For a destination wedding, should i check with my wedding party before setting a date?

Question

some of my bridesmaids are teachers and have mentioned that they cannot take vacations in the middle of the school year unless its on a holiday...but i want to get married then bc its cheap...

Answer 1

If it's important that these people share your day then I say move your dates! I wanted to get married in the fall and moved it to August so 2 of my friends who go to school in Hawaii (even though I transferred back home) could be attendants. Traveling can be expensive for anyone and the hours you loose at work can make it twice as hard! so even though you might save some money with this date you will save them alot of money and not force them to say no if you move it a little!

Answer 2

Definitely need to ask people when planning a destination wedding. Including your family. Teachers can't take off for things like that, and you will need to make sure they can even participate because of the added expense of being in a destination wedding on a teacher's budget.

Answer 3

Teachers do not have the luxury of taking time off. If you really want these girls in your wedding party you will have to compromise a little.

Answer 4

yes... i would ask anyone your considering before setting a date!

Answer 5

this forum is full of people planning there weddings and should help

http://www.freewebs.com/weddingforum/

Answer 6

It depends on what your priority is - the bridal party or the date.

If you're set on that date, book your wedding and be prepared to have some people be unable to attend because of work or family commitments (remember, their lives don't stop just because you are getting married).

If you really want to have those friends participate, then you should choose a date when they will be able to attend.

Answer 7

Sorry, I've been a schoolteacher in my past life.  You do not get to take time off during the school year--unless for family emergencies (like a death).  They're not kidding you, and they're not trying to make it difficult for you, but they are being honest with you.  If you want them, you need to accommodate their schedules so you can have them.  If it's more important to you to be married during the off season, then you're going to have to excuse the teachers from being your bridesmaids, because they won't be able to do it.  You just have to decide which is more important to you, having your friends there or doing it when it's less expensive.  I'm sure your friends will understand if you choose to go when it's less expensive--that IS a downside to being a teacher--you have to travel during peak times, when everyone else is travelling as well.  Good luck!