Fifteen year old girl wants advice ... :] ?

Question

Hey everyone, Im 15 (obviously haha) and Ive just been so confused lately

We always get told as teenagers nowadays thats its ok to m********e and have 'periods' where we like the same s*x and watch p**n and stuff but when I do start to do some of the stuff above I fele really guilty

None of my friends act like they do any of that stuff and they probably dont thats the thing! I feel so pathetic sometimes

Could anyone possibly give me some advice or something since I dont feel comfortable to tell my friends about this?

<3

Answer 1

im 18 years old and i just graduated with a group of kids that done the same thing whenever it came to talking about s*x. people dont realize anymore that s*x is a way to show somebody that you love them but now its just been made to be thought of as a sick good male story to tell his buddies. you are still a child and if you feel its bad to say what your friends say aboust s*x is perfectly ok. whenever i had friends to talk about stuff like that i would tell them the same exact thing that i told you and they accepted this. and one final thing, dont do something just because your friends are doing it (or at least they are saying that there doing it) if it makes you feel really guilty. just be who you are and tell them what you think, because what it really boils down to is that s*x is whenever two people love eachother and they want to show it, not just because it feels good and they want to brag to their buddies.and if you ever have someone trying to get you to have s*x just say no, not just because there is so many of pregnant teens in the world but also because you can only lose your virginity one time, do you really want to lose it to just anybody or do you wanna wait until your married and lose it to somebody you love? And i know that theres hormones that make you want to do things at times but trust me, you&#039;ll be thankful one day

trust me, ive been through this before and if your friends are really true to you then they&#039;ll understand

Answer 2

im also 15 and nothing could be further from the truth

there is nothing wrong with what your doing

dont feel bad  about it, just enjoy it.

dont worry, be happy

Answer 3

People mture at all different rates, so maybe you are just a little ahead of your friends. Or maybe like you, they think they are the only ones. Don&#039;t worry, it&#039;s perfectly normal at your age to explore your body and your own sexuality.

You shouldn&#039;t feel guilty. Those things are private and have nothing to do with anyone else, so as long as you aren&#039;t harming yourself then carry on.

You don&#039;t need to tellk your friends, just feel comfortable with yourself.

Answer 4

Your friends are probably masturbating too (as everyone else is) they just don&#039;t talk about it. That is a very private matter that remains secret. Watching pornography is okay, I can&#039;t give you advice about liking the same s*x as that never happened to me. Just remember that exploring your body is nothing to be ashamed of, it&#039;s you body so enjoy it.

Answer 5

It&#039;s very likely that your friends DO do those things, and that&#039;s why they don&#039;t talk about it. These are all private matters. You don&#039;t have to tell anyone. When you get older, you&#039;ll all be more open about it.

Answer 6

Sweetie, don&#039;t worry about what you like and don&#039;t like compared to what everybody else is telling you you SHOULD like.  

Follow your conscience and don&#039;t do what makes you uncomfortable.  

At 15, your sexuality is just beginning, and yours is progressing normally.  You have a lifetime of s*x ahead of you, and only you can decide what you&#039;ll do, where, when and with whom.

The important thing is you&#039;re NORMAL.  The h**l with what anyone else says.  You&#039;ve gotten some dreadful advice here as well as come very good advice.  Listen to your conscience.  Don&#039;t worry.  And don&#039;t do what &quot;they&quot; tell you to do if it makes you uncomfortable now.  That&#039;s your conscience.  It will be a powerful ally in your life if you learn to trust it.

It&#039;s irrelevant if your friends are lying or not; that&#039;s their business.  Accept them anyway and move on.

Never do what dishonors you, whether you&#039;re 15 or 17 or 25 or 35 and beyond (yes, you will be that old someday).  You aren&#039;t pathetic at all; you&#039;re becoming a very smart and very principled young woman.  And your doubts, questions and fears are perfectly normal.  

Don&#039;t push things.  Nature didn&#039;t intend 15-yr-olds to be fully developed sexually.  Your friends aren&#039;t, your classmates aren&#039;t and you aren&#039;t.  The media is wrong to give you such a bullsh!t idea, but they&#039;re in business to make money and that&#039;s what sells.  

Good luck to you.  I have every confidence in you because you&#039;re on the right track.

Answer 7

If you feel guilty, ashamed, uncomfortable, pressured or like you are doing something wrong, it probably means it is not something you should not be doing.

As a teen (and even today) I was considered a &quot;good girl&quot;.  I never smoked, didn&#039;t have s*x, or experiment with drugs.  I simply told people I didn&#039;t want to do these things when I was confronted by these things and you know what?  I was VERY much respected for it.  I had many friends and none ever turned their back on me because of how I felt or what my beliefs were.  Only a select few times did people try to pressure me into things...and they were not my friends.  True friends will respect how you feel.

Answer 8

If you feel guilty or uncomfortable doing these things, then you shouldn&#039;t do them.

I don&#039;t know who exactly is telling you these things, but they are wrong.  People are all different and not all people go through the same things.

Believe me, with time and experience, everything fits into place and there is no need to rush in now.

Concentrate on school and just be a teenager!

Answer 9

Im 15 too!

Aw don&#039;t feel pathetic (or guilty!)

They probably do too but don&#039;t say they do.  You can&#039;t read their minds!

Umm sorry i&#039;m no help I just thought &#039;hey i&#039;m 15 too what&#039;s her q about lol&#039;

Answer 10

You don&#039;t want to tell your friends but you want to tell the rest of the world?

Phone the s*x Line UK 0800 28 29 30.

Every child, will m********e. Some teens have wet dreams, but it&#039;s part of life. Don&#039;t be embarrassed, be happy about it. It means your growing up.

Answer 11

its a private matter you dont have to talk to anyone about.  but yeah its fine nothing wrong about it. my mates do this stuff you cant tell any diffrence in their behaviour, watching p**n and mastubating is just pleasure it doesnt change your behaviour or make you bad. ave fun:)

Answer 12

What kind of advise are you looking for?

Well first even tho your friends have not told you they do it to trust me when I say they do m********e and if they say they dont then they are LYING. Everyone does at some point. Same s*x is popular so I&#039;m sure at least 2 of your friends have tried it. p**n. I dont know many people who don&#039;t watch it so I&#039;m sure your friends do to.

What I&#039;m trying to say is be the person who has the guts to say outloud what everyone else is already thinking and is afraid to say outloud.

Don&#039;t be scared. If you like it say it and if they say they don&#039;t like it tell em to stop being such a baby and admit they like it too.

Most of the people in my husbands family were prudish when I first met them.

But having been around me for some years they now feel free to talk about anything and let me tell you, some of the things I now hear from them are nothing close to prudeish.

Turns out they are just as fun as me they just were afraid to say it.

Be yourself and others will too. Best advise I know and works.

Answer 13

If it makes you uncomfortable, don&#039;t do it, unless you enjoy it-- but in all probability most of your friends do it, too. Don&#039;t believe me? If you are all hanging out at a sleepover or whatever, and play &quot;never have I ever&quot; or &quot;truth or dare,&quot; you can find out.

Answer 14

Honey, not everything is everyones business. If you like to m********e then do it. No need to discuss it with your friends.

And just so you know, a lot of people act like they don&#039;t do certain things, but they do :)