For married people only, especially women. Has your marriage been what you expected?

Question

I'd like to know how many of you feel that your marriage was actually meant to be and that you have NO regrets? Did you get your education finished, was the timing of your marriage right and did you have kids at the right time? Did you marry the right person? I know no marriage is perfect, but even though it's not are you happy?

And then I want to know how many of you would like to start all over again and choose a new mate?

Answer 1

i have been married for seven years now, i am not telling that i am happy or not with my marriage but if i back to when i was single i never got marry . i think single people is much more happier than of married people .  

Answer 2

I'm a newlywed...just over 3 months. I must say it's a bigger adjustment than I thought it would be...since we had already lived together...but these adjustments have helped open the line of communication more and I think we're going to have a happy marriage. My husband is a sweetheart...he's led probably the toughest life of anyone I've ever met(he lost his mom and dad young) he's an inspiration to me because despite all that he's been through hes such a nice, honest caring man who's made a good life for himself and he's so close to his family(just his sis who is a young widow )and family is huge to me. I've graduated college and am in a career and we're not looking to have kids quite yet...have to get this marriage thing done first...I wouldn't change my mate for anything in the world

Answer 3

My first marriage was perfect..we were in college..He was my high school sweetheat..2 years later we had a beautiful baby girl...1 year later he passed away with cancer.  10 years later I remarried it was a disaster and ended in divorce quickly.  I have never remarried

Answer 4

If i started all over i would choose the same mate. Sometimes its been a hard road but marriage and kids with a man who held the same wishes, was something i always wanted. I know that most of us hold the same wish of finding someone and having kids but for me i have always felt there is just so much more to it that being inlove. Everything was important to me, and as it turned out we both agreed on just about every major issue. We are like chalk and cheese with personalities but the fact remains you just cannot change your deep seated morals... and i have stuck by them and in return they have served me well. Married 10 years, extremely happy to face the challenges that come with being married. If you stick with what feels right for you, instead of doing things to please someone else then you just cant go wrong. I stuck with my own gut feelings, had kids when it felt right, have done everything only when it feels right.

Answer 5

First of all as far as education, my hubby was not able to finish high school, since at that time I was leaving with him(I had already graduated from high school) So I do feel bad that at the time, he wouldn't really give it his all knowing that it was his last semester, since I was at home waiting for him. I mean he would get home, we would be happy to see each other, and go out. I remember the few times he would do his homework I was so bored. He got to miss prom and thats another thing that I regret. I wish I could have been there for him, but pretty soon he is going to get his GED :) I didn't continue in college because I was working, and we needed the money. I don't plan to go back to college since I have a great job with my dads business.

We don't have kids at the moment, I just went through a miscarriage 2 weeks ago. But we do plan to get pregnant as soon as I can, and I know that as far as there, there will not be any regrets.

I know I married the right person, even if I could start over again I wouldn't choose a new mate. He is my everything, my best friend, don't get me wrong we have our arguments. Main one is his family living with us! But we are in the process of building a home for me and my hubby, and hope to be out within 4 months.  

Answer 6

I've been married for 19yrs. it hasn't always been peaches and cream, but for the most part it's been a blast!!

we have 4 children and 3grandchildren and we both are 39....and if I had to do it all over again I still choose who I'm with today

Answer 7

I would never chose a different man. I got married right out of high school, when I was in the army. In fact, I just got out, and I just finished my first semester of college! My husband also has no  college education (as of one more week). We are both young, weve been thru a lot together and grown a lot together. It was freakin HARD. But we are happy, and we have learned to compromise and work together. We are very happy, I am very happy. I didnt really expect marriage to be a certain way, I dont think anyone can fully prepare for what it might be like. We did not have kids and dont plan on it.  

Answer 8

My marriage may have saved my life.  I used to be a huge alcoholic.  When I got married she kept me from drinking myself to death.  Because of her, I'm here today to say that beotch went through my money so fast with her crack habit I couldn't afford to get drunk.

Thank goodness she was last seen climbing into a Kenworth at the truck stop.  Now I can get back to drinking.

Answer 9

Ive been married for ten years now and there have been a ton of ups and downs. We have five girls together, two are his and three are mine so that has been a major issue especially with his X trying to make him choose between me and his kids. But i wouldn't trade him or them for the world. I love them all. With everything we have been through i would never want to start over. He knows me better than i know myself sometimes and he loves me anyways. What more could you ask for?

Answer 10

we have been married 42 years, she is my best friend. Together we supported each other, and have dealt with my service in Vietnam, and the ongoing health problems, celebrations, deaths, and other tragedies.

Answer 11

I have been married for 2 years together 10 years and he gets on my d**n nerves but i love him and still want to be with him. as long as he is in the other room .LOL. we are still attracted to each other and we have s*x like at least 6 times a month still. i do have regrets sometimes but, i only believe in divorce if adultry has been commited. no i would not like to have a new mate

Answer 12

I've been married 19 years.  We got married later in life than some, I was 30, divorced once and he was 35, divorced once.  No kids from those marriages...less complications.  

My husband has a masters degree, doesn't make a ton of money but I knew that going in.  He was very supportive in my finishing college, which took me YEARS since I worked and had two children with him after we got married.  I am lucky to have a very loving, supportive husband and he is lucky to have a hard-working, take-charge wife (he loves it, lets me know all the time).

Yes, s*x has really plummeted in the last three or four years, but I think that's normal.  I have to try harder to be "interested" since he always is.  Trust me, I don't need it, but he does so I have to be fair. I have some female issues so it isn't the first thing on my to-do list.

He loves me, I love him.  We don't have big fights, only once a year for an hour or two maybe, but we can bicker on occasion.  Interestingly enough, the biggest fights we ever had were over his teaming up against me with our teenage daughter, more or less undermining me.  It was ugly a couple of times, but I think the last time we really argued badly was well over a year ago.  I think he's got the point...you don't undermine your mate in front of your children. We enjoy each other's company, he loves hanging around me and he says so.

We are good friends, we trust each other, love our family life, have many of the same ambitions and interests.  We are church-going, not real strict, but it's a part of our life and culture as I tell our teenagers; I think it helps us remember that we are not the center of the universe.

I would definitely do it again with him.  He will be 55 tomorrow and I am 49.  I see what other people have and I am NEVER envious.  I will hopefully be with him until the end. It's been worth every minute.

FYI: I come from a very stable family, my parents have been married 52 years.  His parents fought, physically and verbally and drank a lot,cheated, and divorced after 38 ugly years.  It was a horribly sad upbringing for him.  Just thought I would mention the differences in our families (his parents died in their 60s) He loves my parents and siblings and I love his sister's and their families.  We're all getting together for his birthday tomorrow.  Maybe I'm just really lucky.

Answer 13

I'm divorced, big mistake the first time!!! not getting into the details lets just say it was bad....but we have a 5 year old together and my ex is still the biggest pain!!!

Now I am with my fiance and he is AWESOME, I laid everything out on the table the first date, told him what I wanted and my expectations and he has done nothing but made every moment great!!!

everything works out for a reason!!!

Answer 14

I'd choose YOU!!  Oh, wait a minute, what was your name again?  It dosen't matter....you still win!

Answer 15

met my hubby 13 years ago. did not date. i went through a lot of c**p and gave up on men. i was done... for 3 years.... well he started coming to where i lived for other reasons... one thing lead to another and we moved in together. We really got along great and had "tiffs" but really no fights.  sexually compatible. everything. (i never buy a car with out test driving it) but since i was little i never wanted to get married. Never. my mom was married like 5 times i think as i was growing up. all to violent men. i never wanted to be trapped.. we i got pregnant which was fine with me, it was not really planned but i stopped taking  birth control, he know it and we et it just happen. when ifoundout he asked me to marry him.

I was not sure. i was really scared to get married. we did it. i was so nnervous my wedding day was the most nnervousday of my life, i was worried and not sure and just stressing.... well we have been married 4 years now. not much has change. we love eeach othermore then ever. we accept that nneitherof us are perfect and it is the most wonderful thing in my entire life. i would never turn back. i was not looking but ttruelove found me and i would nnotwant to ever be without him.  

Answer 16

Do I regret my husband...no because without him I would lack the most precious child in the world.  But, marriage is hard and some days it's a toss up.  

I had high expectations for marriage.  I thought it was supposed to be fairy tales and the last 15 minutes of a girlie movie...I was wrong.

Answer 17

my marriage is not what i expected.  i thought i was getting a partner to share my life with that respected me, my kids, my dreams.  oh well.  he's telling me again that it will be better.  hopefully it will be this time.

Answer 18

If i could go back i would never have married my husband at all ! As for having my children i wouldnt trade them for a minute, but i would have waited longer to have them. As far as schooling i would have a career ahead of time so that i wouldnt be in the situation that i am in now and that is to not have money of my own to leave without having to worry about money to suppurt myself and my children. But my case is a hard one as my spouse is a louse and awful person i dont think he should have married anyone because he is to selfish and self centered