First time cat owner question: boundaries?

Question

Sorry to be asking so many questions but I have a 4 month lovely old boy kitten and, when I got him about 8 weeks back, decided I didn't want him in my bedroom. I spoke to the vet about this and he said fine and just be consistent. So I have been - 3 or 4 sprays and he doesn't try to come in any more. He'll paw the door and mew in the morning for brekkie which is fine - although I try to feed him at 8 and not to open the door when he's mid mew so he doesn't think that's why I'm opening it.

Now, here's the thing. I live in a smallish top flat and he's going to be an inside cat and I'd now like him to have free roam of the place DURING the DAY. I don't like shutting him out of the room if I have to pop in for stuff throughout the room, especially when he copes on his own through the night.

SO, can I let him wander in the bedroom throughout the day - and come into be in the morning once I've opened the door and fed him and still shut him out at NIGHT without merry h**l breaking loose and him scratching and mewing HUGELY when he's till shut out at night?

PLEASE don't give me any answers telling me to let him in my bed at night - that's not going to happen, and the only way to stop that is to shut the bedroom door and give him reign of the rest of the flat. Also, he's not going to be an outdoor cat - so many have been run down on the road outside my flat I couldn't bear to let him out.

Answer 1

try this close ur bedroom door and sleep in another room with out him seeing what room u go in to u wont hear him so he has to wait try it

Answer 2

Didn't want him in your bedroom? Are you joking? My cat is part of my family man, he sleeps right next to me, he can go wherever he wants.  He is my brother, your crazy if you can just "decide you don't want him in your bedroom".  How cruel is that.  Why even get the cat.

Answer 3

not being funny, but unless a cat is very old/ill/disabled i would never keep them indoors as there is no good reason for it.no healthy cat should be kept from going outside. since you live in an area unsuitable for cats what possessed you to get one? stick to hamsters

Answer 4

If your teaching/taught him the bedroom is a no-kitty zone then I suggest to keep your bedroom door closed during the day too. Cat's are smart, he's getting and will get the jest that your bedroom is just not his roaming area. So don't let the door be open during the day to tempt him per-say with the bedroom. Like your vet said, be consistant with what you want to teach your cat. Bedroom is no during the night, its no during the day. We have a cat in a very small apartment too. We keep her entertained with lots of her proven favorite toys, she has her favorite sleeping spots mapped out, and she is a happy cat. Nothing wrong with teaching your pet some no and yes's of what you expect of him, just keep the bedroom a NO area. He will be happy with the rest of the flat day and night. toys, scratching post, scratching tree houses for him to climb....you do your part to keep him content and you do what you need to keep you content.  

Answer 5

Very sorry; but as smart as cats are, they will inevitably get confused if you let them in sometimes and not others - see the reasoning: you wont go to sleep as soon as you go in every night, so he won't link that to being left out. The sun sets at a different time every night and there's sometimes clouds or storms etc anyway, so he wont link it to that. Cat's don't sleep the same way as us (they have frequent little naps) so he wont link it to him being tired. There's nothing for him to relate it to each time because I'm sure you go to bed at a different time anyway, and sometimes you'd get up and go to the toilet, etc etc.