For future marriage, everything is agreed upon except s*x?

Question

Ok, we have a pretty awesome relationship considering the mental challenges him and I go through. We recently spoke about marriage and it looks as if we agree on most everything with money, living space, education and so on and so forth. The one area that I see as a problem is s*x. I could go for it like 3 times a week. He, on the other hand can go for it triple that amount. Anybody else have experience in dealing with the s*x issue?

Answer 1

shut up and take it. cuz before you know it, he wont want it at all and you'll be using toys while he's asleep next to u!

Answer 2

meet in the middle, try different things, there are plenty of things that u could do to keep the spice going, stop planning everything

Answer 3

the best suggestions out there that deals with this issue is found in a book that i recently read, because i had some of the same difficulties.  to h**l with h**l which can be purchased on line, i think b and n dot com and amazon.  my friend gave me her copy and i found it very informative after using some of the things in there.  that's the best i have to offer.  good luck and you can make it work.  

Answer 4

You will constantly fight over it.  It will never work out.  Been there...in fact I AM there.

Answer 5

This is a everyday problem for every couple lol. It will never change. You will always fight over it. Just compromise. Sometimes you just gotta do it to make him happy and sometimes he needs to be respectful to you and not push the issue. Eventually he will slow down and you will be wanting it and trying to get him to give it to you!  

Answer 6

LUCKY!

I say go for it every chance you get. Really, if he wants to do it and you're not that into it, how much effort does it take????not that much..

My hub is much less interested, I wish we had that problem!

Answer 7

s*x is a critical ingredient in holding a marriage together. If either person isn't *in the mood*  the other person will feel slighted and/or rejected.  That doesn't bode well for a  long lasting marriage.  If you absolutly HATE the thought of having s*x that often then your marriage will not last.  If you think you could handle it, but just don't crave it that often, you might be able to pull it off.   Maybe he could take it down to 4 days a week instead of 6.  Another thing to think about is if you two do get married and have children the times that you are intimate with each other reduce drastically.   Good luck to you, If you have any doubts don't marry him.

Answer 8

I figure if you both can agree just to have s*x each week is good for anyone.  Think some people don't even have that much s*x in a 3 month span I mean married people.  So if you both can agree to have s*x each week and compromise as you go along it will be fine.  Your soon to be husband must understand the your daily task, your job, your social life, your daily routine might burn you out and all you would want to do on some days is sleep.  And visa versa with him things might change as the week goes along just making it impossible for both of you to perform.  

But remember, s*x plays a big part in a marriage for the better half, before you hit menapause or old age and s*x just can't happen.  But to have an understanding that you are willing to give it all you got, when you can should work for both of you.

Enjoy each other don't make it a task or a must, be free and willing and flowing it will work out just fine.

Good luck

Answer 9

Just be prepared to give it up even when you don't feel like it.

Answer 10

Agree to his s*x desires. He'll slow down when he get older.