Five year old daughter?

Question

My eldest daughter is five almost six years old. She just finished school yesterday. I still have to attend university so my sister and I planned on my sister taking my three children while I attend school but even if I mention my sisters name she starts crying until she makes her self sick. I don't know what the problem is because she always stayed at my sisters house all last year while I was in school. I'm a young parent trying to better educate myself to better provide for my family. My husband is currently in Iraq so that's totally out of the question. How can I deal with this? I want her to be comfortable with my sister but I get the sense that she isn't but won't tell me why she doesn't want to go. So I guess I am looking for advice and guidance. Also when I send her to my sisters, Her brother and sister go with her so when she gets all worked up it gets my other two children acting up and crying.

Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

Sit her down and ask what bothers her

Can you sister come to your house instead of them going to her so she has her own things around

tell her when you will be home and call during breaks

maybe she will calm down after a few days

Answer 2

Have you asked her why she doesnt want to go?

She could just do that because she thinks you wont leave her then.

Mom to 4yr twins + new baby girl: Funny that how ALL the schools in my area are still in open.

Answer 3

Hi i think its because shes going to miss her mummy and so i think you should reinsure her that u will se her

Answer 4

She probably thinks you are going to leave her. You have to make sure, 1. She is comfortable before you leave, and 2. She knows when you are going to be back, even if she cant tell time. Before me and my brother could tell time my mom would tell us, "I'll be back in 4 spongebobs" (or other cartoons) Which meant 2 hours, even though we didnt know it.

Answer 5

Well, was your husband in Iraq last summer?  If not, she could be scared because now she won't have both her parents around all day.  I think it has something to do with Dad not being around, and now Mom won't be around during the day?

Answer 6

Man, I cannot agree with CEM enough!    Since she is the oldest, she is now 2nd in command (in her little mind) and she is probably worried about "what will happen if mommy is gone too".   When you can sit her down alone with no noise (no TV, radio, nothing) calmly 'talk' to her....don't lecture and let her talk and talk....let her get it all out before you start asking or answering questions.

My oldest son became 'the man of the house' in his little 6yr old mind and it took a lot to 'make' him be a kid.   He was adamant about taking care of me!   Silly, I know, but he was trying to be a big boy.

Before I go......God's speed to your husbands safe return!

Answer 7

Does your sister have a male friend, boyfriend, husband, relative, or neighbor watch the children when they're at her home--EVER???

That is the first question I would ask myself if my daughter was this upset about staying at your sister's house. If your daughter reacts like she is going to a dangerous and scary place, maybe she is.

In case this is not the problem, I wouldn't put thoughts in her head but I would find out if there are ever adult or teen males in your sister's house while your children are there. Better safe than sorry!! : /

Answer 8

Instead of making her go, then hire a babysitter.

Answer 9

Well, i don't know but maybe you could explain to her that you will always be back afterwards to collect her. Maybe let her phone you when you're not there to reinforce that fact. Set a time with her that you will always be back the. I don't know if she will be too young to understand but you could try.