Feminists, can you tell us about your personal experiences of been unfairly labeled a s*** and a w****?

Question

while the male involved was patted on the back and admired?

Answer 1

I don't worry if people think I'm S****y.  

I have s*x with whomever I like whenever I like.  If someone has a problem with that, it's just that, THEIR PROBLEM.

I will tell you from personal experience that as I white woman who has dated black men I got negative reactions.  My good white male friend dated a black girl and didn't get negative reactions.  This is a long standing tradition in The South (Memphis)  but I don' let racism have any say on my decisions.  Engaging with such people is a waste of time.

Answer 2

Hmm... ironically .... I was labeled a slu7 in HS by GIRLS because I  looked sweeter than Helen of Troy.  So, envy there...

But, I see what you mean.  Yes, one time a guy said that I shagged guys in my car at the club I went to (which was 1% true).  But, I didn't get mad.  I got even.  Once at a party while his new wife and family was present I asked him... "Gaby... (that was his name)... I heard you said such and such about me... and I just could not believe that a nice, well brought up young man such as yourself would say such things..." etc. etc.  Of course he denied ever saying the S**t he did say, his new wife turned red in the face... and I just smiled and wished them all a good night - like I really meant it.

I am so full of S**t sometimes, I swear.

Answer 3

Ha oh man, I'm sure they've been dying for someone to ask this question.

Answer 4

I am not easily brainwashed by a guy. I do not have any experiences as being called a sl*t or wh*re because all the guys I know, know thar is not true.

Answer 5

Dunno if it counts but when I started dating a friend's brother, she called me a w***e and never said a word to him about her feelings, but she didn't go so far as to pat him on the back.

Answer 6

I've only ever had one partner, my husband but my Mother is very e,marassing and says I'm a s**t, even in public. The people around look in horror, and I cringe and tell her that she doesn't know what the meaning is. She thinks that a s**t is someone that is very untidy, like a slob (regarding not being arsed to tidy up). It's very embrassing!

Answer 7

I've never had one, but I'll tell you about one I saw know of. The guy (Alex) and the girl (Raquel) had just broken up. Within about a day, Alex had asked for the phone numbers of two girls and was flirting with them both at the same time. Raquel, meanwhile, accepted a date with some random guy. They all ended up at the same concert, where Alex saw Raquel with the other guy and called her a s__t, loud enough so she could hear him.

Answer 8

No, I don't hang around with people that act like immature 14 year olds :-)

Answer 9

Um, yeah.  And no, I haven't been dying to be asked this question, because it was quite an upsetting experience.

My husband and I were at a neighbourhood pub when a group of workmen came in.  They started chatting with us, and one of the guys jokingly asked my husband how much he would charge to "rent" me out for the night.  My husband just laughed and said I wasn't for sale, and we thought that was that.

Unfortunately, something (I don't know what) about that REALLY pissed off the foreman of the workers.  He called me a "two-bit w***e" and accused me of trying to "distract" his men, which was odd, because I hadn't even spoken to them.  I just laughed at him, but he got more and more belligerent.  A few of the workmen high-fived him for his behaviour.  I left, but my husband stayed to finish his drink.  He proceeded to try to pick a fight with my husband--literally begging my husband to hit him--until the bartender threw him out.

I don't know, maybe he was jealous.