The friend is my best friend and she is great and I don't want it to look like I'm bitching about her and so on because I'm not..I just feel hurt and confused by some of her actions, and not sure what to do.
1. She sometimes looks down on me, like in video games she thinks she's better because she plays them more than me, tatse in music, she claims to have found all of these bands before me and there for without her I would have no taste in music, confuses me too, she thinks she's a better drawer than me, not directly but I pick up on her hints. It's just genral things like that, like she's in competition with me and I just don't see the point because I don't want to out do her.
2. She has an online friend, they've never met and have only known each other for a few months, but they pretend to be sisters and this person seems to come before me in everything on best friends terms. This person has lied to her before, a few times on quite important things, and I'm supsicous about a few of the situations this person gets into, like an abusive boyfriend who was about to kill her and suddenly dissapeared. Strange isn't it. I've never lied to her. And I'm hurt that even though she knows who I am and can trust me not to lie to her, she rates this person who she's never met before and has lied to her higher than me.
3. About this person, my friend is planning to see go see her on her own, without letting her parents knowing. She will have to go to another country. I'm not sure if this is going to happen but I think it's goes beyond common sense on stupidity and I am scared what will happen if she does. Oh and this peron who is older by a couple of years and there for allowed to come here insisted she go there. What do I do to stop her? Plus she's expects me to lie for her if her parents ask me where she's gone and I don't want to get involed.
4. She thinks she's more popular than me because she has more online friends. I don't mind adding them but only reallly because I'll never meet them and it's fun to talk online but I'm still careful. She adds anyone who she meets, did I mention this person was met online.
5. We're both 14, and I thought it was just good sense to shower every day so on, I do, I hate not showering because I love feeling clean. And I know some people hate it and try to avoid it but they normally do anyway. It's just she doesn't seem to care how she looks or smells that much, she'll leave it as long as she can and normally her mom has to make her in the end. At 14 isn't that just lazyness and not thinking what others think. Plus she's started her periods and I thought she'd make an effort at least then but still no. She's smells gross when she on and I think a few other friends have noticed too but won't say.
How can i get my point across, I haved tryed talking directly to her but she's extremely stubborn and won't listen. Plus I hate doing things like that. It's like we're complete oppisites, she's stubborn and doesn't care what others think, I'm a push over (most of my friends know it don't take it to far) and I care too much about what others think to do soemthing like confronting them. How can I subtly get it across, or should I just talk to her direct and how without hurting her, or should I stop being treated like this. I don't know, I'm confused, please help.
I know long story but I always add details. Please help..thanks =]
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