Finding my birth mother?

Question

i'm 18, and was adopted as an infant, so i wasn't a foster child or anything like that. i still live in the same city, and want to find my birth mother, however, i don't know if or how i should tell my adoptive parents. (they get very emotional sometimes) any ideas of how i can do this without telling them or getting as little info about the adoption as possible?

Answer 1

hi, i'm 19 and i am currently going through the same thing. tell your adoptive parents that you will always love them no matter what and consider them your "parents" because afterall, THEY were the people that fed you, that raised you, that took care of you when you were sick, etc. tell them that your interest in finding your birth mom could never change any of that, regardless of what they think and that you hope to become friends with your birth mom because [insert your reason here].

basically, let them know nothing will change the bond between you and them. they're probably afraid of losing that bond. they're probably afraid that you'll start calling and thinking of your birth mom as your "real" mother.. so just calmly and genuinely let your adoptive parents know that this is not the case.