First day of high school-went terrible help i need advice!?

Question

Well I'm at a catholic private high school were I don't know anybody so I'm trying to get to know people but I'm really shy and prefer for them to come to me. I went to sat down at lunch at a table but was just ignored. I know that everyone's nervous, and to different levels, but everyone's already going around meeting other people and i'm stuck in the back alone. I don't want to have no friends, and if i wait longer tehy'll settle into their groups and i'll be stuck at the back still. any advice?

Answer 1

Try to break out of your shell. Go up to a table during lunch and ask if you can sit with them. Or try to become friends with whoever you sit next to in class by having a conversation.

Answer 2

dont wait until lunch.  it is in no way a good idea to rely on that time to make friends.  most people will have already found someone to talk to or found people they may have known before.  make sure you start some conversations during classes or in between.  if sports havent started, definitely try out for something.. youll make friends even faster.  if your still feeling out of the loop, dont worry about it.  eveyrones new just give it some time. good luck!

Answer 3

Umm instead of just sitting down somewhere

say hi can i sit here.

even if they say no

it would be better than sitting there

if they didnt want you to and getting ignored.

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Answer 4

well its obvious.

all you have to do is start a conversation or try to relate to people.

also when your in high school people don't just settle into groups you can always still be friends with people you want to,

no matter how long you wait.

Answer 5

Well...since you're shy, you need to step out of your box! It will be hard and I know how it feels, I used to be extremely shy too, but after I know someone for a while, I can be really outgoing, and after a while I was able to be crazy and outgoing around complete strangers. But, if you see some one you think you'll get along with, go up to them and ask to hang out, the worst that could happen is that they'll say no, but probably not, and if they do, they're probably a rude person anyway! So, what I'm trying to say is, just be yourself and step out of your comfort zone!

Answer 6

find someone in your class and get familiar with their name. See if you like their sociality techniques (who they are) and just hang out with that group of people. Not many people are looking for friends. Friends are something you have to find. Its kinda like a good book. If the librarian gives you a book, its probably crappy. Go find the book that suits you. (hope you understand my analogy)

Answer 7

you honestly need to be a little more confident and be nice to people and talk a bit to some to get some friends, other wise they probly wont come to you =) good luck

Answer 8

Kay, i know this may sound as if it won't help but it actually helps a lot and makes people think you are friendly. Just give people in your class a nice smile whenever you make eye contact or say a casual hi. trust me in no time people will be coming up to you and asking you to sit at their lunch table.

Answer 9

well try to start up a conversation that someone would agree with like:

"man, i really hate this class-i was forced into it"

or

"i like your shirt, where'd u get it?"

people love compliments.

usually when people dont really know people and they start a conversation with someone-they cling to that person pretty much all day and thats usually how a friendship starts-your probably not the onlyone who feels this way

Answer 10

Just sit down and say, "Hey, what's up." That simple...people will start talkin and just jump into the conversation. Like did ya see such and such play last night? Or "Hey nice shirt, where'd ya get it" Good luck

Answer 11

try striking up a conversation in your classes, and then arranging plans to meet up with someone in class

or just try approaching a table and say "hi i'm new here, can i have a seat?"

doing that might be embarrassing but it'll save you more embarrassment in the future when you might not have any friends

Answer 12

Try and find SOMETHING that they might like.  If not, start a conversation.  I know that you're shy and I used to be like that too but I always tell myself "If you don't talk, you'll have no friends".  So just say something like "do you like the band ____" or "did you see _____ last night"?  OR you could even say "Did you see the Olympics?  It was intense this year".  Just think of anything and I hate to tell you to be fake but you can always fake your interests just a little bit just in case you barely have anything in common.  Remember, the best way to make friends is to talk.  Other people are shy too so someone has to stand up and say something.  Good luck :D

Answer 13

I started school last week, and had the same issue. For the first couple of days i just wanted people to approach me. But it didnt work at all. After i started talking to people, things got much easier, and im making friends quickly. the only way your going to get friends quickly, is to put yourself out there, and talk to a bunch of people.

dont be scared! u can do it! i promise! :)

Answer 14

i was the same way.  catholic school and all.

you have GOT to assert yourself.

my entire freshman year i was alone..i had like two friends.

sophomore year i finally talked to people.

i wasn't so scary..they're just people.  

THEN I WAS MAD because i realized that i MISSED OUT on a great year all beacause i couldn't bring myself out of my shell.

that taught me a lesson.  in college i'm way different that i was then.

Answer 15

when u r at lunch again, u could try to sit with a smaller group of people and they should talk to you OR they would say SOMETHING BAD to u well this worked for me and i got friends well its up to u

Answer 16

if youre at a new school its best to let everyone get in their groups and get situated.....they feel like they have some catching up to do since a whole summer has past and they didnt talk EVERYBODY over the summer....

skip the next few days and let everyone get reaquainted..this way all the reconnecting will be done and people will be more open to talking to you...

this is just what id do...yes people are shy but you didnt go unnoticed...people are still getting into their surroundings and with a new year everythings new...alll the summer stories are new and youd feel more awkward if someone had let you in their conversation because youd be lost and then theyd think you were boring and not want to talk to you lol  

trust me, just give it a few days..youll make friends in no time =)

Answer 17

Tomorrow, introduce yourself to them, perfectly normal thing to do.  

Don't wait for life to find you, go, tackle life - like there's no tomorrow!  

Answer 18

Well It kinda souds like how I was in high school, so in my opinion this can be very difficult. I am not very alert right now so I will not have great advice but.... You will need to come out of your comfort zone a little so that you will have friends and it won't be regrettable. Like things out of the ordinary for you even. Bring something cool to school.. a pic., a lot of candy,..etc.. Maybe just do something funny and start a group of your own group. Get involved in maybe a sport or a band. But don't be scared to put yourself out there because I promise you won't regret it. Good luck, Bridget  

Answer 19

Try to make conversation!

i know you're shy and that they're intimidating but if you want to have friends then you have to try!

If you hear someone having a conversation about something you like then join them! Or join some clubs !

Or compliment them. Ask them about their music taste. Say something...

You can't just wait for them to come to you.

Remember that they are just as shy.

Good luck ! :)

Answer 20

use a prop of some sort. something that will catch their eye, peak their interest and can be used as a conversation starter. it can be anything. a book, cd, collectible (comic book, cards, etc). have it be something that is of great interest to you. or you could wear something unusual that will get people's attention. of course you want attract good attention. you could also look into extracurricular activities and/or clubs to join.

Answer 21

Just find that one or two people who look like you might have something in common or you find interesting ~ go over to them w/ confidence, be cool, and just say something like ~ hey great shirt or if you are sitting by someone in class ask to borrow a pen.

Resort to being a class clown if you have to then people will be dying to be your friend, just say something whitty and funny, it will only hurt for a moment.

I am so sorry you didn't have a good day but I did something special in your honor when I read your story.  Sorry, I know that can be tough

Tomorrow is a new day so pep up, it will be better

Answer 22

hi there, im so sorry

i know how you feel

youre right youve got to make friends right away before everyones in their cliques and settled

join a club or just talk to people in class who seem like they are nice and youd wanna be their friends

just try

im shy too

dont make the same mistake i did

you have to put yourself out there

if youre nice im sure people will be nice back

good luck ok? and dont worry i hope it gets better

take care :):)

Answer 23

Hey, you're right. Everyone is nervous.

Give it time, and continue to be eager to make friends.

Friends, or atleast people you say 'hi' to in the halls make you feel much more comfortable.

Strike up a conversation. Talk about a class you are in together.

Good Luck!!

Answer 24

you have to suck it up and talk to people. start conversations with people that you sit by, act like your cool, and people will believe your cool. (not saying that you aren't). but the longer you wait the worse its gonna be breakin in with the groups.

Answer 25

Go out and meet some people! Just start talking to people! If you don't want to be so upfront. Ask someone for a pencil (even if you have one) then start a conversation.

Answer 26

ya look at someone Else that is alone and talk to them.

and what people hate the most is when your really shy.

so talk to people but don't talk to much because people will thank you are ignoring.

hope i helped you.

Answer 27

if you cant be confident for some reason. then act like it. (fake it till you make it). acting tough and confident will make you seem interesting. ask questions, laugh, say wuttup to random strangers, make jokes, be yourself.

Answer 28

hey im sorry that you feel so bad, but dont try to just shove yourself into somewhere where you dont "really want to be" and where you dont feel comfortable, you will just feel more akward, in time you will definatly find a friend that feels just like you do probably in a class you have, dont force yourself to find friends, in time it will just happen naturally. Good luck <3

Answer 29

You should gradually start talking to new people, and in time you'll have plenty of friends. Just be yourself, act natural, and don't get too nervous.

Answer 30

well you still have the second day, just remember groups are settled in the very begginning off the year so act fast!  talk to everyone but stay yourself, one you find a group you can relax

Answer 31

just when you sit at lunch, open up. tell them who you are and what your interested in. dont do all the talking. make sure you listen to them to. also be funny, if you make them laugh they will wanna hang around you more and like you alot.