For ladies who have been bridesmaids?

Question

What was the rudest or craziest thing a bride has expected of you? Any nasty comments or requests? I was in a wedding many years ago to a former friend (I had just met her when she got engaged, and she immediately asked me to be in her wedding.) While I found it odd to be asked, I accepted and did my very best to help her, to listen, and do basically anything I could to help her out. In her 2 year engagement, she kicked out 2 other bridesmaids for some "offense" or another. Anyway, long story short, after spending thousands on her wedding, doing my hair and make-up as she wished, giving her a great shower and very generous wedding gift, we caught up for lunch after her honeymoon and were discussing the wedding. I asked her "In retrospect, is there anything you would have done differently or wanted to go a different way?" Her answer: "Yes, I would have only had my maid of honor and that's it, no one else wanted to help me." I was NOT the MOH. I pretty much choked on my Cobb salad. Anyone else have similarly nasty brides?

Answer 1

I had an a very Nasty thing happen but it occured with another bridesmaid. It was at my brothers wedding and of was the day before. We were rushing to get evrything done and a bridsmaid comes out of the house and says if you guys need anyhelp just call me goes back inside. 2 hours later comes back out saysthe same thing meanwhile she can see how hard we are working. And she keep doing it until we are done. Later on I found she was playing on the computer the hole time! The day of the wedding she was trying to be the best! Its peed me off  

Answer 2

Mine wasn't a rude bride it was a terribly rude Mother of the Bride.

I think my friends Mum was having trouble dealing with the fact her only daughter was getting married and moving out and then I also think she was going through menopause at the same time.

We were trying on our dresses and decided after trying on some of her pearls that this what the dresses needed and the bride was giving us them as gifts.  I commented on how lovely the real pearls were and she quickly quipped back 'Oooh dear, you will not be getting real pearls trust me, we can't afford that!"  Of course I did not expect real pearls and she wasn't even paying for them anyway!! The bride was.

I got in trouble for having a stripper at the hens night - someone mistakenly left the photos laying around and I got an absolute spraying for that (there WAS two other bridesmaids that organised it too!)

She gave the bride heaps along the way, refusing to pay for things and complaining about the cost of this and that and telling her she didn't 'deserve' such a nice ring.  My poor friend was such a good sport and let most of it go.

I still think her Mum is a cow.

Answer 3

My sister in law was a total bridezilla.  I think she took the cake.  She was a controlling bit--.  We had to have the same exact shoes for the wedding.  Before the church I felt like passing out and she wouldn't let me sit down.  She screamed at me because her mother ordered a big lunch and I wasn't hungry.  I had left my pocketbook in her limo and she screamed at me because I went in the limo when she was in there and she wouldn't give me my pocketbook.  She made me a nervous wreck.  When I went home that night I broke down in tears.  Now I don't talk to her and it has been over three years.  I don't miss her.  I wish I wasn't in her wedding.

Answer 4

It wasn't me but I heard about a bride who made all of her bridesmaids dye their hair the same color before the wedding. That's just weird. Plus the dress she chose for them to buy was $400 and the shoes were $200- I thought that was rather excessive!

Answer 5

Mine is sort of along the lines of yours.

First off, people these days seem to think that part of being a bridesmaid is "helping out", that is not the case. Bridesmaid are required to buy their dress, shoes, etc..and show up. It is bad taste for any bride to require things that the bridesmaid can't afford. It is also in bad taste to assume the bridesmaids will "help out" in the planning or cleaning up after the wedding.

My friend assumed that the bridesmaids would stay behind and clean up her grandmothers backyard after the wedding. I was not comfortable cleaning a stangers backyard.

Answer 6

I haven't been in a wedding but my favorite bride-zilla story is bride makes her MOH go tanning before the wedding because she is too white and won't look good in the pictures, MOH gets HORRIBLY burned by the tanning machine and ends up with burns and scars on her body/face, bride says that the MOH can't be in the wedding anymore because she looks too ugly.  Isn't that awful!!  I would beat the bride!

Answer 7

I never had those bridezilla problems because I am an elder in my family.  My mom had me very young so my sisters and cousins are much younger and I played more of an auntie role.  I have been Matron of Honor a few times and my sisters and cousin look up to me with respect.  I have seen them do some crazy stuff among themselves and friends though

Answer 8

Mine wasn't the bride , it was her soon to be mother in law.  She didn't like that some of us had tattoos so when she saw that the bridesmaids dresses didn't cover them , AFTER we already paid for them , she made us return them , and buy a more expensive dress.  A couple of the bridesmaids were a little on the chunky side , and we heard her say to the photographer "is there any way to crop the fat ones so the photos will look better?  I dont know why she had to pick such cows for bridesmaids!"        and the poor bride , she trid to help us ,  but she got pushed around too!!

Answer 9

Have you ever heard of the term "bride-zilla"? That applies to people who kick other people out of their wedding. Seriously, unless they've done something heinous, like sleep with the groom or stab bride in the back, just let it go. The purpose of a "bridesmaid" traditionally has been to a) stand up for the bride's honour (i.e., groom's a jerk, bridesmaid tells bride's dad); b) help the bride (but uh, not cleaning up, helping like throwing a shower); and c) being a support person for the incredibly freaked-out bride-to-be on the most stressful day until childbirth. :)

I've been pretty lucky both as a bridesmaid and as a bride, but if any friend ever treated me like that - oh, you made me mad, you're out - I would have to take a photo of the imprint my shoe made on her bum. Bridezillas are horrid and should be stopped at all costs - just b/c it's your "special day" doesn't mean you get to be a snot.

Answer 10

Geez. That's pretty rude of her to do that. I would have raised my eyebrow at her and said, "Mmm..really, cos you know, I spent a lot of money and time helping YOU out." What a bit**.

I am about to be a MOH for my sis this coming Saturday. Now if she remotely acts like this girl that you're talking about--she would know how I feel--maybe after the wedding or something, but trust me, she would know. I think the weirdest thing she has done was have when I asked if I could have my hair done...(the other bridesmaids were not planning on it, she was the only one planning so far), and she gave me a smirk and said, "Why, are you trying to stand out because your the MOH?" God that was rude. Um, no. It's only to look nice for YOUR wedding.

Be happy her wedding is over and done with. She sounds like a bridezilla!

Answer 11

I wasn't a bridesmaid for any "rude" brides. LOL...but the dresses for all of them were like so...Blah...ugly, flashy, etc. And the guys they put me with to walk down the aisle with, just pathetic.  

Answer 12

Oh yeah! I was in my cousins wedding years ago. Talk about a nasty female when it came to planning her "perfect" wedding. I almost walked out of her "perfect" wedding after she made a nasty comment about my weight. After she made me angry,  I cornered that *****zilla in the corner, and let her have it. She had been making rude comments, and snide remarks toward me for weeks. I had had enough. And I let her have it. My aunt came in and saw that I had my cousin in the corner yelling at her. She started laughing at my cousin, and told her that she deserved everything that came out of my mouth. After I was done tearing into my cousin, I looked at her and said, I will ONLY show up for the wedding rehearsal, and the wedding. Don't call me, don't ask me for help, don't ask me for favors. You want to abuse someone then abuse someone else. After that she called me the day before the rehearsal, and I showed up for the wedding.  It took me a while to forget her behavior, but I did forgive her. Now she's a happily married lady, with 2 year old triplets.

good luck to you. :)  

Answer 13

I have been a bridesmad 5 times and I have been extremely lucky in that not one bride has been demanding or terrible.  My friend, however, was in her college friend's wedding and the bride gave all the bridesmaids a list of "rules" for the reception.  Like, bridesmaids could leave the table during dinner, shoes were to be worn all evening long, all drinks must be in a glass (no bottles), smoking must be done outside where no one could see, etc, etc,  Needless to say, all the bridesmaid immediately kicked off their shoes during dinner, and smoked a cigarette while drinking a bottle of beer.

Answer 14

Without going into horrible detail, I ended a friendship (best friend actually) because of the way she treated me on her wedding day--and then tried to revise events inside her own mind to make me look like the bad guy.  That's when I said never again--no more weddings.