For those adopted and had their birth parents make..?

Question

first contact with you, how did you handle it and what emotions ran through you?Hope this question isn't offensive.Thank you.

Answer 1

sad, extremely sad

Answer 2

well scince i am adoted i could say it is kind of sad and happy all at one time. scine my parents were drug addicted and abused me i think of it this way God had a better plan for me .and if i think back on it if i had stayed eith my birth parents i would have propbably failed grades 5-8 and right now i havnt failed noe grade scince i started so it can be either way

Answer 3

My mom was searching for me and I found her on an online registry. It was the most amazing feeling, to know that someone cared enough about me to go to all the trouble of searching me out. I lived on cloud 9 for the better part of a week waiting for the registry to contact her (she had moved and her email was changed but the registry worker found her new one in less than 48 hours) then waiting for emails and phone numbers and finally waiting for her to make the 6 hour drive to meet me.

I moved in with her only 6 days after finding that registry posting. I lived with her for years after. It was amazing, simply amazing.

Answer 4

I WISH my bio family came looking for me.

I'm sure my adoptive parents would have been suspicious - sadly so many adoptive parents feel threatened by 'the other family' - but from what I've seen - the families that just embrace one another openly - have a much more 'together' adoptee in their lives.

Also - from what I've read of others - the one's that are 'found' - rather than the ones that 'search' - often are caught by surprise - and need time to adjust.

Adoptees - especially when young - also will feel torn between being 'loyal' to their adoptive family & wanting to know their bio fam - as that is what society tells them to do - whether or not that has also been told to him often by the adoptive parents.

It's a slippery slope.

I think all you can do is reach out - assure the family that you mean no harm - offer up info on yourselves - be honest - take things nice and slow - and hope for the best.

(if it all goes wrong - try to keep track of where they live - put names on all the registries - and try again when the adoptee is 18)

Every situation is different & has to be played out slow and easy.

I wish you all the very best.

Answer 5

im not adopted but my friend is she knows herself because her granmother told her but her family wont admit it she got grounded when she asked

shes actually quite happy about it because her familys like the opposite to her she cant wait to find her birth mother who used to be one of her moms friends

i think i'd be heart broken it depends on how well you like your family/life