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Question

I have to vent. To night I reported to the police of a possible abuse case of a mother and her teen son. Ok I know it's abuse she screams in rage and says bad words she sounds like what they say trucks talk like. You can hear her hitting himand he even says stop don't hit me. So I can't see it but I hear it. It's always over stupid stuff they kid seems to be really good but lazy. He is hardely ever seen. Ok so I reported it after thinking about it for some time. Why you may ask I took some time well I was abused as a child and an adult and no one did anything but one day my neighbor did and the Police did nothing and said their was not enough evidence. I guess you have to be killed before they do anything this is why I did not want to call I was scared to be disappoint and fail this child. But I called and that's what happened the Police came over asked what happened and the mom said he said a bad word so she slapped him. So she lied. They left. The police said they were not going to do anything because she is a single mother trying to raise a boy. What ever one thing is to disaplin a child the other is abuse. I am so upset that the did not put her in her place. Well their is allways tomarrow and she will do it again. I just want to have faith in Police but they seem to keep failing. They should protect everyone. What do think Thanks

Answer 1

Trucks can talk?

Answer 2

i think that some times it Like  having no cops at all .we have laws against things like beating ur child till you cause their brains to fall out .but i don't think the cops know about that because you hear about it all over the news about people beating their kids and killing them when they where already reported a million times .at least you are a good person willing to help

Answer 3

yeah but sometimes they don't do anything because they don't want to do anything

Answer 4

I Agree with you. My step-son is constantly physically and emotionally abused by his mother. He spends 3 nights a fortnight at her house, and he comes home with bruises all over him and like a zombie because he has done nothing but cry for 3 days straight. My husband got sick of it and called child services. Because his mother denies everything and claims that she is nothing but a "loving, nurturing parent", she gets away with it. I asked them if he has to be beaten to bloody pulp in a ditch somewhere for them to help him, and they just said to stop wasting their time. I am disgusted, as I'm sure you are, that the system that is set up to protect us and our children fails us time and time again! Good luck in your fight. I hope everything works out for that little boy

Answer 5

Unfortunately there is no way for the police to know this is an ongoing situation.  For all they know this is a one time isolated incident.  The same thing happens with spousal abuse.  The only thing you can do is keep detailed records and/or a diary of everything you hear and are witness to.  Call the police whenever you feel it is absolutely necessary but not when she's just screaming in a rage.  As atrocious as that behavior is, it isn't criminal and the police can't arrest her.  But if you KNOW she is beating her kid, then by all means call the police when it happens and document it.  Then when you think you have enough evidence, call CPS (or whatever the local equivalent is) but if you really believe this kid is in danger then don't let this one negative outcome discourage you from trying to help.

Also my dad had a horrible termper issue.  There was lots of screaming (daily) and occasionally we were hit.  We were never beaten...I don't consider getting rapped on the head or leg once or twice a beating.  He never struck us in the face, or tossed us around.  I was never even bruised.  He would just get enraged a little too easy.  However my dad loved us very, very much.  There were jokes and laughter in our house.  He remembered every holiday with cards and silly gifts (Valentines, St. patricks day, etc).  He went to basketball games and choir performances when he had time off.  He did the best he could having been horribly abused himself while growing up.  

I feel for this kid too.  I definitely remember what it was like...but now I'm a parent too so I can see both perspectives much more clearly.  This mother might just need counseling to help her learn to handle her frustration without resorting to violence.  As a single mother she's under a crazy amount of stress and what she and her son really need is for someone to actually teach her the right way to act.  Good luck with all this!

Answer 6

keep calling soon there will be proof an you will feel better when she does get caught. Hopefully a better cop will come next time

Answer 7

when i was 16 my mother and i got in a huge fight and she was hitting me and i hit her to get her off me and i almost went to juvie for "parental abuse" because my mom lied and said she didnt touch me. i dont trust the police at all

Answer 8

Even though nothing was done about it this time, you did the right thing.  The incident will be documented and used in future if another call to the police is made.  If enough of these incidents are reported they WILL take action against her.  You could always call child welfare services if you are really concerned.  They will then make unexpected visits to catch her at the abuse.  They will also take photos of all the marks and bruises on the child and these can be used as evidence in court.  Just make sure you ask to be anonymous when you make the call.  You don't want any of her crazy friends trying to come after you for making the call.

Answer 9

That happend here were I live with a little bit younger child the police also didnt do anything two weeks later the child was dead.

Answer 10

I think that you did the right thing by reporting it to the police.  It is just sad that they didn't do anything about it.  I hope that the next time that the police is called on this abusive mother it won't be too late.

Answer 11

call family services

Answer 12

i think that youve had bad experience with the police, but think of it this way, wheres there proof? they dont know she lied. for all they know, you lied. get proof, pictures, audio, video. (dont know if its legal or not). but most likely it is just a single mother discipling her kid. maybe she spanks them. nothing wrong with that. i dont spank my kids, but i used to. there just older now. but there is nothing wrong with a good spanking if the kid deserves.

or you could give mind or own business. dont worry about it. youll get yourself sick just worrying about it, i know.