For those of you who are great people and are adopting children?

Question

first of all i want to say you are a great person. i, myself am looking into adoption in the near future. there are so many kids out there who do not have the privilege of having a loving family to raise them the way they are supposed to be. you all will be able to make a hugs difference in the children(s) lives. adoption is a great thing and is one of the most important decisions that one will make. thanks again for your willingness to open up your hearts and home to kids who would otherwise have nothing.

Answer 1

I am going to adopt when I get older.

Answer 2

I fully agree people who adopted are awesome. Your changing a child's life for the better. After all who wants to grow up with out a loving family?

Answer 3

We actually adopted my nephew because his parents are bikey drug addicts. And let me tell you it's the best thing I ever did in my life he's so much fun to be around he likes all the things I do and actually gives me a challenge at video games. But we also find time during the day to do excercises and sports you know just to keep him fit. And he's real smart in peac plays afternoon sports and yer I've had a ball over the past few years taking care of him he's 10 now and you know what I just adore him. I'm even thinking about adopting more myself too funny that should that but good. Have a good day.

Answer 4

Thanks, but I didn't do it to be a great person...God had already given me two wonderful sons & I always wanted to add daughters to the mix.  They're huge blessings & I'm the one who is lucky to be raising them...not them lucky to be in my family.

We are also foster parents & absolutely love having the kids come into our home and just be in our family for however long.  We have a young lady in our home now who is 17 & is awesome!

Answer 5

I have to agree with what Joslin said.  I haven't adopted, I'm a foster parent, and while it's obviously always nice to hear a compliment, we don't do it because we're saints and trying to save the world, lol, but because it's how we choose to build our family.

It's a great feeling to be able to parent a child that needs it, be if for a week or forever, but first and foremost we do it because we chose it.  I think it's really important to remember that children NEVER have a say in who their parents are, be they biological, adoptive or foster parents.  We make the choice to have them, not the other way around.

Parenting is a privelige in my opinion, not a right, and so we are the lucky ones!

That said, thanks for such a nice thought from you, I wish you the best of luck with your future adoption experience and children.  Take care!

Answer 6

It is so nice to see some positive statements on this board.  However, I as most adoptive parents, do not feel like a rescuer.  My child rescued me!  If I did not have my son, I could have never experienced the joy of being a Mother!  It is just an alternate way for us to have a family.  And while I do hope that some day my child appreciates us, I would hope that any child - adoptive or biological - would appreciate his parents some day.  :)  

But I do thank you for bring the positive thoughts to this board.  :)

Answer 7

Is this a question, or a pat on your own back?

I personally don't think you should adopt with this attitude.  "Kids who would otherwise have nothing"????!!!!!

I was adopted myself.  My birth mother was forced to give me up for adoption by her parents because she was unmarried.  I could maybe have had my birth mother raise me if others hadn't meddled in the situation....that would have been a very big something to me!  

You type of people who think you are so noble and saintly for adopting children are megalomaniacs, and shouldn't be allowed to adopt.  What are you going to do when your adopted child is less than grateful for being "rescued".   Will you be able to handle it?

BTW, when did it become a "privilege" to have a loving family raise you?

Yeah, this question (if you can call it that) pissed me off, SO WHAT?!  Bring on the thumbs down!

Answer 8

Try fostering some children... if you want to make a difference in a child's life to someone who really needs it, then try that. Good luck! :)

Answer 9

I understand the positive sentiment in what you are saying!

However, I would like to add that adoption is simply another way to have a family.  And in order not to patronize the child we parent through adoption or foster care, we must not look upon adoption as a benevolent or philanthropic act.  That does not honor children.  And when I see some parents say they want to adopt a child in order to rescue them, I wonder how that child will feel growing up knowing he or she was thought of as a  charity case.  Sometimes, parents without realizing it, may adopt a child in need in order to be thought of as a rescuer.   Not a popular thing to talk about, but for children's sakes, it is necessary to talk about.

Answer 10

My Dad was adopted and it is wonderful that you would give a little smiler the chance to live. -Thank you sincerely,

Vivvian