Fiance trouble.. Please help

Question

I meet this guy about 3 years ago we started of being mates then we got really close we started doing things that boyfriend/girlfriend people should do e.g touching euch over, holding hands ect, We was really happy to see euch other every day but about 2 year later it all changed i went to a party that he asked me to go to and he asked me out i said yes.. He was having trouble with hes mum it got real bad and about 4 months later hes mum made him choose between us he went for me so hes mum kicked him out.. So he live's with me and my family now about 1 months later he asked me to marry him i said yes.. Oh Hes mums okay now, So heres my point we started to argue alot this year and its getting really bad i love him and he loves me but we ant happy anymore (we was in the beining untill this year) he doesn't do half the stuff he did when we first went out (e.g buy me flowers take me out with out asking to go out) we was always doing stuff untill about 3 maybe more months ago he changed you see me dad jokes about calling me names but now he starts calling me really bad names in an arguement (my fiance) anyways i know he ant cheating and i know he loves me i told him this last night my mate was staying the night and we argued she help to sort it out we both said we would change but what can i do to make sure we both don't go back to the way we was ???? Please Help

Answer 1

Do you both have jobs?  Move out of your parents house!!  It can be because of stress, no privacy, he can be a bit depressed.  You might be spending too much time together.  Let him go out with his buddies and you go out with your friends. It makes a relationship better when you are able to miss the other one once in awhile!  Maybe you guys need to have a date night at least once a month where it is just the two of you and try to rekindle what you had.  But you need to talk to him.  Ask him why he has changed, if something is bothering him, have a heart to heart with him. Communication is very important in a relationship, no one can read minds!  Good luck, sweetie!  

Answer 2

Simple...yet easier ssid then done...get regular on-going counselling.  And do follow ups every four months even ater you get married!  Good luck!

Answer 3

As best as I can understand your question, it appears that you were getting along with your fiance at one point, but now you are not.  You are fighting and arguing, the romance has gone etc.  So at this point you need to break it off and move on with your life.  Getting married is not a magic bullet.  It will not fix the problems you have in in your relationship.  So taking things any further makes no sense.  You can have a stab at fixing thing, but I have my doubts it will work out.  But don't take your relationship to the next level (ie marriage, unless you can first resolve these issues).

Answer 4

If he's worth keeping, and loving, go to counseling.

If not, break things off, ask him to move out, and move on.