Follow up to "Why do I have no friends at all/am I a loser?"?

Question

Here's what I looked like when I was skinny: http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=R8KQRUE&key=VQM

Even then I had no friends/never had a girlfriend. I can sing/play guitar but I'm not far enough along to do this in public. Every time I think about joining a band I think about the types of people musicians usually are: partiers/drinkers/womanizers and all of that scares me. I'm very funny; I can make most people laugh but it never translates to wanting to hang out. I had a dog but was too lazy to take care of him so I gave him back to my Mom. She pays all my bills cuz I spend my paycheck on junk food. Seriously, I eat a lot. I've had religion but all it does is fill me with more and more anxiety over my salvation. I or my Mom can't afford therapy. I'm so lost. So what other options can you think of?

Answer 1

well sounds like you need to get your priorities straight first!

and your photo's isn't bad at all just lacking a smile and effort to tturn it the right way!

are you lazy??? if so are you lazy when the people you meet who could be potential friends one day?

I think you soo comsumed with trying to impress people that your ablity to build a reatlationship is lacking!

i still think you need to get your priorities strait -- mom pays bills because i want junk food!  ummmm only you can fix that!  

and use most musicians are party goers but not all of them!  and sence you already pass judgement on them and have your mind set on that!  your not opening up to learn more about them and that makes you look stand off ish!

just because someone has a different life style don't mean you can be friends!  and i feel that's how you live your life.. and if you live it that way i'm sure you attract the same into your life!  like look at you as a bum because you can't give up junk food and mom is caring for you!!  

try stop eating so much and give up some of that close mindness and reach out and WORK to make the friends they won't fall on your lap if that's what you think will happen!

sorry i hate to be so  bold but you keep posting this and i guess you need to hear it!

only you can change who you are! not me not any yahoo answer person YOU!  your call

Answer 2

Be excited my friend!

Here you are questioning yourself (as if to think you're a loser), and you're going to meet someone that makes your heart sing!  It's going to happen for the both of you.

One of the best moments of your life is still ahead of you :  )

I wish I would be there to see it when it does.

Answer 3

Anybody with that much talent does not qualifyfor loser status!  You just gotta' keep at it that's all!  Your doin' fine! Your just bored!  Life is like that sometimes!  Keep up those small steps like Day activity groups. Try Kareokee!  Then maybe try out for a musicians job just for the h**l of it!  Keep lookin' in the want ads for a singer or band player! Trust me you can't go wrong cause, they all have personality problems!

They'll make you look emotionally healthy!

Answer 4

I don't see why! you are a good looking guy!

Answer 5

Stop it.  Seriously.  If you don't like something- actively change it.  Stop buying the junk food, get active, and stop worrying about what others think about you. (Hot or not.com is probably a horrible self-esteem booster! )

Play your music because you enjoy it and you are good at it- you don't have to be a drunk partying womanizer.  Actively make better choices, and you will attract people of like mind.

I also recommend reading The Secret or something about the power of attraction.  There really is something to that.

Answer 6

just keep talking to people and making them laugh its not hard to make friends, you kinda sound like i do.

Answer 7

You are clinically depressed, you need help.  If you can't afford therapy and you don't have health insurance, there are community clinics that can help you.  More than anything, you have to make the decision to change your life yourself, and your mom has to stop enabling you.  I don't know how old you are, but you need to stop drifting through life and take charge of your own situation.  This may only happen with the help of a good therapist.  Once you start getting your life together, you'll start making friends, but worry about getting yourself together first.  I don't know where you live, but try going to www.211.org and see if there is a directory for your city or county, if there is, there will be a listing for community clinics, or sliding scale fee mental health clinics or something, there's usually a number you can call and their operator will help you figure out who you need to call based on your situation.  Do it today.

Answer 8

Many people are like you. It's normal.

Answer 9

you are a quiet person and feel comfortable with yourself, that's fine. You don't say how old you are, but I am guessing mid teens. It may just be a phase. This could change later on, as you grow up and meet different people.

Futhermore, it's not like you lock yourself away. You do play sports with other kids and I assume you got to school everyday. Don't worry about it. Not everyone is a party animal. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being a quiet person. Actually, I find quiet people refreshing a world where everyone seems to be fighting for an imaginary spotlight all the time... ;o)

Answer 10

You are smart AND you've got good looks.

If I saw you walking down a street I would want to be your friend.

You sound great.

How old are you?