Few questions regarding foster care.

Question

Im 7 wks. Pregnant. boyfriend & I are strong, but not financially stable enough to support a child right now. I really do not like the idea of abortion, despite a lot of people telling me that its 'smarter'... it just doesn't seem right.

Anyway, my question are: is it possible to put my baby into foster care & get him/her back when im ready?(is that how it works). And also, who determines if im 'ready', the state, or myself?

Answer 1

Hon, being a Minister I can assure you that I don't make alot of money but I would not put my children in foster-care.  My wife and I are raising our children off my retirement for the Federal Service and my VA benefits which I draw due to disabilities.  I promise you it's not much but we have our children and they are well adjusted not having all that their friends have.  Prior to my being injured I made good money, I have saved some, but my point is that it might be a struggle but the rewards are so many that the effort and fight make it worth waking up in the morning to see my babies off to school and hugging their necks and telling them each day that my wife and I love them and seeing that they know this daily so it maybe you don't have alot of money now but who knows what the future holds for you.  Trust God, and he will make a way.  God loves you and he is in the Miracle business.

Answer 2

I don't know much about foster care but I know that once the state is involved in your lives they have the legal responsibility to make sure you are ready when you say you are. So you may have to jump through a few hoops. I would recommend going to talk to a counselor at the Department of social and health services (or whatever you call it in your particular state) to see what the process might be like. I have heard that foster care within families is easier. Do you have anyone, an aunt, cousin, grandma who would help?  

Also, consider the fact that you could get yourselves ready...you do have 9 whole months to get your finances in order. Good luck, whatever you decide!

Answer 3

Sweetheart how old are you? I understand that is baby is unplanned but I can tell that you want it. Abortion is permantant not having money isn't.  I don't think it's in the best interest of your baby to be "placed" with a family until you are ready to raise it. The baby needs to get attached to a mother who will be it's permanant and sole provider. How would you feel if you adapted and became attached to someone only to be yanked away and raised by a complete stranger? If you give your baby up for adoption you can get an open adoption where a couple that is financially stable gets to raise your baby and you get pictures and stuff and the baby can always know who you are. But even in "open" adoptions there is no guarantee that it will stay open and no guarantee that they will mail pictures and allow you to contact them. Even so this route is permanant. You can never get your baby back to raise it.  A lot of people aren't financially stable to raise their children. That's why there's WIC and food stamps and welfare to help you out. Also you can get all your baby things from yard sales for cheap or find a good friend to help you out there. You can breastfeed instead of buying bottles and formula and save a lot of money. My point is that you should make the decision that is best for you. If you feel that you and your boyfriend are capable of raising a child(despite finances) then you should raise it. If you feel it would be better for another family to raise it then do that. But please don't kill your baby. He/she deserves life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness just like everyone else. Blessings! Let me know if I can help in any way. Feel free to contact or email me.!