For the younger dads..........?

Question

im not really that young.......22.....but young enough

from the moment my 2 boys were concieved i have done nothing but break my back to support my family and be there for my children..ive done it all and been there for them. ive done diapers...feedings....burpings...rocking them to sleep, patching up wounds, wrestling......playing......teething....... been there and been with them through it all.....and let me till you it aint easy but its worth it isnt it?

but my question is..............does it really irritate you when somebody acts surprised that your a great dad? being that your younger? its like well wtf im just doing my job.........i grew up without a father and knew i would never let another child go through that......

sources: proud father of a two year old and a 7 month old.

Answer 1

ok well i am not a young dad. i am actually a 12 year old girl. BUT i would get irritated. I would because it would feel like its so hard to believe that a young person has more brains and parenting skills than a toaster-oven. i am growing up without a dad. well, not reallt WITHOUT, but he is in california (not by choice) and i am in a different state. so i would be pretty d**n pissed if that happened to me.

Answer 2

I am a mom.  I am older than I look (26, but people still ask me what grade I'm in!)  I have a 4 year old girl and people that I just meet always seem to talk down to me.  The worst is when I have to take my daughter in to the doctor.  I asked one doctor a question about a rash and the doctor told me that should be the least of my concern.  My daughter has had 4 doctors already because of this treatment that my husband and I get from them(he is 2 years younger than me) We finally found a dr. that didn't talk down to us.  I don't understand why people just assume that since you look young you must be into partying all hours and not taking care of your child.  

I do get very tired of hearing random "advice" from people that see me as so young especially because I'm not.  and anyway age has no barring on how well a parent a person is.  I have seen wonderful teenage parents and terrible older parents and vice versa.

Answer 3

you sound like a fantastic dad! a woman's dream come true actually!!!

when i see a dad with his kids, say if i'm walking down the street it makes me smile!

and if someone is going to judge you just because of your age, thats a load of bull, people are so narrow minded! ur age doesnt define your capability to love, care and have responsibility for children.

good luck! and cherish those kids forever!

i can just see that at school they'll be the ones saying " i have the best dad in the world"

Answer 4

i think ur a star my bf had this problem we have 3 children and hes been my rock throe all 3 but people all way said he would leave me because we were both young but 12 years on were still as strong as ever

Answer 5

well not exactly a dad but i was a young teen mom and i get what you mean. i was always judges by my age but the funny thing is that i finshed high school finished college and now im married to a man 1 year older then me (hes 23) who has twin girls and im pregnant with our son sooo let me recap im a 22 year old mother of 4 whom both me and my hubby have jobs just got a home have cars pay our bills on time get the kids up and going for school soccer tee ball our kids ages are 5 and twins are 6 sooo we get loads of c**p when people see our lil family and think were ghetto but hahaha we just laugh cause we know what were doing me and my hubby have been friends since we were 12 sooo its just loads of fun!

Answer 6

You know. I think you're an amazing father and provider. Im not a man but my husband is 20 and he is a wonderful dad to my daughter.

I know where you come from because people see me(19) with my daughter(2) and they always ask me if she's mine first off and then when they realize i'm being serious they give me rude looks and everyone assumes when your young your irresponsible and incapable of caring for your child(ren).

So kudos to you..

Answer 7

I give you a lot of credit for stepping up to the plate so to speak and taking care of them the way you do! Your other half must be very happy to have you and those boys will always be thankful for that! My bf is 24 and has a 4 year old daughter and everyone at work looks at him weird when he says that he has her and has custody of her because the person that gave birth to her ran off last year! Just forget about the negativity and remember what your doing for your boys not for everyone else!!!!

Answer 8

Even tho my husband doesn't do ALL of those things..he does a lot with our 2 daughters (4 and 1) and plans to do the same with our third daughter thats on the way...he is tired of being assumed as a bad father because he is young(23 now) and just because he is a father. He was 18 when we had our first daughter and we could not get a break at all! Both of us were shot down just because we were young and planned our daughters. Een HIS OWN family looked down on him for that! I know he has made the comment to lots of people "Don't judge me by the look of me,judge me by how I take care of my family" He works 13 hour days and still finds energy to play with the girls when he gets home and before he goes to work and most weekends(since he has them off) he helps out as much as he can.

Answer 9

not a dad (a mom actually) but just wanted to give you some much needed credit for stepping up to the plate and taking care of your kids like a real father should. not many young dads do this anymore. there should be more guys like you out there!  

Answer 10

I am not a dad (or a mom for that matter) but I am around the same age as you and I know that if I was a mom, I would certainly be frustrated if people assumed I was a bad one. I think people tend to focus on all the single moms out there who bring up kids alone, with either no father figure or just as bad, a dead beat dad. Just don't let what people say bother you! You know you're a good dad, and that's what's important.