First Holy Communion party for my friend? Alcohol okay?

Question

Okay, I am catholic. My friend asked me to help her with the party for her daughter for her first holy communion. I have had these parties for my daughters already. Anyway I was talking about the bar. You know which beers to buy wine coolers and some hard liquour and sodas and juices as mixers. She actually got mad that I would suggest having alcohol at this party. I had it at the parties I gave. We started fighting and I finally said well if your not having any good drinks I'm not coming. So I left her to do it all on her own. I mean geez come on everyone wants a drink and it is a celebration. Who is wrong me or her?

Answer 1

You're wrong, and should apologize.  It's HER house, HER daughter, and HER party....  If you need to have booze to go somewhere, then you definitely have a drinking problem.  Personally, I would think some wine would be fine to have, but there's no reason whatsoever to have hard liquor or beer at a religious celebration.......

Answer 2

It think wine and beer, and many a few other standard alcoholic drinks would be alright, but you don't need to bring the whole cavalry.

Yeah, it's alright to have a few glasses to celebrate, but I don't really think you're there to get hammered.

Answer 3

If she chooses not to have alcohol at her party, it is up to her.  She asked you for help because she obviously values your opinions and thinks you give great parties.  You do not have to have alcohol to celebrate.  If she wants this party to celebrate her child's special day without alcohol, then so be it.  You have no right to tell her she must have it.  If you feel like you cannot celebrate without a drink, stay home.  If you are really her friend, go to the party, celebrate without alcohol, and just be happy for the little girl.  Drink on your own time.  If you choose not to go because there won't be alcohol, then you are being really selfish!  This day is not about you!  It is about her daughter.  Having alcohol at your parties is fine for you, but may not be for her.  Why get mad about that!  I say you are wrong because you are thinking about yourself before anybody else.  This sounds like a really petty way to ruin a friendship.  I hope you two can resolve this issue.  I say, go to the party, have a good time, and go out for a drink later on.  That way, everyone is happy.  I do, however, think you need to apologize to your friend.  Good luck.

Answer 4

She did not have to get mad. She knows you had it at yours and if it was an issue she should have brought it up to you politely at the beginning.

  I am with you on this one.

Answer 5

You are wrong.  It's her house and her daughter; she makes the rules.  There is no excuse for serving alcohol to minors; let alone insisting on it.  And honestly, if you can't have fun without booze, you need help.  You're certainly not being very Christian.

Answer 6

The only reason to be a Catholic is cause it's a drinking religion.  The blood of Christ is wine in the sacrament after all.  I'm with you.

Answer 7

you shouldn't of left. i mean... if its her house and her daughter i think that she should make up the rules. plus who really wants alcohol at a party with a bunch of kids??? the party should be focused on the great occasion... not the fun for the adults.

Answer 8

Since this will be a family oriented party, then having a bar might not be appropriate. Since the party is at her house for her daughter, she should have a say in what will be served at the party, and if she doesn't want alcohol, then that is her right. You might have gone a little overboard in suggesting to have a full bar, and she might have agreed to have beer/wine available for the adults. But since the party is to celebrate a special occasion for a little girl, then alcohol would be inappropriate for the group as a whole.