Five year anniversary redo wedding reception

Question

hi there,

next month me and my husband will be married for two years. now even though its a long ways away i was thinking on our five year anniversary. we throw a reception because at our first wedding it was more of a cermony then a reception we didnt have a dance floor and we didnt get to have our first dance. and our wedding was more about the person throwing it then it was about me and my husband. i didnt even get to pick my dress long story dont want to go there. so i was thinking of having a reception for our 5 year and it would be all about me and my husband. kinda like a big party in our honnor have center peices with roses and have a dj to play mine and my husbands first song i am not talking about a fancy reception with big ice sculptors and things i am talking more about like a park and a big bbq with my hubbys and mine fav foods. we were thinking of being the only ones with formal wear the rest would be in jeans and t shirts what do you think do you think we should have a reception for our five year due to the fact that we didnt have one

Answer 1

I kinda agree with ILOVEWED... It's sad that you didn't have what you wanted when it was YOUR day, but I'd say waiting for a "Big One" like

the fifth, tenth or even 25th would be classier. It SHOULD be all about

you and your husband to begin with. I'm sorry you felt it wasn't. You were robbed of something very special.  

Answer 2

Hi.  I feel for you....I really do, but I just don't know.  I am not a fan of all of these re-dos that people are having.

I, myself, regret many things in my life that I can never get back.  I wish I would have had a high school grad party.....never did.  Never had a college grad party either....wish I did.  Didn't have a big 40th or 50th birthday party....wish I did.

I guess the point being is that many things in life...well, once they are gone...they are gone.  

Of course, this is YOUR life, so you must make the decision.  What you have planned is low-key and nice.  BUT....you still seem to be trying to get back "some of the magic" and, frankly, I don't know that you CAN!!  Five years will have gone by....you are not bride and groom.  Things have moved on in your life.

I totally understand your disappointment, but do you think a dance and some roses on the tables will make you feel better?  

There is nothing wrong with throwing a BBQ party and having a bunch of friends over, but I don't know about the formal attire and such.

If you feel that bad about your wedding, why not just save your money....go off to a nice beach destination and have a renewal of vows ceremony....just the two of you on a beach at sunset.  Then go out to a fancy dinner.

Just my thoughts.....your life...your decision.

Answer 3

You should do whatever you want. I think it sounds like fun.

As far as people saying, "You didn't get to do it the first time, too bad." Or, "It's gone now...you can't get it back." How depressing! Lighten up, people! Have some fun in your life - life is too short! There's no reason not to "re-do" things the way you want them! Of course it's not the same...it will be better!

Answer 4

I think it's going way too far 5 years after the fact to throw it like it's a wedding reception. Save that for the 20th or 40th when it makes sense. It IS okay to throw an anniversary dinner with a few close friends and family but it doesn't have to be a big to do with wearing a wedding dress and tux and everything. You certainly shouldn't expect extravagant gifts. You shouldn't send out fancy invites like it's a wedding either. Let it be relaxed and totally informal for you and your spouse included. My hubby and I will have our 10 year anniversary in a few years and we just might make it a vacation instead of a big to do. After all - on the wedding day - wasn't what you were really looking to get to - the honeymoon???

Answer 5

i think itd be fine there isnt a set year  when you can have a reception if you can afford it go for it