of yourself and avoid this man, try finding someone else without all this drama, you are worth more than a simple booty call.

  19. Marriage is sacred.  Please respect that and keep as far from that kind of relationship as possible.  

  20. No.  If you can't push the thoughts out of your mind, then find another job.  Think about what you would be doing to his wife.. and do they have children?

    What do you mean it was your choice?  Did he try something?

    If he would do that to his wife, he would do it to you too! Don't fool yourself!

    I believe that your feelings for him are valid.  But feelings don't make something right.  Just because it "feels" like it's meant to be doesn't mean that it is.  It sucks, but it's the hard reality.  Sorry.

  21. How 'bout this: you go to another party and fall in bed with someone who's actually single? Maybe you will feel even stronger lust/passion/whatever you didn't feel in 20 years. Seriously, you know the answer - that dude is married. Ew... Leftovers from other woman's table.  

  22. If he looks like John F. Kennedy Jr. I say go for it.

  23. no dont. it is better if you dont. trust me the consequences will be dier for the both of you

  24. Ask yourself what's the "purpose"? Is it that deep down inside you want to "sleep" with the married man because of the excitement/thrill of knowing it is wrong? I don't think it is chemistry. I think it is human nature....strong desire to want what is off limits. Once you sleep with him a few times, your desire will be gone and you have gained zero! Besides, it is never a good idea to sleep with co-workers. When and if the relationship fails both of you will feel awkward, foolish and sometimes bitter.

  25. I think that you better be using your head instead of your emotions when it comes to that.

    I don't suggest it, number one, home wreckers are deep frowned upon and it really gives you a bad lable. Number two.......how would you feel if you were married and another woman took your husband away from you??

    It sounds like you are very lonely especially since you haven't felt this way about someone in a long time. Your emotions are taking a toll on you and causing you to want to make some very seriously bad choices.

    You need to get out and start mingling. Find activities in your area or even close to your area where singles hang out. Don't be getting involved with a married man, it will create so much heartbreak and sorrow and in the end everyone loses out.

  26. co-worker ? ew!

    that's trouble

  27. hes married. you shouldnt even have a thought about that. dont skrew things up for him.

  28. No you should definitely not pursue him. This is what is wrong with marriages now. I'm not at all bashing you but, people who pursue married people don't respect marriages. You should look at him and say in your mind HE IS OFF LIMITS!!!! If he really wants to be with you,he will come to his wife and spend the necessary time to get a divorce. If he can't do that, then all you will end up with is mixed emotions and a mess. Remember to never be the cause of someone's relationship falling apart, you wouldn't want someone to pursue your husband, so don't do it to someone else's. Respect yourself and don't be a homewrecker cuz it will come back to bite you.

  29. No. It's wrong and they never leave their wife and you end up with a broken heart and still have to see him every day, but I bet you don't listen to this and go and do it anyways.

  30. If he's married...NO. If you choose too pursue it, are you really ready to deal with the consequences of it? I say, keep him as a friend...and if him and his wife decide things aren't working out...then go for it :)

  31. Oh my god, please don't. First of all what the h**l was a married man sleeping with another woman? Second of all think of his wife, do you really want to be the cause of a marriage to break up? Does he have kids, how many years has he been married?
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