For the ladies, does it bother you if you man has female best friends?

Question

My fiance's best friend is coming to town. He was talking to his boss about it and she asked him if I was okay with it. He said yes, shes my bestfriend. If it was something more then that, then she would be mad about it. So that got me thinking...do most females think its wrong for their man to go visit his bestfriend?

I only know of the girl who is coming down to visit as his bestfriend. I dont have a problem with it, I personally would only be bothered by it if his bestfriend was someone he hooked up with. Just the principal of it, feel me? Not that I think they would do anything thats jsut akward to have your girl and the girl you were with before. Whats your take on it??

Answer 1

to be frank and honest, ur mind s running on any relationship, until now? well, admit that, and those who say that its not that is a liar...

only you could find out of that...all u have to do is to observe and try to find some clue...

if it is pure friendship from childhood, fine, but if it is more than that, he should be honest w/u... talk to him how u feel, and allow him the benefit of the doubt..transparency is what u ask, so whatever he would say, accept and stop bothering urself, but if ur fear is true, then ask him about his present(that is u,) and what he wants to do w/u, be ready for any undesirable answer and then right there and there decide,

because ur heart and mind will not settle anymore... goodnyt

Answer 2

Well, for me, it depends on how his 'female best friends' act. If they were hanging all over him and/or flirting with him, then I would be pretty upset. But if they were just average best friends, I would be just fine with it.

Answer 3

If my significant other had a best friend who was a girl, i'd always have some suspicion that there is more than simple friendship going on.  

Answer 4

It bothers me like h**l. My guy had his bestfriend come over who was also his ex. She stayed with us that night in our flat because she lived far away. He did everything to assure me that nothing was going on he even slept on the couch and she was in the bed next to mine. Turned out that she had tried it on with him a few times everytime i went out the room. Next day he drove back to hers and came back 7 hours late. The car convieniently broke down so he went to her mums!! On top of all that she was an ex prostitute and now an escort/lapdancer. He still expects me to believe nothing happened. Ha ye right. Now it's me or her so he's never seen her since.

Answer 5

That is really difficult. If she was there before you then there is nothing you can do about it. If you are really confident, then it should not pose a problem. I personally would have major problems as I am very jealous by nature. I would hate it.

Answer 6

JUST  REMEMBER BEST FRIENDS MAKE GOOD WIVES N LOVERS,,IM SORRY BUT I WOULD B LIKE AS LONG AS I AM INVITED TO GO WITH YOU THEN I AM FINE N I F THEY DONT WANT YOU TO COME ALONG I WOULD B VERY AFRAID,,,PEACE

Answer 7

friends are cool !!

exes are not good !

but im sure its just his bestfriend and you will both have fun sharing the bed (lol sorry couldnt resist) sharing fun stories with each other !!! xx

Answer 8

my boyfriends best friend is a girl, and it doesn't really bother me. they have been best friends since before we were together so what right do i have to say he has to ditch his friends. i trust him :)

Answer 9

it depends... personally i am a very jealous person so yes it would bother me...

but if you don't get jealous too easily than it probably wouldn't be a problem... i personally have always been a very jealous person

Answer 10

You know a few years ago I would answer this question with a definite, yes that it is ok to for a husband or boyfriend to have a bestfriend of the opposit s*x. Today, being married, my answer is no. Because you should be each other's bestfriend, and seriously, if you say it would not bother you for your man to be out with a woman that was not his blood relative you would be lieing.

Answer 11

yeah that is weird.  once married your wife becomes your bestfriend.  before that? it does not really matter.  But once vows are said I expect him to drop her as best friend status to just occasional friends.

switch it up on him ask him how he feels about you having a best male friend. I bet he would not feel so happy about it.  

Answer 12

Honestly it would annoy the tar out of me. Lol

Answer 13

It's really a matter of personality... I, personally, would probably be a little put off by it. It's just a natural tendency for me to get jealous over things like that.

Answer 14

well i just think that i have 2 best friends that are guys that i grew up with, so i dont feel bothered if my fiance has a girl bf. He has one that he grew up with and i dont mind.

its basically if you trust your man or not. i trust mine a whole bunch and i know that if he does anything wrong i will know before hes even done doing the bad deed. haha

Answer 15

I get very upset about my husband having female friends because he has in the past hidden their numbers from me, hidden to talk on the phone with them, and lied to me about stopping when I told him I didn't want him to anymore. He then tells me that he does these things because he knows that I would get mad if I knew and I tell him if hes doing something he thinks is going to make me mad then that should tell him he shouldn't be doing it. I do however realize that not all men are like this. Women usually feel that a strong emotional bond with their husband is important and when he makes an emotional bond with another woman it causes the wife to feel as though her relationship with her husband is threatened.

Answer 16

I have a guy best friend and I don't think that his fiancee should be jealous. I ask for his opinion regarding my relationship on a point of view of a man and vice versa. We talk about our deepest secrets and problems. I even think that it's only to him i can talk about very private topics and so he is. We kiss and hug when we see each other. BUT we act and talk that no one would think or suspect that we are involved. I think that's important in order to maintain our friendship.

In your case, since you are his fiancee already, he should bring you in meeting his best friend.