First babies? everyone that has had a baby recently or not please :)?

Question

I'm expecting my first baby soon-ish (30 weeks and day gone)

I'm just wondering a few things.

Seen as i haven't done this before.

1. what week did your baby actually come?

2 when your waters broke (if they did naturally) was it a gush or a trickle?

3. is there anything in later pregnancy i should know (things that took you off guard, that made you say something along the lines of "NO ONE TOLD ME THAT WOULD HAPPEN!!")

4.when you actually gave birth, did anything happen that you wasn't expecting? with you or the baby or both?

5. any advice that you think i should know ?

thanks in advance :)

x

Answer 1

the one thing noone told me was the excruiating back pain afterwards.  had a c section and whilst i recovered quite quickly from this, the back pain went on for weeks!!

C xx

Answer 2

Hey

My little boy is only 12 days old and he is my first.

1. I actually went into labour on my due date, August 9th, had a 40 hour labour and delivered at 40 weeks + 1 day.

2. My waters didnt break, my son was so far engaged that the amniotic sack was really tight around his head. When i went into hospital they attempted to break them twice and when they succeeded it felt like i was peeing! Constantly for about 20 mins with a slow trickle and afterwards with each contraction. She caught his head with the hook type thing that they used and he has a tiny little scratch on his head which hasn't healed yet! :(

3. No one told me just how tired you feel in the last few weeks! I didnt listen to anyone who said, rest when you can! I though ''yeah right'' but now im breast feeding and getting a total of about 3 hours sleep a night i really wish i'd listened! SO SLEEP!!

4. I planned a wonderful home birth, all natural and peaceful and did i get it...? NO!

I had a bleed at home after being in labour for 20 hours, (they think it was the placenta coming away), was transfered to hospital in ambulance, had all pain relief given, babies heart rate dropped, turned back to back and had a ventous delivery in theatre with the c-section team standing by, So completely not what i planned!

Its good to have a birth plan, a rough one though and dont get too disheartened when it all goes **** up.

5. Listen to your instincts, being your first and mine you tend to trust any advice given by medical staff. But you should know your own body! When i went into labour i started bleeding, with a massive clot in it. When i phoned the hospital the midwife told me that it was just a 'show' even though i described it as ''fresh blood with some clotting''. It turns out it wasnt a show and was bleeding as i found out later on, bleeding that heavily in labour isnt normal so trust yourself if you think anything is wrong

x

  

Answer 3

First child:

1. 38w4d via induction

2. The doctor broke my water and it gushed & kept gusing with every contraction

3. Nothing that I can think of....I didn't expect to sleep uncomfortable so much though.

4. Yes. He tore my cervix on the way out & I wouldn't stop bleeding. I had to have stitches in my cervix.

5. Just relax and have patience. Try to sleep when baby sleeps and always trust your instincts.

Second child:

1. 32w1d--premature due to incompetent cervix (from the trauma to my cervix from my first birth)

2. I was 10 cm dialated when i got to the hospital but my water didn't break--the doctor had to do it again.

3. Look out for feeling differently than normal.

4. Yes, I didn't expect to give birth so early!!

5. same as #5 above.

Congratulations & good luck!!

Answer 4

1. 39 weeks by c-section bc of a heart problem they found the week before

2  N/A or if u wanna say it gushed when they cut me open lol

3.they found the heart problem late in the pregnancy

4.besides the heart thing not to him but my blood pressure and sugar dropped lot...

5. rest all you can now and let people help you out when you need it

Answer 5

My daughter came at 39 weeks. When my water broke it gushed all over the floor. That really surprised me because everyone told me it would just trickle. I was in labor for only 40 minutes(she was definitely ready to come out).I had her completely natural, there was no time for any drugs. The pain was not nearly as bas as I had expected and I plan on having my next one without drugs too (unless its a really long labor). No matter how hard the labor is or how much it hurts, all of that goes away as soon as you see your child and hold them for the first time.

Answer 6

i had my 2nd baby 3 weeks ago and in answer to your questions,

1. my baby was 11 days overdue,went in to be induced but wasn't in the end coz i was already dilated, they just broke my waters.

2. my waters was broken for me and it was a gush

3. you never know what might happen every woman different

4. nothing happened that i wasn't expecting-just alot more painful than i thought



with my first daughter i was induced as she was also overdue, again waters were broken for me and it was a gush. good luck with your pregnancy and birth

Answer 7

Ok, when I had my son I woke up with my waters breaking and I was 8 days late, it felt like a gush. I didnt know that they continue to leak once they go so I would say if your waters go make sure you have a sanitory towel on or you will literally have fluid running from you!

The contractions build up in intensity and do get d**n painful. Labour made me vomit, cry hysterically and talk utter c**p when I got a shot of pethidine. Oh, it is also quite sore when they examine you!

I was one of the unlucky people that the epidural does not work on. You always think "it wont happen to me" but it can and it did to me!

I ended up allowing the docs to try forceps or I would have had to have had a general anisthetic for an emergency c-section. At the time I thought the forceps wouldnt be too bad but how wrong was I?  I had to have a mid-cavity forceps delivery (which is basically when they put the forceps inside you and pull the baby out!). I had no pain relief as there was no time and I had no control whatsoever. I wasnt told to push or anything and it was h**l, total agony. Never let them near you with forceps! Once he was out the relief was instant, however, I needed internal stitches and that was almost as bad as the delivery!

Expect blood clots, I lost quite a few large clots after I came home and one was so big I had to phone the mid wife to come out to see it (lovely, lol)

The "baby blues" are horrible, you just want to cry aand cry for at least a day.

Make sure you relax and dont try and do everything. Remember your body has been through a huge ordeal and it is a massive adjustment so sleep when your baby sleeps and let people do as much as they can for you in the first few weeks.

There is a whole lot more of stuff I could say but in the end the love and bond you will feel for your child is amazing and most of all I would say enjoy your baby because they really do grow up so fast its scary!

Hopefully, your labour and delivery will go fine, good luck babe x

Answer 8

1. 36 weeks

2. It broke just as I was getting off the toilet...a little trickle, so I thought it was just more pee...then a gush.

3. I thought I had more time so I didn't get my bag ready before I went to the hospital.  I didn't have anything happen to me out of the ordinary.  I realized it wasn't the baby moving bothering me at 34-35 weeks...those were braxton hicks! (LOL)

4. I had a c section and it went smoothly.

5. Enjoy your last few weeks before baby...rest..relax....do what you like (for me it was a mani and pedi).  Sleep when baby sleeps (omg, I wish I had).  It's a lot of work, but u have so much fun u don't really notice.

Answer 9

my daughter came on her due date but i was lucky so u can go by me.

my water broke right before she came out i was in labour for 16 hrs.

my daughter had a bowel movement inside that was unexpected but all was fine thank god

i think the only thing is to learn to relax and if you have a plan dont be so for it just be open minded and know that things happen without  warning and try and go with the flow and everything will be fine!.. good luckand best wishes!

Answer 10

Mine was born at 41 weeks. My water didn't break until they broke them. (With baby's #3 and #4 it did spontaneously and both were a gush)

Didn't realize how uncomfortable it would be at the end - I was sooooo ready for labor!

Didn't realize how bad transition would be. It didn't last long. It was MUCH Better when I was told I could push.

Unexpected - I got to 9.5 cms and was told there was a lip of cervix left. I had to be "Manually dilated" - meaning the midwife had to move that lip during a contraction - ouch! It was fast, but it really freaking hurt. I didn't tear or anything though, it was all fine!

Wasn't prepared that our daughter would be SO BEAUTIFUL - she was the most beautiful thing I ever saw! Going through labor, I wasn't prepared that it would all be worth it (you forget, at times, if you have natural labor) - but it was SO WORTH IT!

Advice - take it one contraction at a time. Know that any unnecessary medical intervention can lead to another and another. Ask for perineal massage with oil to prevent tearing and episiotomy if possible. (I've never had a stitch because of this - it's what midwives do!) Ask them to let baby's head crown very slowly to prevent tearing too - unless there is an emergency. Hold baby as soon as possible on your tummy if baby is fine. Breastfeed on demand - good for baby and good for you!

Best Wishes! How exciting - you really don't have long to go!

Answer 11

1.  Induced at 41 weeks

2.  The doctor broke the water.  It was a gush.

3.  I was shocked at the pressure I felt down there toward the end.  It felt like the baby would fall out with every step.  This is normal.  I was also surprised when all my stretch marks showed up in the last 2 weeks.

4.  I wasn't expecting so much blood.  I also wasn't expecting it to feel like a big p**p coming out.  I also didn't expect the shoulders to hurt more than the head coming out.

5.  My advice is to enjoy every second with your little one because they grow so fast!!

Good luck!

Answer 12

I am currently pregnant with my 4th child, due Sept 16 and here are my experiences

1.  My first 2 came 1 day before the due date, the last one was induced (she was due on Christmas and it was the doctors suggestion to induce on the 18th, because who wants to be in the hospital on Christmas.)

2.  With my first baby my water broke (and gushed), with my 2nd my water broke (burst all over the nurse when I began pushing which I know had to be disgusting but they are used to things like that), and baby 3 the doctor broke my water.

3.  There are probably gonna be a whole lot of things that you experience that no one told you about, everything was a suprise to me during my first pregnancy.

4.During two of my pregnancies I wasn't breathing good and the baby wasn't getting good oxygen (but I think that happens alot), with the last one my pressure dropped down real low but nothing serious.

5.I know you have to be so anxious about everything and ready to have the baby.  Good luck and I hope you have a fast, easy, and as nonpainful as can be labor.  

Answer 13

1. my first child was born at 36 weeks, my second and third at 38 weeks

2. Induced with my first 2. Trickled down my leg like pee with third.

3. When you laugh or cough you might leak some pee.

4. My friend had an emergency c-section cuz her babys hand and cord tried coming out first

5. The less stressed you are and the more prepared you are the easier it will go

Answer 14

1. 2 weeks overdue, so 42 weeks..

2. The midwife had to break my waters, and it was definitely a gush.. =P

3. Nothing I can think of... Sorry =(

4. The only thing that didn't go according to plan was that my daughter 'opened her bowels' while she was still inside me and had to have all the um.. p**p suctioned out of her lungs once she was born, everything turned out fine though, it just meant there had to be an extra midwife ready to fix her up as soon as she was born.. Every other part of my labour was as perfect as it could be..

5. Just do exactly what the midwife tells you, like when she says push, then push! lol.. They know what they're doing, you'll be fine =)

Answer 15

I has my daughter at 41 weeks and one day.

my waters trickled

Nothing I can think of

I had to have an emergancy c section which i wasn't expecing

Just stay calm and use deep breathing, I used this through my contractions and managed not use pain relief for a while just using breathing.

Good luck, you'll be fine!

Answer 16

1. My little Janae was born on her due date

2. but the doctor induced me, it gushed and for some reason hurt when the water broke.

3. not that i can think of

4. no everything was as i expected

5. concentrate on your breathing, that is most important!  

Answer 17

I am 38 weeks and 2 days.  No one told me or prepared me for the fact that I would be so uncomfortable.  The rest of my pregnancy was a breeze - now I am so big and so uncomfortable and tired ALL the time.  Now I get indigestion no matter what I eat and I have to get up every hour at night to go to the bathroom and take a Tums.  

Needless to say I am done being pregnant and just looking forward to seeing my little girl.  I hope that everything goes smoothly for you and that you don't get as uncomfortable as me.

Answer 18

1.  42 weeks.  I was induced.

2.  It was a little trickle, like I was peeing myself.

3.  Honestly, I can't think of anything.

4.  I had a very smooth delivery.

5.  The only advice I can offer is in the weeks leading up to your due date, get your house clean.  You won't have an awful lot of time to do it when baby comes along.

Answer 19

when my waters broke, it was neither a gush nor a trickle. it was like peeing, but when I was done, there was some more, and then some more.

my 3 kids came one day after their due date.

the day before going into labor, I was full of energy. I walked for hours, cleaned the house, etc.... it is apparently normal to feel pumped up the day before.

if your baby presses on your bladder, you might pee yourself when you sneeze, cough, or laugh real hard. so I used to wear a pad to avoid embarrassment during the 3rd trimester.

when giving birth, the pain is much worse is you are tense. you have to try to relax your body as much as you can, and 'go with the flow'. it hurts less this way.

also don't start buying too many pink or blue clothes for your baby, neutral colors are better, because the doctor may have made a mistake about the s*x of your baby.

and do not buy newborn size clothing, it is a waste of money as your baby will not wear this very long. buy 3 month-old size to begin with.

also, toys, rattlers, etc are useless at first, save your money. babies can't play until they are several months old.

you are going to be sleep-deprived at first, accept any help you get! you will love your mother-in-law if she comes to clean your house or cook for you!

Answer 20

I post for both my births.

Birth #1

1. 38weeks, 4 days

2. They were broken artificially when I was 9.5cm dilated.

3. The after birth contractions hurt more than labor.  I gave birth without drugs but was begging for drugs afterwords.

4. When she was born her hand was up near her face.

5. Hire a doula to help you during the birth.

Birth #2

1. 38weeks, 3days

2.  A big gush of water.  It was unmistakable

3.  I stopped pushing and just panted when I felt the "ring of fire" instead of pushing through it.  As a result, I did not tear the second time I gave birth.

4. No, not really.  I had my baby at home this time.  It was much easier.

5.  Hire a doula.

Answer 21

I had my baby at 41 weeks 1 day.

My waters had been leaking but were broken for me in hospital (I wouldn't recommend this at all!) Still not a massive gush. I thought my waters had been leaking but people convinced me it was urine leaking - I wish I had trusted my instincts because my baby and I both had an infection.

When I gave birth everything I wasn't expecting (or hoping wouldn't happen) did happen.

- my waters were broken for me (made my contractions unbearable and back to back but didn't make me dilate at all!!)

- I had the cyntocin drip to 'speed up labour' (it didn't work)

- I had to have an epidural (I never wanted one)

- I ended up with a c-section (needs must but I desperately didn't want this to happen)- the c-section hurt (I wasn't expecting that!)

- My baby was very poorly when he finally arrived and we had a long stay in hospital while he had a course of IV antibiotics.

Nobody told me a C-Section - especially an emergency one - can hurt - not the cut but when they are getting baby out - it did not feel like someone washing up in my tummy  - that's what I had been told!!!

people did tell me not to get too hung up on a birth plan because by the end its whatever gets the baby out and keeps you both healthy! I would have to agree with that as apart from a stint in the birth pool, everything on my birth plan went out of the window.

Answer 22

1. 40 weeks exactly!

2. They had to break my water. It was definitely a gush when they did it though!

3. I didn't realize that you could have contractions for weeks before you even went into labor. I had painless, regular contractions for three weeks because they became real.

4. I had a rough delivery. I ended up pushing for 3 hours and 39 minutes, they had to get the vaccuum out to assist me. The doctors kept telling me she was going to be small (at my appts)...and turns out I had a 8lb 10oz baby girl! I tore really bad too, a 4th degree tear, ouch.

5.It's amazing! The feeling you have when you finally get to hold your baby is the most perfect moment in the world!