First Time s*x (After) Questions. Does This Count? ?

Question

After plenty of foreplay, oral, hand, etc for a very long time, my fiance and I finally did it.

We've more than done all the research we could on various sites, I'd consulted friends who recently lost their virginity, whatever.

I have dysmenorrhea (painful menstruation) and cervical cysts and am currently just finishing up my menses.

Today, he was finally able to slip himself and the condom inside of me. It was difficult to tell he was inside. He was only able to fully get the head inside, and I didn't bleed, even menstrual blood. This is our second attempt to get inside, and I didn't bleed then either. I have never bled for any reason other than menstrual to my knowledge (like fingering), and no sports/tampons.

Neither of us was close to o****m, though my body was well self-lubricated and willing.

Does he need to be further to 'officially' lose our virginity? The pain dulled after a while of his being inside, will it be easier or more difficult the third time around?

Soon after there was an attempt at fingering but my walls seem to have closed off and are denying entrance any further than fingertip. Is something wrong?

It all summarizes to, virgin, y/n?

Answer 1

go see a gynecologist. seriously, an OBGYN can answer questions, make suggestions.

Answer 2

once the p***s enters the v****a whether it be an inch or the whole thing you are no longer a virgin

Answer 3

Virginity is kind of a fuzzy line. I'd say no, but that's my opinion. As for it hurting in the future (it goes away pretty quick) but it's likely taking into consideration he wasn't in all the way. As for the vaginal problems I'd see a doctor because there can be minor complications that make s*x difficult or painful and from my understanding they are treatable. Also, it's possible that your walls could be clenching up if you're not relaxed or if you're worried about him going in, etc. Relax. Try some visualization exercises (like a train going through a tunnel or something). And good luck. It's fabulous when you get down to it.

;)

Answer 4

He stuck it in your v****a, your not a virgin. Thats the definition, although if you feel your still one then thats great. If you need more validation thats fine. Also, not everyone bleeds.  

Answer 5

No technically you did lose your virginity because you had genital to genital contact but some tips to helping you loosen up.... squats and stretched (eg. the splits if you can) and also try some s*x toy and other things to get your body used to having something in it. Also your problem may be that if you haven't broken you hymen not much will work when you try to have s*x and some are harder to break than others.

Answer 6

well if he got the head in why didn't he just stroke it home?

Answer 7

Once a p***s enters the v****a, even a little bit, neither is a virgin any longer. :) It will probably become easier as you practice more...it's not going to feel great right away.