For everyone who has ever been cheated on, or cheated on their partner....?

Question

I want your stories basically. Did any of you manage to make the relationship work, or is cheating a huge deal breaker for you? If you were the one who cheated, did your partner forgive you?

Answer 1

Im a cheater. I have NEVER admitted to cheating and never will

Answer 2

I've been cheated on several times in the past.  Either a friend of a girl admitted it to me, or she told me herself.  I often thought it was something I did so I would try harder to keep her and basically turned it around so that in her eyes I was a wuss and cheating was acceptable.  To which....she would do it again or just simply break up with me.

What I learned down the road is that me being a wuss-boy, acting needy and clingy, would drive her away to the arms of a "real man".  Either through cheating or breaking up with me (or both).  This was validated when I became a "real man" and would get women to either cheat on their significant other, or break up with them to be with me.

I also found I shouldn't date cheaters.  That cheaters usually have this philosophy inside them that they "had to cheat" and if the circumstances presented themselves again, they would feel nearly comfortable cheating again because the past justified the last time they cheated.  Which goes to say, "Once a cheater, always a cheater."  So when I find this out from women, I stop dating them.  It's a deal breaker for me even at the earliest of stages.  I go by the philosophy that if you feel the urge to cheat, break up first, then pursue your sexual passion with another.  The only exception to my "no dating cheaters" rule is if she last cheated at least 5 years ago.  Usually 5 years is a minimal amount of time that anyone can "wise up" to their hurtful ways.  But that doesn't mean when I date them I find myself a bit weary as to whether they're worth dating or not.

Answer 3

I'm not going to go into it, but have been cheated on in the past.  Cheating is always a unforgivable deal breaker for me.

Answer 4

My last boyfriend cheated on me 6 months into our relationship. What basically happened is that we got into the huge argument...it was blown way out of proportion now that i think back on it, but he stormed out and was gone for around a week. During that week he slept with some random girl that he met and that's what drove him back home. When he told me about it he was pretty much in tears and he couldn't apologize enough for it.

I gave him another chance because i forgive easily and i knew he was in a bad place. We were together for another year after the 6 months and he never cheated on me again (i know for a fact). We broke up because he was going off to college and i just felt he needed his freedom. We didn't talk for 4 or 5 months and then we got really close again and now he's my best friend and he's became my current boyfriends (of a year and a half) best friend too. It all worked out pretty well for us.

Answer 5

girls/boys do not cheat they explore and love variety till they r sexually satisfied exhausted and want safer s*x

uncondommed s*x

whenever  married till divorce then they have another affair

Answer 6

My boyfriend cheated on me over 2 years ago. We have 'made it work', although I'm not sure I'll be able to marry him, just because of it, so I'm not really sure we've made it work for any other purpose than to drag on the relationship 2 more years.

The trust was built back up after a while, but the hardest thing for me was being able to respect him again. He cheated on me drunk, with a not so attractive girl (both personality and looks), and it left me really confused. I had a really hard time at first because I felt like everything I did meant nothing. If he was into girls who didn't take care of themselves and were not ambitious, why did I try so hard? I figured out that I would be the way I was with or without him, so I kinda got over that, but it still hurts my feelings, and to be honest, kinda grosses me out.  

Answer 7

Yeah. An ex-boyfriend cheated on me with two different girls, we were all unaware of each other. I found out and broke it off. The other girls did too and he ended up being an outsider at the school for cheating with/on me and the two others. Karma got him back. But yeah I don't deal with cheating too well, you don't need to be with me if you are going to cheat.