Finding my child...?

Question

I gave a baby up for adoption in 1992 and i want to know what he looks like. The parents stopped sending me pics before he was even one years old. I know their last name and i know the name they gave him. So how do i find a minor? They are unlisted in the phone book, how would i find out their address? I also know where the adoptive mom worked in 1992 and i am pretty sure she still works for that company. Is there any way i can call the company and get her address? I don't want him to know i am looking for him. I just want to look at him from a distance to see how he turned out. If anyone knows how to find a child you gave up, please help me out.

Answer 1

Its just the matter of what you did (please dont commit suicide).Try to go to the lost infants home......  have clues that are connected for him. And also dont forget to pray to GOD.

Hope this helps on you. Dont give up hope.

Answer 2

u can still find ur child if u go to social worker and they can hepl u. May i ask u something? why did u give away ur child in the first place. u must have reasons to give your child because he ll ask u many questions why u gave him away and it can make him that u dont love him ad u thought it was to give ur child away, but if u kow where the woman works and u can still go there and find out if she stills work and ask her if u can allow to see ur child.

Answer 3

Since your biological child is under the age of 18 and adopted by someone else, you do not have any rights at all....I'm sad to say.  If the adoptive parents catch you watching their child and trying to make contact, you can actually get into trouble and be charged or possibly arrested.  Definitely do not call the mother's job looking for an address. People are not allowed to give out anyones address, and you really should not be calling to look for it.

I think your best bet is to just wait until he turns 18. I'm sure it's got to be hard on you, but that is part of giving a child up.

And it is probably going to be too hard for you to just see him from a distance and you are going to want to go up and say hi or get a better look at the child. My best advice is to just not do it until he is 18 and it is legal for you to look, cause you gotta live with what happend in 1992.....like everyone else who has given their child up for adoption.  Good luck

Answer 4

You should not contact her company.  I would go to the agency or lawyer who arranged the adoption and ask them to contact your child's parents.  Did you have an open adoption agreement?  Was the agreement in writing?  Your son's parents at least have a moral obligation to live up to agreements about openness.

While you are waiting for contact, consider working on a journal and/or scrapbook for your son.  When he is an adult and ready for contact with you (assuming that his parents will not allow it at this time), he will likely want to know if you thought about him and cared about him, especially on his birthdays.

Good luck!  I am so sorry that you are going through this and that the adoptive parents did not continue to send pictures and updates.  Sadly, broken agreements regarding openness in adoptions are all too common.

Answer 5

He is a minor and for you to make contact either directly or indirectly could be considered harassment.  While I do understand your longing to know about him, you need to respect him and his family.  The age he is now is difficult enough without adding this to it.  Every circumstance is different and forcing any type of contact could drive him away permanently.  Depending on what state you living in he is most likely considered an adult at the age of 18.  

I would recommend sending a letter through the agency that handled the adoption.  This letter should be addressed to the parents and written in such a way to pass on any medical information that may have occurred in your family over the past 15 years and to let them know that you are open to contact once he is ready.

I know this is not what you want to hear and your decision will be with you for a long time to come but please be patient for him as well.

Good luck

Answer 6

Wow that's sad, I wish you the best.  I don't think calling the company she works for will help.  Unfortunatly most companies will not give out personal information like that.  Is the address from the pictures they use to send you not the same anymore?  There are sites where you can find people you are searching for by typing in their full name, I'm not sure what they are though, maybe that can be your next question lol. Sorry I couldn't help but I wish you the best.

Answer 7

im sorry to say that oncw you have given up a child you dont have any right to him exept what the adoptive mother has given you and untill he turns 18 he may not be alowed to search for you  i dont think the company will give you her adress however you may beable to speak with her and ask for a picture try calling the company and asking for her i wish you luck however i am afraid it may not be easy

Answer 8

i feel bad for you. Just look up the company phone number on google, then find their number, ask if she still works there, or if you knowthe kid's name, you could possibly wait until HE's listed in the phone book

Answer 9

i wonder help you or take it too far as i dont personally know you and from a strangers point of view you seem either a stalker,phadophile or rapiest.

Answer 10

I'm so sorry that the adoptive parents cut you off.

They are not only harming you - but they are also harming their child.

Adoptive children need to know and see their biological parents if at all possible.

I have no searching suggestions - but I do hope that you will find a way to open communication with the family.

Good luck!!