For a wedding, is it better to give the couple money, or a gift?

Question

And if you are going to get them a gift, what is a good one?

Answer 1

Honestly, I am getting married in the fall and I would love just to have $$.  We have put so much into the wedding that we are living off beans and weenies (not literally, but you know what I mean).

Answer 2

money... or something from their registry. it's tricky to get them something else and know they will love it. there are wedding gift registries for a reason. We got A LOT of walmart gift cards too. That was kinda nice. We mainly bought food when them though.

This was my FAVORITE gift we got. But we registered for it. I use these bowls everyday. And honestly, I buy them for most of the couples I know... even if they didnt register at Williams-Sonoma.  http://www.williams-sonoma.com/products/...

Answer 3

depends, does any of them have there own $$. Because if they do, yo ucan only give them more $4, they already have there own $$ to buy what the h**l they want.

If they dont still give them $$ to help them pay a bill or something.

Answer 4

It's up to you.  I give them a gift (usually an afghan or a quilt) if we are close.  I don't attend if we are not close and just send a card congratulating the couple.  On rare occasions, I have purchased gift cards for Target.

I will admit that I became rather cynical about wedding gifts in my early 20s just based on the comments I was hearing from brides.  Decided that unless I knew them well, wasn't giving another gift.

Answer 5

Gifts are good for showers ....money for weddings.  Also, unless you're really sure its something they want - stick to the registry.

Answer 6

trust me, we like money the most

Answer 7

Personal check in the bride's maiden name!  

Reasons being is that for one, the bride has not legally changed her name yet and it's hard to cash a check in your "new" name that might take forever to get once she hits up the DMV, SS office and the bank.  Second, cash is easier to steal.  A friend of mine had her cards stolen from their wedding treasure box that was not guarded the entire time.  They estimated they lost $2-3,000 dollars because most people gave cash instead of personal checks.  It was quite a shame.  

As far as how much, I always try to shoot for covering the cost of my meal...and my husbands too!  So, generally anywhere from $50-150 dollars is appropriate from a couple....depending on your relationship with the bride and groom and on the location of the reception.

Answer 8

Money.  When people asked me where we were registered for our wedding I just told them the bank.  That way there was no confusion what I wanted.

Answer 9

I think a gift is better, unless you know for a fact that they really need money.

If they have registered for gifts somewhere then its easy just to pick something off of their list.

If they havent registered then you can get them a gift card for a good resturant or target or wal mart.

Giving them a picture frame with a nice love saying and the date of their wedding is a great idea as well, or a nice photo album.

Answer 10

A gift is more classy and more thoughtful.  However, no new couple will say no to money.  If anyone needs it, it's newlyweds.  :)

Answer 11

It all depends....

If they are registered somewhere, giving money (check, cash or gift card) is considered tacky.  Take the time to go through the registry.  Most couples will register for things in all price ranges which will fit anyone's budget.

If it says "No Boxed Gifts Please" and they aren't registered anywhere, giving money (check, cash or gift card) is what they are looking for.

If it mentions donating to a certain charity, follow the instructions they give.

If it mentions "No gifts, please" bring a nice card and some flowers.

If there is nothing written mentioning gifts, try to get them a gift they can use.  Picture frames are always nice, as are flower vases, leatherbound photo albums and cookbooks.  You can also give them a gift card to a store like Bed, Bath and Beyond, Macy's or Crate and Barrell so they can buy things they can use as a couple.

Hopefully that helps! :)

Answer 12

money is always the best!