For married women-be honest?

Question

Do you ever wonder if getting married was a big mistake? What would you rather be doing? Do you ever wonder if your husband is really your soul mate?Am I the only one who wonders about these things and dreams of other places and things I'd like to be doing?

Answer 1

**** what planet are you from? suck it up, do you think the majority of married people are in complete marital bliss? If you're not happy, don't whine about it, get out or make it work!!

Answer 2

and you're so right. it's totally normal to have those feelings about marriage, that's why i think people should wait a minimum of six years before they tie the knot.

Answer 3

i know he is my soul mate and no I dont think like that. I cant think of anything that I could be doing that would be better than what I am doing.

I didnt give up my dreams when I got married now there is another person to complete them with me :)

Answer 4

sometimes i wonder, i know my husband is my soulmate, but he has 2 kids by another chick and that kinda hurts sometimes and makes me wish i had married someone without kids, but i love my husband more than life itself. so yeah i wonder what it would be like, but 98% of the time im happy with the decision i made.

Answer 5

I think about the same things. Sometimes I even experience a little bit of regret. The important thing is if that feeling goes away at the end of the day and you realize that you have more to be happy about than regretful.Every relationship has problems the thing that counts is if they are worth working through...

Answer 6

Hey.... I noticed you also posted about biggest regrets and suicide.  Normally I don't care too much for that stuff but you seem to be upset about something.  I don't know specifics about your relationship but you always need to follow your heart. You cannot expect a lasting relationship if you cannot give your entire heart to someone. And you cannot give your heart to one person, when it still belongs to someone else. Maybe a former love of yours still holds your heart, even if they don't know it. Work out your old engagements (not referring to engagement in the marriage sense) before you continue with your (current?) marriage. Otherwise it will always be a thorn in your heart, and I know how bad it feels to live with the regret that maybe you let a relationship slip through your fingers that was still salvagable.

Answer 7

No not at all...

it sounds like things in yoru marriage need a little face lif though

All  marriages have slumps once in a while but dont be like everyone else and go out and find someone else.

Stick to it. I beilve the snydrome is called "The grass is always greener on the otherside" :)

If you love your husband and he doesnt beat you or cheat on you  you have a good thing  that you can build on...

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Answer 8

Honestly, yeah I do wonder that now and then.  Sometimes I stay up all night wondering about it and worrying.

Answer 9

I think that's part of human nature to always wonder what your life would have been, had you chosen a different path.  I think about that sometimes, but then when I really think about him, I am so thankful for what I have and I couldn't really imagine living without him. =)

Answer 10

Yes.... you are not alone. I have often wondered that myself. Soul mate...no, it doesn't feel that way. Of course I dream of other places and things. Being a Pisces, I am the Biggest Daydreamer in the world, and right now I'd love to be in a nice cozy beach house, financially stable, and free to do whatever I wish.  

Answer 11

Nah, I love my man. We do it all the time.  

Answer 12

I love my man more then anything. Truthfully I do wonder about the single life at time, but I don't miss it. My life has done a complete 180 and I'm so happy. I mean it is a little different without the constant clubbing and flirting and wild nights out. But it is a good type of different and I wouldn't change it for anything.

Answer 13

the honest truth is that my experience no...im glad i married my husband and never think about if i was single again. but don't fell bad i have heard from lot of friends they fill the same its not a bad thing...i hear lot of crazy stories its just maybe you got married kinda of young maybe in your no later than 23 and didn't get to have a good time. but don't worry your not the only one that thinks that there are lot of women out there that think that....i hope i helped you out if not well i wish you the best :-)

Answer 14

I dream of being with another man.

I can't say it was a mistake, cause then I wouldn't be who I am, and wouldn't have my children. So it is what it is.  

Answer 15

I think near the beginning it's rather normal to have those kinds of feelings.  Marriage is NOT easy and there are often rocky patches where you can easily feel that way.    That being said, Marriage and Love are things that need to be worked at.  It takes a lot of effort.  If you want more out of your marriage you have to put more into it.

Been married 21 years and all those doubts are long gone.  I LOVE my husband more now then ever.

Answer 16

no.  I knew him for 10 years before we married.  I travelled the world on my own, had a degree, had immense freedom.  I did everything I wanted to then I married a man who has the same interests as me.  Together we've travelled to places most people never even think to dream of.  

Now we're parents and more settled in our lifestyle.  This is a fun adventure, too.

We have difficult times.  Sometimes it would be easier to be free, but I think that because we've already had freedom we can now live without it.

We were also really wealthy for a while while living overseas.  That was fun. We had a maid, ate at the fanciest restaurants in the country, lived it up. Now we're struggling like everyone else, but we got that out of our systems so we don't want what we haven't got.  Um, a maid would be nice.

Talk to him about your dreams and see if you can interest him in them. If not and you don't yet have kids, then maybe you should separate so you can see the world before your marriage ends in resentment. IF you have kids, though, you have to realize that it would be selfish to end your family for this.  You took vows.  There is no greater promise and who would you be if your word is no good?

Find ways to establish your own identity by learning something new and rocking at it.

Good luck.

Answer 17

Wondering about things is always normal.

In marriage- what matters is whether or not you're happy. How do you see yourself in your marriage? Do you feel confident in yourself or do you feel like everything is completely out of your control?

My point is- love should always bring you up. Make us better people. Give us the strength and courage to do the things we'd like to do. That's much different from a relationship that constantly drags you down.

So if you're only wondering about things. I think you're absolutely fine.

Answer 18

When I was married I always wondered that...especially when he pissed me off LOL/

Answer 19

Every marriage goes through doubting moments (hours,days,weeks )and sometimes when we are REALLY out of sorts and not willing to fix a problem ~M O N T H S will go by while we are gloomy and NOT making any efforts in the marriage.    

The MORE devoted you are to your husband.... the MORE he trusts giving YOU his whole heart.  THEN dear LADY , YOU are really married to your soul mate.

Too many  young wives think a bit selfishly.,,,, treating their men like siblings.  As in "he got more than me" , "how come he gets to do that and I caaaaan't" and on and on... don't keep track of who get/gives more.  JUST LOVE HIM and spoill him , so that YOU will BE satisfied BY him when he DOES show his "real self" .

Answer 20

yep but i always find myself with him in the end

Answer 21

Not really! We've had our ups and downs, but have managed to work them out. I think if you are unhappy, you should get out of the relationship. You owe it to your husband and yourself to move on.