I have been with my fiance for 4 years and he has been cheating on me the whole time. However, he won't admit it. I usually find out about his infidelities through places like myspace, where I am emailed information on another woman from some anonymous person. I end up contacting the woman and they admit that they were seeing my fiance but was told that he wasn't in a relationship. This scenario happened more than once. I have found out about 4 different times where he has been unfaithful. Every time he has denied it with the exception of the first time and he admitted that he was wrong for his actions but he wouldn't fess up to everything. Once I finally contact the women they give me details about their affairs but my fiance denies everything and says the women are crazy and lying. And he always seems to come up with an excuse or reason for everything. One woman even offered to meet me and show me the evidence but I rejected it. (I guess I didn't want to face the facts) I also discovered that he had been traveling out of town to see one of the women. I was even forwarded some email exchanges from one of the women with incriminating evidence. He claimed that the emails were altered and that he didn't write her. Deep down inside I know that he has been cheating on me, although he denies it. It;s one thing to cheat...but it's another thing to constantly deny it. I know I have played the fool big time...and am ready to move on. I do love him very much. He says he loves me and doesn't want to be with anyone else...but his actions speak differently. We live together and have established a lot together so I know it will be difficult to move on. I just need advice on how to build the strength to leave. I don't understand why he is doing this, but wants to stay with me. I don't understand why he won't admit his infidelities. Even after obviously being caught. He always has an excuse for everything that comes up. And then he gets hostile when I question him. He also says that I am letting these women come between us. He always turns the tables on me when something happens and makes it seem as if I am in the wrong. And I end up giving in like a dummy. I have changed so much for him, like my hair..my dress..I cook and clean, and everything. But he always finds something wrong. He is a nice person and we have a great relationship outside of the other stuff, that's why its so hard to just leave. He also says that I'm never going to find a perfect man and anyone that I get with will have faults. I I really need a voice of reason. BTW...the cheating began before we got engaged. I also found out he cheated on me the day he proposed. Remember...this is all heresay from the other women. So it's his word against theirs.
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