Females, I need your Help Please..?

Question

In May of this year, my GF of 1.5 years broke up with me. Her reason was, "she was not IN LOVE with me anymore and didn't feel the romantic attraction/passion we had. This hit me hard. We were literally best friends and lovers and confided in each other and did everything together. Over the past few months I have done my best to give her tons of space b/c I know thats what she wants. She would occasionally call/text and when I would follow up she would back away again. I finally made the decision to not contact her at all. My friends said when your out of her life for good it will hit her hard that your not there waiting around and will begin to think of the good times. Problem is, tonight she drove past me, then called me and wanted me to stop and see her new dog, so I did and ended up eating together. I miss her alot. I know I was "there too much for her" and I expected at some point for her to reach out but she hasn't. Should I not even answer her calls? I dont know what to do now..

Answer 1

Look, she likes you, but is over you.  Teenage relationships are to learn, gain knowledge and experience with others, whether it be friendship or a romance.

    The chances, it would have gone on to anything else, are almost the same odds as winning a lottery !

     Get her out of your life completely, if you have problems getting over her, your only torturing yourself otherwise.

      Believe me, you will get over her, but if she is your first love, you will always remember her fondly. You just won't feel the same once you get into other relationships. In the yrs to come, you "will" look back and wonder why you ever thought you were in love, i know because we have "all" had a first love.

Answer 2

wow, my friend has almost the same situation as you? lol

anyways, that must have really been a smack in the face. you must have been pretty upset. i'm sorry you had to deal with such a 'caught off-guard situation like that ya know? =(

and her txting you and everything is deffinetly going to mess with your head. so first things first, when she txts you.. wait a while. a day even. just ignore the txt and move on.

if she sends it again, or txts you the next day, give her in one word answers. if she says somethin like "hey, whats up?" just say "nothin. you?" "how are you?" "fine. wbu?" and thats it.  those are the kindof answers you should stick with for a while.

your short answers will make her wonder what your thinking about. it will drive her CRAZY! lol she said she wanted space, so give it to her. i mean a lot of space! next time you see her, give her a quick smile and then continue what you were doing like it didnt phase you. she will know she made a horrible mistake by then if she really does love you. she'll txt you more and more and you'll soon see that it will make her want to actually cling onto you. she'll feel like your moving on, and i doubt that is what she wants.

and if it is, you have to accept it. it sucks, i know! but its life, somethings things just dont work out... and you have to just keep going.

ps; next time, don't call her right after you see her. you're showing her you still NEED to have her in your life. i know thats probably a true statement, and you really DO need her. but you cant show it.. you know what i mean?

GOOD LUCK, hope everything works out! i know it will =)

Answer 3

I would tell her that breaking up was difficult for you and it may be best not to get in touch with you because it 'messes' you up.

Answer 4

if u miss her let her know that u do let her know how u feel. if u just stop talking to her she will move on for good it yall stay in touch maybe she will realize she misses u to

Answer 5

Are you crazy??? Answer her calls. She still wants you. Give her some space. Show interest in the mutt. Keep in mind that she did NOT call someone else to come over and eat and see her dog...she called YOU. It's still there. Try to reingnite the passion with her. Talk to her....woooo!!! ya I know. You'll have to find out why the passion went out and what you can do to correct it. Ask her if she wants to go skinny dipping at night somewhere.....like a pool or a lake, somewhere private. Get creative. Get talking...sounds like she is worth it.