For breastfeeding moms?

Question

If you breastfeed for a year are your b*****s never used sexually. Ok let me explain lol. are your b***s completly "off limits" the whole time during breastfeeding the baby Like a year?..

Sorry i cant explain it do you get what im saying like b***s before the baby are used sexually then are they completly for the baby after then back to sexually. just seems confusing

Answer 1

With my husband, they were more than usual, less used, but they weren't off limits.  It was less common that they were used sexually, but it was sort of because we never knew if milk would come out, haha.

Answer 2

i understand what you are saying.  I'm not sure if you "have" to do it that way or... some people choose to.  i would not let my hubby touch them when we had s*x.  maybe i was afraid they would leak or something.  I'm pretty sure i did it so i wouldn't like gross him or anything... plus it felt really strange while breastfeeding.  I'm sure you can do whatever you want though.

Answer 3

I didn't like my b***s being used for anything other than milk supply when i was exclusively breast feeding.  I exclusively breast fed for the first 3 months, and i would leak when they were touched, a big turn-off during s*x, ya know?  Once i started supplementing my daughter with formula (i couldn't get milk out while pumping and had to go back to work), my b*****s adjusted and didn't seem to leak anymore.  and when she started sleeping through the night (also at 3 months old), i wasn't as tired/cranky/worried about leaking milk.  I managed to go a full 12 months nursing my daughter (with formula supplements).

Answer 4

I understand you 100%.  I breastfeed my 3 kids and for periods at a time they were completely off limits sexually. But sometimes they weren't.....there is a difference from when they are used for one thing or another. I know it's wierd but you can think of them differently they are different sensations. They weren't used too much sexually but here and there and only when I said it was okay. I know it's hard and your husband might be a little frustrated but he should understand.  

Answer 5

My b***s are off limits when I'm b/feeding because I don't feel comfortable switching between sexual and functional.  It makes me feel weird.

I don't like the idea of being s**y and then baby waking up and feeding.  Also, breastmilk doesn't float my husbands boat so he wouldn't want to go near them anyway.

Answer 6

It's not a rule.  For me, I just plain didn't want to be touched there anymore (after nursing a baby all day).  Do whatever you feel, and whatever works best for you!

Answer 7

It's kind of like that, but honestly it's up to you and how you feel.  Truth is, they're a great erotic zone; I thoroughly enjoyed foreplay that included my b*****s and still fantasize about it.  But I just spent over two years nursing and I just honestly can't stand right now for anyone but me to touch them.  I guess I need to "reclaim" my own body as mine before I can feel like sharing again.  Does that make sense?  While I was nursing, it wasn't physically unpleasant to have them handled by my husband (unless they were engorged or something), but they just got touched so much all the time, that by bed time I just wanted them to be left alone.  And it annoyed me that my husband referred to them as "his" (he was kind of joking but kind of not, you know).  As for how my husband felt, he didn't want any kind of oral contact while I was nursing as this grossed him out and he's disappointed that though it's been two months since weaning, there's still some lactating happening.  Anyway, eventually, I supposed when the "girls" have had enough R & R, I'll let them out to play again.  Right now, however, I'm still fending off my toddler's attempts to feel up her former food source.

Answer 8

There is no reason they should be off limits.  It's totally how you are psychologically.  If you see them only as feeding tools, it may be hard to feel very s**y about them.  You may also worry about leaking, which they may do during s*x.  I'd talk to your husband about it so that you know ahead of time how he would feel if they leaked.  He most likely won't care at all and this will set your mind at ease on that front.  Good luck.

Answer 9

From the time I started having s*x again (4 weeks pp), my b*****s were not "off limits" and while many people I know said they weren't able to see their b*****s in a sexual way anymore, I never had that problem.  When I am with my husband, they are s**y, and when I am feeding my daughter, they are bottles essentially. I haven't had trouble keeping the two roles straight - I think it just depends on the person.

Answer 10

Nope, not off limits ... I still would let my hubby touch them, he just wouldn't suck on them, or anything :-) ... lol