For other parents, am I strange?

Question

This morning my 6 year old daughter left for a four day trip with my mother. See said that she was giving me a break, however I really did not need or want one, but my mom really wanted to take her. My coworkers said that I should be SO happy and enjoy my time off from her.

It is hard though, I mean I actually LOVE to be with my daughter. I may take an afternoon, evening or a night off but I am not used to much more. Plus I start back to college in less than to weeks and I know the time we spend to together is going to be slashed greatly.

So I guess is it strange of me to miss her so much? I know it is only four days, but it makes me no less sad. And yes I have a boyfriend, but he works a lot so I probably wont see him til Saturday. What can I do with all this free time? I am not sleepy or tired or stressed....I just miss my kid.

Answer 1

I'm the same way dont feel bad. It is very hard for me to enjoy the time away from my kids like everyone tells me too. I miss them way to much.

Answer 2

It's natural to miss your child when they are away. But don't let if keep you from doing thing on your to do list. That's if you have one. Good luck

Answer 3

It's not strange. When my kids started spending every other week with their dad at first I liked the alone time, but after a while I really started to miss them.

It's natural to miss them, but I recommend enjoying the days you have to yourself.

Answer 4

Aw, I understand. I would miss my child too if he was gone for four days.  Try to schedule some fun adult things with friends.  Treat yourself to a girls night out, a pedicure, a long jog, or anything else that you normally wouldn't do.  Keep busy and the 4 days will be over before you know it.

Answer 5

You are not strange at all.  

I have 4 munchkins that drive me absolutely CRAZY!  But...when they are not with me, I don't know  what to do with myself!  I get so lonely and I miss them terribly!  My husband and I have  gone on a couple vacations without the kids, and I am always the mom on the phone talking to them.  I spent hours in Mexico crying when my son, then 4 years old, was at home in Wisconsin with my parents!  It's just a mom thing...

I  think it's great that you have a great relationship with your daughter.

Best of  luck!  Chin up!  :)

Answer 6

That isn't strange at all. When I leave my 23 month old daughter for and hour or so I miss her. I keep calling my sister and she cusses me out. Tell me to leave them alone. I miss her when she is at daycare for 7-8 hours. And 4 days in my book that's unheard of. So I feel ya pain!

Answer 7

I am the same way! I let my son spend the night at my parents house (they live 20 minutes away) and litterally when I got home I felt so paniced and I cried the whole night! I could not sleep at all...I wanted him to spend the night so that he could hang out with them and with my younger brother but at the same time I was so freaked out about him being away from me...

Answer 8

I understand how you feel. My MIL took my daughter for three days and I was so upset. Everyone said I was crazy to feel that way. I love being with my daughter and I didn't need a break and like you, I didn't want one.

I guess it's because some people are so quick to get rid of their kids that it's strange to see a person that really likes and wants them around.  

Answer 9

Have a girl's night out, go see a movie, umm sorry not alot of ideas atm, but just wanted to say, no it is not strange at all, most mum's miss their kids if they go away for any period of time,

Heck you I'm shocking at staying away from my girls for 1 night, So yeah if your strange I'm a complete nutjob then lol. Nah it's perfectly normal, just shows you are a good mum and truly love your daughter. it's a good thing, and great for them to have this time away too, to get you through the time, just imagine her lil face when she comes back and squeals "MUM!" whilst rattling off everything she did with her grandmother.

Go and get a pedicure or manicure, have your hair done, do something that is hard to do with a child around that you wouldn't normally do. pamper yourself. Every mum deserves a treat. so enjoy it.

Answer 10

Aww how cute. It is perfectly natural for you to miss your kids. Take advantage of the you time that you do have though...go and get what you need done like your nails or hair or get started on reading a text book for school, clean your house top to bottom, go out with friends and just feel free for a little bit. Go through her clothes and toys....Im sure there are things in there sh ecant wear or dont play with anymore, and she wont miss them cause she is gone and more than likely wont remember what she had. Watch tv and binge...who cares its your time now. She will be fine with your mom having fun. She will be back before you know it and pick up where you left off, it will just make you guys miss eachother and for her to miss you and be a good girl for you. Call her on a cell phone or buy her a little gift for her homecoming.

Answer 11

are you serious why would you think thats make you strange.  

Answer 12

No I don't think it's strange at all to miss your daughter. Please when I want a break and my mom takes my kids for a couple of hours i call to check up on them and to find out when their coming home. But what you can so is go see a grown-up movie byself or with a girlfriend, go out to a club or just relax and watch tv. Read a book that you know you couldn't read without interruptions. Think of something in your home that you wanted to updated an make yourself a home project. Don't think of it as time away from your daughter but her being able to bond with her grandmother. You never know your mother might be taking her because she needs company.