First week of college problems!?

Question

its my first week of college and i already want to go home...ive only made one really good friend who lives next door to me and we havent been to any "college parties" i dont feel like im missing out but am i? i dont really want to go but my roomate is totally different than i thought she was...shes out all the time and invites me but probably thinks im a loser cuz i dont go with her and her annoying friends...help!!

Answer 1

give it time people feel this with a new job too.

Answer 2

go but be really carefull because at collage parties is wene most people get hooked on druges but its good to get every now and then

Answer 3

Hey, calm down!

I know it's weird and you feel thrown out because you expected things to be different. We all go through the same thing.

If you don't feel like you're missing out on something, you're not. It's that simple. You don't even have to like your roomate's friends - keep it nice and civil, and you'll be fine.

It takes time to find the right people... Don't be afraid.

Answer 4

I think you made the right choice. you are not there to party, you are there to get an education, there would be plenty of time for parties. You need to find the right people who would encourage you in achieving your goals. Hope this helps!

Answer 5

hang in there, everyone has these troubles in the beginning, You'll find your place.

and the parties are over rated...

Answer 6

normal, normal, normal

don't do anything drastic like leaving, things will get better

if you have a good friend next door and your studies are going OK, then you are doing fine, a lot of hard partiers will have a hard time keeping their studies going  

Answer 7

It's only the first week, give yourself a break. The fact that you've already made one good friend puts you way ahead of most people. Just relax and let things happen as they happen.

Answer 8

If you have one good friend that's a good thing. People in college who have a great number of "friends" probably won't keep in touch with them after college.

Some people like parties, some people don't. I don't like to go to parties because I tend not to like the majority of people there. Perhaps you could give it a try, and if you don't like it then don't go. It's not a big deal.

In college, your roommate makes a HUGE difference. My roommate is amazing and is totally understanding of my dislike of parties among other things. While your roommate seems nice (since she invites you out and such), perhaps you could consider transferring to another dorm (although that make it worse)?

Just wait a while, don't expect to make friends in your first week, especially in classes with large rosters. Maybe join some clubs or sports that you're interested in. Those are a really great place to make friends.

Answer 9

Aw! Hi sweetheart! I just graduated from college in May. Let me tell you - freshmen and sophomore year were my favorite!!! It just takes awhile to get adjusted, but you'll love college. Don't worry about going to parties right away, there will be plenty. Make sure you try to bond with your roommate because that will be so important that you two get along. Just be honest with her and tell her if she's bothering you. There is nothing worse than not feeling comfortable in your own room. Just focus on your classes and homework and when you're not in class - maybe walk around campus and say hi to strangers, lol. You know what I did the first couple of weeks? I would sit with random people in the cafeteria. I was so nervous but I met 3 of my best friends from college that way! Just be yourself :) Everyone will be nice because they're in the same boat, you know? You're not alone! being away from home can be hard at first. just hang in there, you'll be fine.