Finding new relationship difficult

Question

I am going through a divorce and my husband is living with his girlfriend who is 5 months pregnant. I have been seeing someone too - at first I thought he was really nice, especially compared to the way my husband was with me. The last few weeks though I feel I am missing my husband - although I know we will never get back together and the relationship was not great but I find this new guy is moody and controlling. his behavior is making me wish I was back with my ex - I dont understand why I dont finish with him because the relationship is such hard work! then i think I am treating him badly because I wont let him live with me, and thats why he is moody! it seems like a vicious circle - I dont want to regret leaving him either!

Answer 1

Get rid and take some time out.  You don't need all this stress!  

Go out with friends or find a club/something to do so that you meet new people and then hopefully you'll meet someone who wants you and respects you.    

Good luck!

Answer 2

Ugh, I think I need YOUR advice.  I was with my ex for 3 years - found out he was cheating on me and then he dumped me for the other chick.  He got her pregnant only 2 months into their relationship. No idea what their situation is like as I haven't had any contact with him in 7 months.  I've been seeing another guy for about 3 months now - it's still so friggin hard.  The new guy is really nice and has sooo much more to offer than my ex does...but, here I am, 7 months later....and I'm still hung up on this jerk.  I realized that I need more time...I need to be single and just do my own thing until I'm completely healed.  It's hard letting someone else in when my ex is kind of STUCK there...in my mind.  It takes a loooong time to get over someone.  I say take your time with your new guy and always go with your gut instinct.  

Answer 3

sounds like you got this new guy on the rebound and now you can't help but to constantly compare him to your ex. You should cut him lose and let things happen naturally. You're not gonna forget about ur ex overnight, but remembering all the negative things about him will help

Answer 4

You seem to have swapped one bad relationship for another hun. Don't fall into that trap. You need to be on your own for a while to get over your failed marriage. It may not have been a great marriage but you still need to 'grieve' for it (if thats the right word). Being on your own for a while will give you the time to pick yourself up, dust yourself down and grow some self esteem. When you can really respect yourself then you will find a relationship with someone who respects you too. Only when you respect yourself will you give off the confident vibes that will stop anyone else trying to control you. You will find a good relationship and love that you deserve. Just because your ex has a pregnant girlfriend doesn't mean they will be happy so don't be in a rush to show him that you've found someone else too!

Give this guy the elbow and learn to love yourself.