For those already married...

Question

A couple of my friends got married recently. I was talking with them and both of them said that if they were to do it all over again they would have picked a different dress. They said that they liked the styles that were out this season much better.

So - does anyone else feel this way? What did your dress look like? If you could do it all over again would you pick a different dress (pictures)? Which one would you pick?

I personally loved my dress and wouldn't have worn anything else...I'm just curious to see whether or not a lot of people feel this way.

Answer 1

I absolutely loved my dress! It was a gown designed by Pronovias and had 3/4 inch lace sleeves - at first I thought it would be hard to find a gown with sleeves because of the popularity of the strapless gown, but I was so thrilled when I found it. It made me feel absolutely beautiful.

There are other dresses out there that I think are beautiful (Maggie Sottero designs stunning gowns)- but I know that wouldn't have looked as good on me; my dress was perfect for my personality.

This was my dress:

http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3221/2701...

My day was beautiful. Wouldn't have changed a thing. Everything worked out exactly the way it was supposed to.

Answer 2

I wouldn't have picked a different dress at all. I loved my dress and wish I could wear it again - haha. I avoided all the trendy styles because I didn't want to look back and regret it.

My dress was a maggie sottero if you know the typical style - full-ish skirt, strapless sweetheart, taffeta, crystals, beads, and lace, crisscross lacing up the open back, and nice movement in the skirt when dancing. It truly was the perfect dress and I couldn't imagine anything better. Aw, now I miss it. :-)

Answer 3

I agree I wouldn't have picked a different dress, or changed anything... maybe the groom J/K! But seriously, I don't look at it as what's in style now or last year when I got married because it's more of who you are in that moment when you are ready to take that step... not what's in magazines a year later.  

Answer 4

I absolutly LOVED my dress, but yes, I do wish I had chosen a different dress.  I have a very large bust and a much smaller body and I chose a strapless Maggie Sottero dress with the wrap around the waist and a corset back.  When I had my bridals done, everything looked perfect and amazing!!!!  But when I got my wedding pictures back, the only thing I could see were my b***s (and I heard comments from several of my ex-husbands friends about them being so obvious)! I hated the fact that it accentuated them so much.  With that being said, I did still love my dress, just wish it fit better I guess.  I was torn between two dresses and I feel that the other one really would have been a better fit for me.  :)

I am getting married again and I know what to look for this time.  I definitely won't make the same mistake twice! ;)  

Answer 5

The only thing I would have changed about my dress was adding straps to it. My fault for picking a strapless dress. But it was beautiful. I would not have changed the cut of the dress.

http://www.maggiesottero.com/dress.aspx?...

Answer 6

i would....my dress was really pretty and it made me look really tall but i sometimes wish i had decided to go with a big dress instead of an a-line. although i think if i tried on my dress now, i'd fall right back in love with it!

like someone already said, it's the marriage that matters...not the dress!

this isn;t my dress but was a similar shape (mine had a corset middle and lace up back): http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns...

this is the dress that i would pick NOW:

http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns...

Answer 7

I got married in a judge's office in jeans and a t-shirt.  I am still married to the same man 40 years and 5 kids later.

It is not the dress, it is the commitment ot MAKE it work even through the hard times.

Answer 8

I can totally understand thinking 'what if...' but to not like the acutal dress you chose?  That is sad!  I loved my dress - I still do - I want to wear it again actually and it has only been 5 months!

I guess there are always just too many options with dresses!  I always knew that I would DEFINATELY not get a strapless dress.  For one - they don't suit me - and for two - I have seen too many brides having problems hitching them up the whole day - and for three - I don't follow 'fad's and fashions'.  And I always knew that I would get a train and I would NOT have it bustled - much to the concern of the shop assistants and my mother!  (As a little girl I watched the Anne of Green Gables movies and thought it was so romantic how she held her train over her arm when she danced - so that's what I did!!!)

Anyway, I didn't have a specific style in mind but when I first started trying on gowns this was the style I first fell in love with...

http://www.jasminebridal.com/html/en/web...

Except the one I tried was even more intricate in design and had a HUGE cathedral train and all - would have been perfect for a catholic wedding!  (Pity I'm not catholic)

I tried on a few more dresses a few weeks later and found the mermaid style... it was gorgeous!  (This is the exact dress)

http://www.princessbride.com.au/bridal.p...

But then I went to one store which changed everything!  The lady in the shop had never met me before but knew exactly what would suit me.  She was so wonderful - but she brought out this really weird looking dress!  It wasn't ugly - but it wasn't normal.  I figured I would try it on just to humour her - and guess what - it was stunning!  It was definately at the top of our list!

http://www.wendymakin.com/popup.asp?cati...

I went back a week or so later to try on my top few and also check out one shop I had missed.  Well - that shop had my dream wedding dress in it - it looked stunning and was what I always thought I would wear...

http://www.tjformal.com/Products/171/754...

So it came down to whether I wanted to make a statement and be a bit different - or if I should be safe with something I know everyone would like!  Well - I figured if you can't make a statement at your own wedding, then when can you?  So I chose this one and I don't regret it for a moment (though I still wish I could buy the safer one as well!)

http://www.flickr.com/photos/25906286@N0...

Answer 9

I would not have changed a single thing. I looooooved my dress and am still in love with it. It made me feel regal, like a princess, and I wouldn't/couldn't imagine having worn anything else :)

Answer 10

I'm fine with the dress I picked. I don't really care that much, honestly.

Answer 11

I would pick another dress.. but of course I would say that because I work in a Bridal shop so I can't help but want something different than I had 10 years ago when I couldn't afford much.

With that said, I love my original wedding dress because it was the one I got married in and it was sweet and simple. Here is a pic..

http://i38.photobucket.com/albums/e144/f...

Here is a picture of the dress I picked to do a photo shoot for our 10th Anniversary.

http://i38.photobucket.com/albums/e144/f...

Answer 12

What an interesting question!

No, I would not have wanted a different gown at all! The one I chose totally suited me in both style and fit - never really had a 'dream' dress before I went shopping, but the one I got was THE one.

Now keep in mind we just celebrated our 19th anniversary two days ago (wow, that went fast!) - and the gown looks just as stylish as it did then - because it's a very traditional, classic style. I did not go with the trend of the day...

We had a summer wedding (always thought I'd have a winter wedding, though...), and this was NOT a summer gown! (But I perspired daintily...)

Long sleeves, scoop neck, basque waist, with full skirt and cathedral trail. White, heavy bridal satin with some embellishments of beading, pearls, lace applique. Sheesh, I have to get my son to help me scan a picture in sometime...

Answer 13

Yes, I would have picked a different dress.  The mistake I made was that I took my sisters and my mother shopping with me and they influenced my purchase.  They didn't do it on purpose, but after I bought it, I wished I could have gotten something else.  Don't get me wrong--the dress was beautiful, but it wasn't what I wanted.  Yes, I would pick a different dress and I might actually go shopping alone so I could actually listen to my conscience and not everyone else's sighs.  The one major thing I would have changed: I would have gotten a dress with a train.  My dress didn't have one.  I would also pick a different veil.

I do agree with the answers given by thisbrit and lilblondegal789.  It's not about "the dress"; it's about the commitment.  I have never understood why people thought they should find "the dress" (as if every piece of fabric is predestined for someone).

Answer 14

Maybe the dress would have been different, but the wedding was not about the dress, it was about the commitment we made for each other in front of friends and family.  Our wedding was cheap and fast and small but it was US.  And that is what matters most.

Answer 15

I wouldn't have chosen a different dress at all.

My dress had a pick-up skirt, which many are not a fan of.  I loved it though--it made my dress a bit different and more whimsical.  I felt like my dress suited my personality.

Answer 16

I would pick the same dress, but more importantly, I would pick the same groom!

Answer 17

When I first went dress shopping, I thought I knew EXACTLY what I wanted.  I wanted one of those mermaid simple, no patterned dresses.  But when I tried on the one I bought, I fell in love instantly and have never looked back.  I LOVE my dress. :-D

This is my dress in a magazine, but I am LDS (Mormon) so I had short sleeves added by the company.  I hope the link works.  It's the second one.

http://www.casablancabridal.com/Products...

http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cf...

Answer 18

The first time I got married was in 1980, I had a satin dress, I wanted a lace dress and could not afford one, now here is it all these years later and I am engaged and getting married again next year, I have a beautiful vintage lace gown from the 50's and it is exactly what I want, I am even going to the extreme to add more touches to it, I am hand sewing approximately 1,000 crystal beads around the hem of the gown along the neckline and down the seams of the dress, it is what I want, and yes it seems like a lot of work but I have the time to do it and this time I will be wearing the dress that I always dreamed of wearing.  

Answer 19

My fiance and I picked my dress from a bridal magazine.  We went to the store and I tried it on, along with many others.  I never liked any of the others as much as I liked mine.

I loved my dress, it was perfect for our wedding, and I wouldn't have picked any other one.

Some people don't like strapless or were shocked by the red. But my first wedding was all about what other people wanted, even the groom.  With my new husband, I wanted to shout my love for him.  Picking the dress I did was my way of doing this.

This was my dress... in white and claret.

http://www.alfredangelostores.com/Collec...

Answer 20

http://www.casablancabridal.com/Products...

thats mine, I would wear it again tomorrow If I could zip it, lol!  It was the 1st one I tried on and I was in love with it immediately!  When I was shopping, the girls would bring me dresses that had a very "fad-like" style to them, and I shot them down....especially ones with pin-up skirts.....I wanted something that was a little more classic, and that wouldn't look so outdated in 3 years....and I'm glad I did.  I felt amazing and wouldn't change a thing!

Answer 21

I just got married on May 31st. Honestly I would have picked a cheaper dress. Mine was beautiful and I loved it, but it's one day and it flew by and now it's over. I want to grab these soon-to-be-brides spending thousands of dollars on one day and tell them it's ONE DAY and it's not worth all that money. I actually had a stunning wedding for under $3000, and one of the biggest expenses was my $700+ gown (including alterations). Now it's hanging in a closet, and even if I tried to sell it I wouldn't get much out of it. What's the point? In the end you're married, so I'd make sure he's the right one and stop worrying if the DRESS is "the one".