I wrote yesterday to say my boyfriend's ex wife (just became final this week) sent him a letter yesterday. He opened it and let me read it without me even having to ask. It was a pretty nice letter actually just saying she hopes we are doing well, that her parents said he sounded excited about me, and that she bets we are pregnant or engaged (we are neither). She said she hoped his girlfriend wasn't mad she had written, wished him luck and said she wasn't angry anymore and was moving on with life, but to write her back if he wanted. I just said, "nice letter. are you going to write her back?' and he excitedly replies, "of course!" Now, I am happy he shared the letter with me without prompting and that it was in fact a nice letter. But my boyfriend doesn't understand at all why I had a bit of a knot in my stomach. I guess I just didn't like how excited he was to say he would definitely be writing her back and that while this may be a closure ritual, that I fear it is going to become a penpal situation (she is in prison). I see his point that I shouldn't feel upset at all because he showed me the note, but at the same time I was just trying to express my knot in my stomach and why I feel kinda/sorta uneasy. Our conversation turned into a big fight. I mean, a woman knows another woman and she even stated in her letter that she thought I might be mad. I'm not mad, just uneasy. What do you guys think? I might need a stern talking to! Thanks...
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