For or Against hitting your kids as a way to discipline?

Question

Provide your reasoning as well..Thanks

Just looking for opinions here

Answer 1

i'm for it. not abusing them but spanking works. i was spanked and turned out great

Answer 2

For. I think there are times when it definitaly works. I don't beat my kids, but they know who the boss is.

For people who say it's abusive, I was spanked, and I perfectly normal (as normal as they come)

Answer 3

Against.  I was spanked as a child and I don't believe it teaches true discipline, just fear.  Besides, what do you do when just a simple non abusive spanking no longer works?  Punch?  Kick?

Answer 4

There is a good way and a bad way of spanking

Bad way:

- Doing it as the first line of discipline. (hitting for small reasons)

-spanking with out giving a reason

-spanking out of anger

-spanking on bare skin with or without an object

-hitting on the face, throwing them against the wall

-choking them etc  (clearly these are signs of abuse)

Good way:

- the last resort to discipline (if you are consistent in your disciplinary tactics the kids will know that you mean business and spanking hardly happens)

-spanking only on the fleshiest part of the body, the buttocks

-Giving a reason why you are spanking (so they know what they did wrong)

-spanking when you are calm and not balistic

-afterwards, letting the child have a moment to his or herself then talk about why their behavior is not acceptable, and hug  (to reassure that the spanking does not mean you don't love them but the spanking is a form of controlling the rebellious attitude)

The Bible says:

Spare the rod spoil the child.

Spanking is not a sin, unless done improperly

Answer 5

I'd rather not have my child be afraid of me. I expect them not to hit me, so why would I hit them? I expect to treat my child with the same respect that I want back from them.

Answer 6

I'm for a parents right to use a open handed spanking on the bottom, as punishment when they feel it needs to happen (last resort). When spanking was used in the majority of homes, we simply didn't see the issues kids have today. I wonder why? Spanking works, but you'll never read that in a book. I'm a results biased parent, I do what works!

Answer 7

Against. It creates a double standard when you punish them for hitting or fighting by spanking them. It's disrespectful and demeaning. Besides it creates a situation where other people like daycare, aunties and grandparents unwilling or unable to spank have an impossible time getting the rugrat to behave. I had to kick a kid out of my daycare because he refused to go by my rules. Since his dad spanked him at home and he knew he could do whatever he wanted at my house and not get a spanking it ended up shooting the parents in the foot. Now they've had him in and out of several daycares because he's a little snot for everyone but his dad.

Answer 8

For it, as long as it's only on the butt and not a beating that does damage!

Answer 9

Against. I think besides a small spanking, a parent should never violently lay a hand on their children. A beating never resolves anything but causes more pain and hatred for the child against the parents.  

Answer 10

i'm for it! you dont have to beat them to the point where it scars them for life but spanking a child definetily shows them that what they are doing or did was wrong. saying "don't do that again!!" to a child really doesn't work! It makes them want to do it more! by spanking them it shows them that your serious about what you're saying and that you're in charge and what you say goes...and yes they will be upset with you but as a parent you have to realize that your kids wont like everything you do! Get used to it. I was spanked and i'm living and jus as healthy as anybody. Now im not saying spank them for everything they do wrong because not everything they do will a spanking be needed but in some cases don't be afraid to spank their little butt!

Answer 11

I am against spanking.  I don't see how it teaches children right from wrong.  All it teaches them is that hitting solves problems...but it really doesn't.  

I am for, however, teaching children about the real world.  I am for expecting children to be respectful to adults, and teaching them responsibility.  

I was a preschool teacher for 5 years and spanking was not an option.  I had to actually teach children a lesson and make them think about what they did.  I think spanking is too easy and parents who spank are lazy.  It's easy to spank, but it takes much more work to actually sit down with your child and talk about the problem.  If they're too young to talk to, then they definitely should not be spanked!  

I feel sorry for children who get spanked.  

Answer 12

I'm for it. I was raised in the south, and down her, you go out and find your own switch.

Okay...not seriously...but still. It's normal to spank your kids down here.

And yes, I will raised my own daughter the same way. It works.

Answer 13

Against, i would rather find non-violent ways of handling my children instead of teaching them to hit other people when they are angry with them or to overpower them.  I would rather my kids respect me than for them to fear me.  I do timeouts, groundings and take away privileges and also do a positive reward system and it works with my boys just fine.  When i was spanking them they were turning violent, now that we are doing other non-violent ways they mind better, respect me better and they rarely ever go to hit anyone, they are doing much better.  

Answer 14

Very much against it.

Children can be disciplined effectively without resorting to violence.

Also, how can you teach a child to not be physical with other children if you're physical with them? If they see another child misbehaving, how are they to know not to punish them themselves? It gives a very mixed message.

My mum brought up 5 children without hitting one of us. Not one of us did the typical teenage rebellion thing, and we're all university educated professionals now.

Answer 15

I am very much against hitting a child, but much in favor of spanking, that is, smacks on the bottom. Spanking is a quick way of teaching a child that he or she has done wrong, especially when the spanking is accompanied by verbal explanation (as it should be). I received my fair share of spankings when I was a girl, and they did not do me any harm, quite the contrary!

Answer 16

Against but i do snap sometimes but i use supernannys method of the naughty corner works a treat for my very active son

Answer 17

against because hitting is just a way to make the parent feel better and it shows kids that violence is okay to use to get what you want. I think if you show your kids how to act through example, by showing them respect they will show you respect. I think the best way to resolve matters are to sit them down and sternly talk to them and get down to their level and look at them in the face, tell them why what they are doing is wrong and then if necessary put them in time out or take away privileges

Answer 18

Depends.  Does the parent that does the spanking calm him/herself down before hand? Do the children respond in a pos. way?

Answer 19

For it because most kids you cant just scold.