First husband made strange comment today..?

Question

to our son together. He told our 20 year old son that it's "messed up" that my children don't have a father figure in their lives now (my current husband and I are going through a trial seperation) and suggested that they take my other children out on a boat if I would let them. My sister said she told me that he still has a thing for me and is trying to get close to me. He also said that he is planning to break up with this current girlfriend. This isn't a big deal to me, but I considered it odd and thought it would be interesting if someone gave me their opinion. :)

Answer 1

My mother and Father had been divorced for 10 years. Married other people and had good lives.  Both sets of marriages failed. I got sick and ended up in ICU for 12 days. When I woke up, my parents let me know they were getting back together. It was odd, but they are happy. That's all that really matters. As long as the mom and dad are happy, the kids will be okay. For the most part.

Answer 2

Send ur first husband out on the I don't want u anymore boat and move on with ur life....its been 18years, it sound like hes screwed up and is playin a immature and selfish game with ur 20yr olds mind  

Answer 3

it sounds as if you may make bad choices or have other issues, Try some counseling.

Answer 4

If you have no interest in him, ignore what he said.

Answer 5

It sounds as if he wishes that he was back in your arms.

Answer 6

I think you should stop thinking about yourself and start thinking about your kids. I applaud you for leaving your first husband because of his abusive behaviour and being an alcoholic. Stay away from him but don't let your kids lose relationship with their father. Don't re-marry so soon wait til your kids are old enough to stand on their own 2 feet and then you can think of yourself. Remember the children come first no matter what age they are. He's right about saying that they don't have a father figure in their lives as you have been married 3x already. Give the marrying a break and focus on your children  

Answer 7

i think he wants you back...do you still have feelings for him??

Answer 8

Don't even go there...

You would not be asking this question unless you had some little twinge of love, lust, etc. for this guy.  Also, why is your sister telling you he still has a "thing" for you?  You're still MARRIED to Husband #3, even if you are not living together!  Whether or not he breaks up with his current girlfriend should be no issue to you.  If this guy was the abusive alcoholic you describe him as, then self respect and love for yourself should keep you from ever even consider ANY type of relationship with him, outside of any children you may mutually share.

Heaven help Husband #4!

Answer 9

He just means that it's messed up that you keep carelessly bringing children into this world and then driving their fathers off.