First baby! Who should name the baby?? Mom or Dad?

Question

Obviously I mean if you can't agree? Does a dad have the right to get mad if he can't name the child? I'm 35 weeks and having a boy. He wants to name my son bc he is a boy like it's his right? I want to bc of all I've gone through and sice I found out I was pregnant I wanted one name thankfully the gender matched the name I'd picked as if I knew. Does this make me selfish?

Answer 1

You've been pregnant for 9 months and are about to go through the trauma of labor and delivery. You've earned the right to be selfish, hun. You deserve to choose the name. =]

Answer 2

tell him are you hold this baby is he/she coming out your Virgina them i name the baby OK

Answer 3

Its realy up to you, your the mother. If your not married then certantly not thats your choice.

If you are married i think you need to talk it over with him.

Answer 4

I think you two need to compromise. The baby gets a first name and a middle name. You each choose one. That's the way my husband and I had to do it!

Answer 5

If you two aren't married he really has no say legally. Mom fills out the birth certificate in the hospital.

I think you two should keep searching for a name until you find one that you both like. You both have to live with the choice for the rest of your lives. You don't want one of you to resent your son because you hate his name.

Answer 6

that is a really tuff one,but you know that, my second was a boy we had a hard time agreeing also.so for the sake of our

sanity we agreed to each pick one first and middle name

wrote them down put them into a bag  our daughter                   one out of the bag. well it was my choice. daddy was not happy,

so my son had my choice for his first name and daddys for

the middle name.now that was a compromise, isnt that what

its all about.

Answer 7

You can give your baby 2 names like: one name you can choose and one what your boyfriend or Husband want to put your son name.

Answer 8

Imagine the situation was on the other foot.  If you were in a relationship and your partner was having a baby, and claimed they alone wanted to name your first baby, how would you feel?  He doesn't have the right to go "Well it's a boy, I should name him" but by not compromising with him, you become just as bad as him.  You need to sit down and talk about what sort of name you want your son to have, and go back and forth over meanings and looking them up until you can find a name you BOTH like.

Answer 9

Legally and according to the hospital (at least here in washington) it is mother's choice what to name the baby. She is the one who fills in and signs all the paperwork forms at the hospital except for paternity papers.

However this doesn't mean that it is "right" or "fair" to give him no imput.

Sadly if you refuse to even consider a name he likes it does make you selfish, understandible as it is doesn't change anything.

Do you have both a first and middle name picked out? Is there a name he just absolutely wants no matter what? You have options there. You can always negotiate that you pick the first name and he gets middle name or even give your son 2 middle names. It's a family tradition through my father's side to have 2 middle names.

Heck baby may show up and you discover he doesn't look anything like the name you have picked out.

Answer 10

My bf & I only agreed on one name, so that was it......I had a few names in mind, but he only liked one of them...... Maybe just keep coming up with ideas until hopefully, one will come up that you both like....buy a baby name book if you haven't done so already.....I don't think the naming gets allocated to one parent....but depending on the gender, the mum or dad may have stronger feelings towards naming their child of the same s*x....but like anything...its all compromise....keep going til you both agree....you may have to come up with something original that incorporates more than one name........Good luck!!

Answer 11

I don't think one parent should have the right, but you as the mother should have the right to say no to a particular name.  Seeing as you are the one who gives birth and probably looks after him more so uses the name more.  I think keep trying, even if you have lists of names that are okay (as opposed to really like or dislike).  Does dad have a particular tradition in mind?  That can be another story too.  Good luck.  Maybe you can agree to decide when your baby is born.  When you look at him (or her), it might be easier to find a suitable name together.  Congratulations too.

Answer 12

If you two are going to fight over the name of your child then imagine what the rest of your life will be like,,,,,,, learn to compromise, pick a name you both like.

and in answer to the end of your question.. yes I do believe you are being selfish. You wouldn't have become pregnant if it wasn't for him, and yes I know that 'we' the women go through a lot to have the baby but that isn't the mans fault so you shouldn't use that as a way of getting him to change his mind.