For some reason I'm so paranoid...?

Question

that my friends are talking about me behind my back or don't like me anymore. One of my friends texted my other friend and it said that I say that I will do something but end up not doing it because I give up last minute or something like that and she's never told it to me like to my face. I freak out when someone's talking about me to someone else through text or some other form of communication and I shouldn't know about it. And one of my friends that I'm doing summer work with hasn't texted me back yet and I'm just so paranoid she's out to make me get an F and get an A herself because she has other friends in that class to give her answers. Am I crazy or is it normal to feel this way? I feel like being paranoid is giving me unnecessary stress but I'm not sure if it's normal to feel this way or not.

Answer 1

yeah, you're freaking out a little here. Obsessing on what other people think is not unusual, but it's really in the end a waste of energy.

and something about text messages, and basing ANYthing on them, is it's real easy to misinterpret what people are saying. or to not know when they left their phone in the car. or they're joking but you can't tell, or...

etc etc

so try to cool out a bit. if the obsessive thing persists, talk to a doc or counselor.

Answer 2

I think everyone feels this way from time to time in their lives.  Especially if you are young and there is a lot of pressure to fit in.

I also think that everyone talks about everyone!  Look at the news and the celebrity hype.  It's just life.  Sit down and think about whether or not you have had any discussions about anyone that you didn't share with the person you were talking about.  Maybe you were saying something about your mom or your sibling or a friend.  To you it was probably not that big of a deal just an observation or oppinion but to the person you were talking about they may feel the same way you are feeling if they knew.   Everyone is so connected in so many ways we are all feeling and thinking about someone all the time including thinking about ourselves.  Try helping others less fortunate than yourself and you may stop worrying about what people think of you and just feel good about yourself inside.

Good Luck and remember it's just growing pains!  Most of us have felt the same way.