For the parents out there, does the magic still happen?

Question

I've noticed that many parents seem to just "live" together, and the romance is gone, at least until retirement but I don't want to thin about that haha. So is the romance gone? Does the magic still happen?

Answer 1

You bet, after 19 years married - still as sparky as ever! It's pretty amazing, actually - and we totally still enjoy each other and the chemistry!  

Answer 2

DEFINITELY.

My husband and I have 5 kids (4 from my first marriage and a 2.5 year old together) and I am 28 weeks pregnant.

The romantic nights out don't happen often but we most definitely still have magic happen.

We hold hands when we go out (oh...) and have cuddles, tell each other we love them etc.

He is my best friend and I his. I can't imagine this ever changing like it did with my 1st husband.

Answer 3

Naah. Your not there behind closed doors so the romance may be there but not for all to see. My husband and I love each other very much and have been together for 12 years. Sometimes we both get very busy in everyday living but we always plan dates and things for us to do alone. Why not insist your parents go on a date? Or surprise them with a candle lit dinner?  

Answer 4

yes there is plenty of love going around. My husband are still very romantic with eachother. and yes the magic still happens. I know that sometimes with all the kids we have we get pulled away from it and we always realized it and tried to make up for lost time. The most love we can give goes to eachother AND our kids. I think what brought my husband and I closer together was the kids!  

Answer 5

I dont think my parents have had s*x since my last sibling was born and that was 10 years ago

Answer 6

Not as often as it used to but it does still happen. Its just a matter of the mood being right and the kids being away.

Answer 7

Yes, it does, as long as you both appreciate & continue to admire each other as you are now, in this parenting phase of your lives.  There is nothing more beautiful to me than watching my husband with the kids & nothing that brings us closer together, these days, than facing parenting & family challenges together.  

Answer 8

Yes it does. It took me a long time after my first child to care at all about romance or touching for that matter (first time parent syndrome). After 4 kids I realize now that the marriage has to be top priority or the kids will lose out. It takes work. I always say you aren't truely married until you have kids...that's the challenge of marriage, balancing kids and marriage.  

Answer 9

my husband and i were never very romantic ( my fault) but we do still do the odd things that we enjoy. we are both major geeks ( and proud of it lol)  so we play the old Nintendo lol. We are still have our "adult time" and go on dates and we are planning on do it more. but the romance does dwindle but that's becuase you know that your lives dont revolve one another any more instead they are around this amazing little being and your lives change. s*x isn't so important any more... watching her grow and laugh is much more important. now that our daughter is 19 months old we are going to start taking some time out for each other, at least once every two week to go on dates and just spend time together.  

Answer 10

My wife and I still love each other to pieces, but have found especially with teenagers and young adults that while you think you are going to have more time for each other, the opposite is the case.  We have one child who does a sport at a very high level which takes me away most weekends and that leaves my wife to cope with everything else.  When we do get the odd bit of time to ourselves we are both usually exhausted.  

So I can understand the lack of romance till retirement bit.  The will is there but the body just cannot keep up to demands of life at this stage.  I am quite sure the kids will eventually kill us.  The sad thing is we used to think it hard when they were little.  Little did we know!